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dkmortensen last won the day on May 23 2012

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About dkmortensen

  • Birthday 11/23/1981

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  • Briefly Describe your last sexual encounter:
    Great oral sex both partners leading to intercourse
  • My Favorite Toy
    Fleshlight
  • Location
    Wyoming
  • # of sex toys you own?
    Many
  • Marital status
    Married
  • What is your age & gender?
    male 38

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    Ice fishing, Fishing in general, Action films. My 3 kids
  • Gender
    Male

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  1. It can be super frustrating trying to explain how the female body works to a guy. I did not know anything about how the female body works, I just thought if she wasn’t wet enough for sex she just needed more lube. Thinking that the vagina worked the same way as my penis. Boy was I wrong. As are so many other men out there and it saddens me to see so many men that are frustrated but they compound the issue by sticking their head in the sand and say oh I know how a woman works. Then they say but she lets me know when she is ready, or they go long periods between sex. I had no idea that my wife was thinking about how many loads of laundry she needed to get done, or what to get at the grocery store for dinners the next week, or how she liked the last tv show she just watched. All while having sex. Then I couldn’t figure out why she was not engaged in sex. And she was always frustrated because all I wanted to talk about was sex to her, she felt like she could not be sexual enough for my needs. Too many relationships get entangled in this Bermuda Triangle. Some never make it out. So men if you are reading this I implore you to try to widen your horizons and do some research on speaking first to the female mind. There is a great book called Woman come First. And many podcasts out there to listen to. Be willing to come home and share in the work load of the house. Folding laundry, doing dishes, vacuuming, or vacuuming naked lol. This is just the start. Now you are starting to speak to her mind. Next ask her about her day and actively listen put away the distractions, Tv,cell,computer, and even kids. Now that my sound trivial to us guys but this is HUGE for a female. Why? Because if they are frustrated and have no way to vent their frustrations their is nothing you are going to be able to do in your bag of tricks to lure her into having sex that night. Now she may give in to having sex that night but she is in no way engaged or even turned on. She is just allowing you to use her as your masterbation toy so you can get off and she can continue on with the week. Ok, sorry for going off like that. Men take the time to speak to her mind. Take out all the variables. And most of all make sure she cums first with every sexual encounter. Now if she slips in the shower with you just to give you a BJ before heading out to work that is a bonus just gravy on the biscuit letting you know you are headed the right direction. Woman, please, please,please. Feel free to open up and discuss how your body works. What are your turn ons, what are your turn offs. My wife hates facial hair she says it’s like kissing a sheet of sand paper. Then when I do go down on her it rubs her thighs raw. Sorry got side tracked. Woman, please understand that us men who are in a marriage or committed relationship we are open to coaching. We would love to know how you work but you have to let us know. Now the conversation may go like this. Honey I know this may sound strange but I get really turned on when I see you doing ____. Or when you wear that shirt you never wear. Or when you sit down and actively listen to my concerns of the day. Don’t be afraid to say that these things are a bigger turn on than him standing in front of you naked asking if you are ready. Ok, another side note. Guys woman like this will not even notice if you walked into the living room naked. Sounds bizarre I know because if the tables were turned and the female walked into the living room naked. We would go from whatever we were doing to hard on in less than a second. I have tried it. I have gotten naked and sat on the couch across from my wife. It took her 15 minutes to realize I was fully naked. Woman do not have that type of stimulus. My Turn, you can read this to your husband and see if it opens up the conversation for you. Sorry if I was long winded. I just get excited to share because this was the biggest hurdle in our marriage.
  2. Very well stated, us men tend to think that the woman’s biggest sex organ is their vagina when it is in fact their mind. Speak to the mind and you can tap into that energy you are looking for. Take your wife on regular dates, buy flowers from time to time, doing the dishes or vacuuming for some woman is more of an aphrodisiac than porn. Ok a stretch maybe but it paints the correct picture. Above all listen when they want to talk. I know it’s not the quick fix but it worth the investment.
  3. Welcome, from what I have read it won’t take long for you to feel right at home.
  4. I have used cock rings in the past. It did help have a harder orgasm. She did not notice the ones without the vibrator just the ring. The vibrating ones are fun for both, they can over stimulate the clit so I would use it enough to just about get her to her orgasm then take it off. Other times it would help make her orgasms more thorough when left on. It all comes down to communication at that point and reading her body language. Give it a try for sure.
  5. What does a normal session look like? More info is needed.
  6. This is a very common frustration. More info is needed if advise is what you are looking for. I had the very same frustration which led me to years of studying sex and how to live with my wonderful wife and her low sex drive.
  7. I may be out in left field here but humor me for a bit. Most men feel that the biggest sex organ on a female is the vagina when in reality it is their brain. For us men our biggest sex organ is our penis if it reacts so do we. When texting coworkers you are talking to another person flirtatiously letting them get to know you and you getting to know them. Because you don’t share responsibilities like paying bills or driving kids to activities you can open up that conversation to go anywhere. The reason the coworker dropped her keys in your hand was because you were speaking sex to her mind which translated to her wanting more. Your wife knowing this about woman is the reason she is trying to explain why she sees it as advertising. Which puts you in the position of explaining that it is just a way out because when you committed to the marriage you committed yourself to her but that you like to talk about sex with other people. It puts both of you in an awkward situation. Now you are inadvertently telling her she is just a glorified roommate. That makes her more distant. Like I said just humor me. Know that we know that the females biggest sex organ is her brain how do you involve your wife in these texts or sexual conversations? Take her out to a neutral environment and explain to her that she is the most important person in your life and that you like to have sexual conventions with people. Ask her if she would be willing to act as the coworker from the New York office? Where you both could come up with a name and during the day you could text “Katie” from the office questions, flirtatious texting. What this does is allow your wife a way to step out of her roll as wife and be that coworker. Some things you bring up may be what is going on in your actual life, that is ok. This makes it so your wife feels like she is helping you, but the biggest thing is you are talking and acting towards her biggest sex organ her brain. You may find her open up a lot more in more ways than one. Communication is just as important as the lube on the nightstand. sorry if this sounds preachy, I spent over 5 years doing research on sex just to keep our marriage.
  8. So much energy where to start? The fact that she is willing to have sex with you and this amazing sleeve with the additional bells and whistles does say she is open to new experiences. Studies have actually shown that woman complain more about cocks being too big and hurtful than too small. Have you asked her how she likes the size of your unit and sleeve. She may say she feels like it is a comfortable size. It’s as much about her comfort as it is the visual stimulation you get watching it entering her. Be very conscientious about over enthusiasm the female can take that as she is not adequate enough. When all it is is an over enthusiasm on our part. correct me if I am way out in left field. Open up a conversation on what toys she would like to use on you.
  9. Yes, it can be commonplace for a couple. My wife and I were in that situation. She was always shy talking about sex. Me not so much. Some things to think about, because the female body has much less testosterone which creates that drive, you have to prime the conversation. Example, my wife could be in the same room on the ipad, me naked and hard as hell. I could sit there for 10 minutes she wouldn’t even notice and when she does she just goes back to the work at hand. My wife does not do well with spontaneity. It takes a full three hours to warm up my wife knowing this I can act accordingly dinner, listen to her talk about her day, get her dessert, get home turn on mood music, start with rubbing her back which turns into a sensual massage then she is ready to go. I know it’s a lot of work but well worth the investment. If you would like to talk about sex for example tell her you are planning on taking her out to her favorite restaurant. While there tell her you would like to talk about something very important to you “sex”. Tell her it is very important to know what one of her fantasies would be. My wife always says well I don’t know. Then I chime in and tell her It would be fun if I got a hotel room and texted her telling her that I am in room 108 and very excited to see her. Then ask what she would do if she got a text like that? This all opens the door to having more conversations. Now we have had conversations openly, I know that when I give her multiple orgasms one night it takes her a full 3-4 days to recover. She knows that after that night of great sex she needs to give me a hand job or BJ within the next day because my hormones go absolutely crazy. Sorry to go on and on, my wife used to tell me the one thing we always argued about on a monthly basis was sex, then that would make her feel inadequate making her not want to indulge in sex. Doing a lot of research I realized I was approaching the subject all wrong. Never talk about what bothers you about sex in the bedroom always bring up such conversation in a neutral environment.
  10. Hello everyone, just a Wyoming native. It has been a long time since I have been on these forums. Married with 3 children 14,12,7 but don’t let the 7 year old fool you she runs the house. When I was on last my wife and I were fairly new to toys. She was shy about stimulating herself. We have moved passed all that. Our newest toy is the crystal fleshlight which feels absolutely amazing. The wife gets so excited watching me use it. Any way enough about me, say hello, I will be dropping in more often now.
  11. Text is the easiest for us. Recently I talked my wife into taking some pics of me worked great as foreplay, then later in the week or when I feel like cheering her up I will send her a pic via text. It brings the memory of that night back to her she loves it.
  12. I am sorry I have not gotten back sooner, I did not mean to leave you hanging, I will finish the story now. We have not had a chance to finish it in reality but this is the fantasy I would like to pan out. Talking to her she wishes the same also. As you know fishing is kind of a patience game some times you are on the fish and sometimes you spend the whole day trying to find them. This particular day we are not trying real hard to find the fish we just have some poles in the water. We are just enjoying each others company without the kids. There is just something about being in a boat being close to each other without much clothes on and some great swimming suits. The boat has two captain chairs right behind the windsheild and a bench seat just behind the captain chairs, her chair can swivel around so she can put one leg on the bench or both and be comfortable. I steer the boat around the lake slowly having some great conversation about life how great it is to just be out with the two of us, I pull one of her legs down off of the bench as to open her up just a little not enough to make her feel vulnerable I just want to rub my hand down her inner thigh as we are talking. As I do this I notice that her swim suit offers a sneek peak at one of the lips on her pussy so when the conversation dies down she gets quiet and just lets me run my hand up and down her thigh getting closer and closer to her pussy. By this time she is quiet just laying back letting me touch her soon I move her swimming suit to one side with my fingers now running my fingers on the lips of her pussy she relaxes even more. I can tell that she is getting hungry for me to touch her clit but I hold off waiting for her emotions to take her farther almost to were she can't stand just having me pet the outside. It is starting to get dark on a clear night. I just go back to rubbing her thigh so we can watch the moon come up and glissen off of the water. By this time I am hard as a rock, the leans over and runs her hand up my swim shorts moving back the material to find my balls and lightly scratch them as to give me a taste of my own medicine because she knows that it drives me absolutly nuts, then she grabs my very erect cock and gives it a few strokes. I reach over and turn off the key everything goes silent, I move her to the back deck just above the bench seat where you can lay out, I have her lay on her back with her feet on the bench seat, taking off her suit I lean over and start licking the outside of her pussy, I start to feel some moisture coming from her so I move in and give some long slow licks to her clit starting from the bottom to the top. I feel her clit get bigger so I move in just a little bit more with my tongue this time going just a little faster by this time my chin is dripping with juices from her and from me, I help her to a very much appreciated first orgasm, after she has some time to recover she puts me in the same position and begins to suck my hard cock she loves to run her tongue in a circle right below the head where all the nerve endings are she feels my cock throb and jump around then puts me in her mouth to suck some more. She has saliva running down my balls that is cool in the night air. It tickles, I then move her so she is on all four on the bench and the deck this is high enough that I can stand up and enter her from behind. It does not take long for me to take her to her second orgasm both of us are so wet that my hard cock can not take it any more I start to build up with pressure and I shoot hot cum all over her pussy she sighs with relief. Now we have time to sit back and look at the moon over the water and feel how lucky we are to be out in the middle of a lake makeing exceptional love to each other.
  13. I proposed first, then we both sat down with her parents and I kind of asked him but they allready knew what was going on. I had his approval the day I did some work around his place with out asking. It was a big chore and I just got out and did the job. This was way before me and my wife were an item. We were in high school then. I think actions speek louder than words.
  14. So it is boating season, I have a boat that I use for fishing. My wife loves to go with me fishing. Last month we left the kids with grandma to take the boat out just for some us time. I loved being out with her taking in nature, me in my swimming suit and her in hers just so we can catch some sun. Just seeing the sides of her breasts while trolling around the lake makes me crazy she is so close to me with very little on. I wanted to take her out till night and watch the moon come over the mountains while being in the middle of the lake with the moon shining off the lake making a silloette of us in the night time. I wanted to be in that ambiance and lay back on the back of the boat with her next to me and start some great lovemaking. With three kids some things came up and we had to cut our boat trip short so I have yet to have gone out at night with her but I have the resources to do that. My question, what would you do in or on a boat, or what have you done? I thought the story section would be good for this for us to share stories.
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