I recently started anal exploring and no, as you eluded too, this does not make you gay. My first attempts were akward, as I did not relax and learn to contol my muscles. Now it is much more pleaurable I must say. My very first toy was actually a condom coverd (green) bananna, which was not a bad experience. The bananna was followed later with a cucumber and after several times, I finally bougth a Doc Johnson purple dildo. It is very flexible , maybe a lil too flexable, 7"x 1" . I found squatting on my knees pleasurable, but because it is so flexable, thrusting is out in this position. Being somewhat new I was concerened about taking it all in, but have no problem with the 7 inches and am considering a bigger one. Any suggestions out there??I found laying on by side the best way to manuvere it for the most pleaurable sensations. Has anyone tried using ice-cubes (inserted) then a device for more different sensations?? Just wondering. Thanks enjoyed article.