Well, I just don't think you understand that there are different types of people. No matter how comfortable I am around anybody, It is hard for me to express my desires, not just about sex, but anything really. And I am really shy and conservative. I was with my ex for 4 years, in which we lost virginities to each other, and I was STILL shy about saying what I wanted. For me, this method works. This is communicating to me. And it works for our relationship. So, to tell me (or anybody really) that it's wrong, isn't really right, because like I said everybody is different.. Thank you for all that advice, I'm not trying to be rude or anything, I'm just saying that THIS works for me, and me and my boyfriend have a GREAT relationship and to me that is what really counts. Hehe. (: