Thanks Michelle, well he is 12 years older. And has diabetes, and heart issues, and low T. I am just behind the 8 ball here. Well now just shared my membership of TT with him. Read posts of how many men and women are in the same boat as us. It has been a VERY depressing day. And so not sure what salvageable state my marriage is in. He is ready for retirement and we have lived separately for so long now. we have nothing invested together in each other. Not sure what is going to happen. But glad he knows of the TT site. It was a very open and bare all kind of discussion. The good the bad and most definitely the ugly. Think I am moving into the RV tonight. 😿.