willwork4sex

Welcome. I like this site as well. Has very interesting information and some laughter as well. Enjoy!!!

I call e-mail, IM, phone sexual writings/conversations between a member of the opposite sex cheating if your spouse does not know about it or agree with it. If you can not tell your spouse what you are corresponding about then I would consider that cheating.

OK, well, we have had a 3-some many years ago with a good friend. Hubby was more interested in me and her and watching that I had to physically "help" him in. It was a good experience; he was just making sure it was ok with me...I think men look at sex as sex unless with the one they love and women see sex as a committed thing....well, that is my thoughts on it...but I have become a little more slack with that opinion. More recently, we did not really "have" a 3-some, but it was us and another male. THere was no penetration involved, alot of nipple sicking on both parts, fingering and licking from my hubby and intense rubbing, mild scratching (not scratches but hard rubbing with fingers)....very intense feelings because he was so different than what I was use to. Hubby wants to have a MFM encounter, fantasizes about it, but I don;t know if it will happen. He leaves all that up to me. The FMF fantasy comes up as well, but he wants to see me in action and I want to see him...LOL...both of us like to watch, it is just so erotic to me. Anyway, we have a great relationship and a great sex-life when time allows...LOL. We both know that we are happy and we fit each other like a glove, so no one is going to be able to replace each other. We are very open and very honest and communicate very well. I think those are the keys to having a successful marriage as well as a happy sex-life and love-life!

Yup! Pretty much looked like most of those!

I have given a few long ones, although I can;t remember the length. I know that my lips were numb afterwards! But I like to stroke and play with it while I suck, so I really enjoy it as does he!

When the wars first started, the company I sold toys for had an item that was sold out and back-ordered for a while. It reminded me of those water toys that looked like a log and kinda rolled around...use to play with them as a kid. ANyway, they were a silicone sleeve that was soft and with lube slid smoothly up and down the shaft. Must have been a good thing to be sold out so much. I feel for you guys though; some of the toys out there for men are scary looking!

I definately like the eating part, but, if he were the one working the vibrator, I could go for that too.

you know, i have heard great things about the double-bullet....I may have to buy myself one!

My favorite toy is a strap-on that my husband uses on me. It is hollow with a bullet at the tip. He uses this when I want it doggy style. It goes deeper and he can ride me longer. We will use this when I want it hard or long becuase he says it is too tight and feels good from behind for him to last very long. See, strap-ons really aren't just for lesbians and bisexual women anymore!!!

I have not used them, but have a friend that uses them while she cleans house. I may just go buy some and try them out myself. Q though...how do we know what size to buy?

I "squirt" but not all the time, and I do think like Howard said, it can be controlled. I did not do this until a few years ago, and I only do it when the sex and orgasm are very intense. My husband loves it when I do though.

Can you be both? I am submissive through and through, but there are some situations I want to be in control of, and I like taking control. I like spanking, not only being spanked. I can surely whip if asked. There are also some situations....like people I feel I would not want to have think they can "control" me becuase I feel I am more dom than them. So, can you be both....

I have not read your other post that you referred to so not sure if i ask anything you have answered, so just lemme know if you have....but are you and your husband both wanting to explore with other couples? Is it something you have talked about? I know a few people that are in the lifestyle (swingers) and some that have very "open" marriages, and there is a bit of a difference IMO. Swingers have varying levels. Some are soft-swing (touching, oral but no penetration), some go all the way with their partner involved in it, some with their partner on another bed or chair, or just watching, some will play in totally separate areas. Other than being in a strong marriage/relationship and having very open communication, you need to set rules for the swinging lifestyle. You will not enter a lifestyle club/party that does not mention rules. The rules are do's and don'ts that you and your partner have such as no kissing, no penetration, no playing alone...things like that. There are people who are very open to the one-night stand and those swingers that incorporate friendships with people they find at swingers clubs. I have seen both of those aspects as well. Have some great friends we met at a club that we did family things with and never, ever had sex with or came close to having sex with! Having an open marraige can constitute much of the same things as swingers, but I have seen it include alot more. Things such as "relationships" outside of the marriage...dates, more than just casual sex. IMO that is risky business. Gives reason for doubts and such. I hope you get some answers and find some ways to have some great sex and fulfillment no matter what path you choose. As for speaking with a counselor, I am not sure I could ever talk about my sex life to a therapist, but if you can, that is awesome! Kudos to you! If nothing at all, keep the lines of communication open with your spouse!!!

long, long, long time ago it was a cucumber with a condom!

I am all up for a pole! Same thing for us though, have to wait til we buy a house. I enjoy the strip clubs as well. Girls that enjoy what they are doing and having fun at the dancing and stripping is what makes the club though. Went to my first all nude the other night....actually suggested that rather than a dance club to hubby.