Craftylady

Typical? Ok... We still do it in bed most of the time. Usually we know in advance it's Sex Night (that's worked better for us), so early showers and then we set the scene. Lower the lights, get out the Toy Bag and lubes. I've finally taught DH how much more fun long foreplay is, so we spend a fair amount of time with that. I just refuse anymore to go straight to intercourse without being totally ready and worked up. Mutual masturbation has become a real treat, and gets me hotter and readier faster than anything we've ever done. Watching him get himself going makes me wild. Our best/most frequent position is me on top, so that's the norm, although we've played around more lately with doggy style, which we never used to do at all. We love our vibrating eggs (we have his and hers) so about half the time, we use 1 or both. 99% of the time I come first and then he does. Afterglow is nice and then clean up time with a warm washcloth is sweet.

I was thinking the other day how much our sex life has changed for the better in the past couple of years. A lot of it's due to TT and the encouragement from the folks here. And having gone most of my adult life without sex toys, what fun we have now! We have a nice assortment now and use several of them pretty frequently. A lot had to do with learning better communication skills, and a lot had to do with me starting replacement hormone therapy in late 2007. I've initiated most of the changes, I must admit, but my husband says he's never been happier (we've been married 22 yrs, second for him, third for me). He's getting more adventurous and playful too. Always a good thing!

...Still insatiable here.... I know it's mostly the testosterone replacement now. No doubt. They upped my last dose, and boy!! can I tell the difference. This much libido is actually distracting! So I'd still answer every day, but every other day would be nicest. A little recovery time makes for hotter sex and stronger orgasms, IMO. We've settled on a fairly regular schedule of 3-4 times a week and I'm loving it.

I guess I'm a bit of the odd duck so far in this thread. Penises of any size shape and ridgity (is that a word?) make me very hot. Seeing my husband naked has always done it for me. Porn gets boring for me after a while, but we save it for a very rare treat, so at first it's exciting. But it wears off quickly. The money shot is my favorite part My absolute favorite thing is watching my man play with himself. It took some convincing but he now adds it to our repertoire on a regular basis and I just can't get enough of it. Guess I'm more voyeuristic than many women

A wise old therapist once said "Sex begins in the kitchen". And he's right. If spouses would recognize their mates becoming exhausted doing all the things that need to be done and help out more, and PARTICULARLY willingly and without being asked, the appreciation rewards would be mind-boggling. Pity the poor ones who never get it

Hey chilipepper, welcome to the forum! I hear what you're saying. He's pretty good about keeping up with the doctor's visits and all. I don't actually know when the last time he had an all-out physical, though. I'll mention it to him. He has been told in the recent past that he was pre-diabetic. And he has done nothing to curb his sugar/carb intake, so he may well be there now. As for the CAD...well, let's hope not. I'll mention all this to him and see if he can schedule an appointment soon.

Ladylove, I ordered some a couple days ago, and it should be here soon. GMTA I'll let you know how it works for him. And as for the meds, well, if you read the comments on the Marriage and ED thread, that's sort of his attitude right now - another pill to take care of the side effects of the "other pills" and where does it end... I've told him and I really believe this: if he'd lose the weight by cutting out the carbs and the beer, the blood pressure and cholesterol will fall into line. But he likes to eat, and he loves his sweet stuff and his beer. He doesn't "do" moderation unfortunately.

Oh yes indeed. The Pandora was a huge disappointment. It is very tricky to make work. The little cap that keeps the batteries in if you tighten too much, the vibes stop. You have to loosen the cap just a bit and then it starts up. But while working with it, the cap will tighten again or something and it stops. Way too dang fiddly for us! Now the beads - oh gosh His eyes got big looking at it when I showed it to him, but after the Pandora failed, I asked him if he wanted to try this. By then he was really turned on and wanting more anal stim, so I used it on him and he was IN ECSTACY to say the least. He loves it. He said he's never had such intense orgasms in his life. If there was a two thumbs up smiley, I'd put it here!

Well, an update. Not all of it so good though. We took our "sex-cation" last week and enjoyed it so much. But he developed ED problems. I got several new cock rings for him: one was a set of 3 in different sizes, one is the Amazing Wireless, and one is a small one called the Hummdinger. The Hummdinger bullet quit after about 20 minutes The Amazing Wireless tore on the first try and the largest of the set of three stretchy rings works ok around his cock and balls. But the whole ED is something new to us. We sort of half expected it, since he's taking two blood pressure meds plus Lipitor for cholesterol. I suppose maybe the combination of every-day sex plus the meds has gotten to be too much. I still have some concerns about the ring. Our sessions are lasting an hour or more, and there's no way he should be wearing any ring that long. But he's having trouble keeping his erections. Even with the ring. So it's hard to convince him not to use them. Also, he loves anal play, we discovered that much. I got the pink vibrating beads on someone's suggestion and wow, he loves them (I'll update that thread later). So we had a lot of new and learning experiences last week! I'm still not sure the cockring is a good idea for him though.

Welcome to the forum!

The only "adverse" effect so far have been my skin being a bit oilier, and some skin breakouts, but nothing really remarkable. I just went back to using some Burts Bees Blemish lotion on them when they happen. I have a bit more peachfuzz on my top lip, too, but again, very easy to handle. All in all, having the pellet (and using the compounded cream) have taken me back to being about 20 years old again libido-wise and side effect wise. The oily skin is a bonus at my age. Nobody ever believes I'm my chronological age.

No, but it makes for a good fantasy Would you ever make love on the floor of the living room with your grandmother sleeping in the next room?

Let's just say, I had a very VERY happy man last night. And I didn't get in far enough to do the full prostate massage. But I did have an egg vibe on high in the same hand Just when we think it can't get any better.... it does.

Yes, if he wanted it. Would you ever give a guy a blowjob in a parking lot around midnight with very little traffic around?

Mikayla, the ring on the Clit Buddy is just too small for him, I think. It doesn't stretch much, and honestly I thought he was going to pop (not in a good way) the other night. After a while, I went down on him with it on, and his member was getting dark and felt cool. Of course, he was practically on the ceiling with pleasure by then, so I brought him off as quick as I could. He about fainted when he came, he said it was just mind-boggling. I'm glad he loved it, but really I think this one has to go. I've ordered some sets of the narrow, really stretchy rings and one that is much thinner but still vibrates. This boy is loving the vibes! BTW, he has no ED issues at all. We got the Clit Buddy on our first order about a year ago. It's been sitting in it's box this whole time, and just got resurrected for play a week or two ago. Mr Pink, I'm not sure I understand this comment: Can you elaborate?And Tootall? No kidding about shooting Between that and the prostate massage I'm learning to perfect, we are sure making much bigger messes these days. It's just so much fun!!