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Yer not crazy, Square. To the best of my extensive research, it seems that not every woman has a G-spot in the same exact location, or, does not really enjoy stimulation there, or, according to some, may not even have one (meaning not all women have one). While some women 'squirt' quite easily when the g-spot is stimulated, others need practice to achieve it. Still others really enjoy the effect, while others find it annoying, very difficult, or impossible to achieve. In addition, some research indicates what you have discovered, a deeper spot, that when stimulated, produces delight in the the lady in question. Some call this the 'D' spot. What is really important is the trust and freedom to explore the potential for intimate couple sexual expression, wherever that does or does not lead. All I can say is thank God for the clitoris! But then, there are guys who can't find that either!

The 'rack' on subs and ships has a privacy curtain...but...as soon as one guy rolls out, another guy rolls in (shared beds)...so, guess ya gotta be courteous and not leave a wet spot....on Everest? Dude....it's freezing!

where's mikayla when you need her?

For me, happiness is complex. I live with a type of depression, and it has stolen much from me, including happiness. All life has pain, and pain is due to attachment, as the Buddha says. I am, however, very content, and that is part of being happy, methinks. On Sunday morning, when the woman I am married with lays her head on my shoulder, and we wake with the sun, all lazy and cozy and intimate, we review what we will do with our day, and she gently reaches for my man bits....yea, I'm happy-content, maybe even blissful.

Kinda looks like a fishin' lure I had once.

Thurisas gives wise advice. I would second that most guys will be absolutely thrilled about having their woman on top. My hints would be: experiment with the on top positions(s)... lying prone atop him (like a reverse missionary with man on top)...do this with your legs outside his legs or inside his legs...the trick is to get parts lined up in a way that you get a good rub to your clit try 'cowgirl' (straddling him and sitting up straight)..he gets a great view and you get your breasts caressed...you can also add a bullet vibe between you so you get clit stim.. 'reverse cowgirl' (your bottom facing him, also a great view for him and potential good contact between cock and g-spot)... if you are worried about your weight on him, the cowgirl positions obviously do not place weight on his chest... if you are self conscious about both your weight, the positions, and your inexperience with them, focus first and continually on the heart to heart connection between the two of you as you make love....

Sometimes I crave to be pampered (but never am): flirted with, fine meal made for me, good wine or Scotch, candles, given a bath, hot oil massage, slowly sexually teased and visually entertained, and then done. My question: do ladies even think of doing this for their men? Do they feel it condescending? Can this be done in a non-submissive fashion? Is a lack of this why guys might go to 'massage parlors?' Guys, do you ever do this for your woman? Does she return the favor?

My vote would be for a slow, sensual, deep tissue massage...a warn, nude woman straddling your back with scented oil, candles...the she does you? What's not special about that?

I hate to see the 'closed' sign up.

Reviving the thread. Reactivity between people who love each other is toxic to their relationship. Reactivity results when we are consistently thinking negative thoughts about our partner. When we have negative thoughts, negative emotions result. They rise to a level where we then say or do something that we later regret, or, at least, stimulate reactivity in our partner. The reactivity happens at the speed of light, and it builds in intensity. Along the way, our thinking turns to making a number of assumptions about our partner's motivations and thoughts...when we are reactive, we are almost always wrong in our assumptions about our partner. The toxicity of reactivity leads to far less touching between partners, and less touching leads to less sex, less desire for sex (with your partner), and less intimacy in the relationship. How do you react in your relationship? Can you feel the toxicity develop? How does the toxicity effect your sex life? Do you ever use sex as a means to heal the toxic effects of reactivity?

An Analysis The main character remains nameless in the story; this allows for female readers to more fully free their imaginations concerning detailing ‘his’ appearance, even though there is a brief description of him. For male readers, his being nameless helps to place the reader into the role of this mysterious character. It’s my feeling that good erotica maintains a sense of not only mystery, but restraint, much like a Dominant’s teasing and extending foreplay for a submissive. The reader should always be yearning for just a bit more than is being given. The vivid context for the more direct sexual action serves to enhance those bits far more than ad-nauseum paragraphs of sexually explicit prose. This story is about several things, vampirism, certainly, but dominance and submission, love, and above all, the reality in each of us of being unfulfilled. We can see how the main character, in his dominance, is in truth, totally submissive to the power of his love for Ana. His own submission is evident in his heart being so totally hers. He tries to dull the pain of her loss by fulfilling the need of so many other women to be dominated. Our own lives are full of such paradoxes and desperate attempts to seek fulfillment; it is always fleeting and all too brief, yes? The dominance, power, and passion of a vampire (bloodlust) is a metaphor for intense sexual desire since the time of Stoker’s Dracula. The penetration symbolism, especially with the virginal innocent, along with the accompaniment of blood in the penetration is obvious in its sexual imagery. Such sexual passion and role play can have a genuinely dangerous, dark side to it. The vampire that agrees to give the ‘power’ to the lead character is clearly indicative of this: Her agreement in based on her own lust, uncaring about the lead character, using him and then abandoning him to his fate. Who has not been abused callously like that at least once in their life? Yet even those experiences shape us into who we are. The lead character’s eventual self discipline, substituting sex for his blood-hunger is illustrative of the ability for sexual self development and growth. From unbridled, destructive and selfish lust, intense, giving desire can be achieved. The ‘good’ vampire is an effort to acknowledge that each of us has a both a dark and light side, as well as the ability to get in touch with the sensuality and power of aggressive (no not read abusive) sex. we have all made errors in our sexual relationships. Those who do not strive to grow sexually doom their relationships to at least boredom, and at worse, destruction. The roles of Ana and sweetness demonstrate the joy of ‘being used well’ by one’s lover. Not in a degrading or cruel fashion, but in a mutually agreed upon, almost worshipful fashion. Both Ana and sweetness, while submissive, clearly hold great power on their own, and once engaged with the dominant lead character, complete a kind of ‘energy loop’, where both parties mutually gain. Such sexual abandon with a trusted lover is a level of sexual development that we all may strive for, but only few achieve. Though the story is overtly sexual, it is also about love. All sexual experiences after his beloved Ana leave him dissatisfied. The allegory to this is his decision to become immortal; his need to feed on blood for eternity demonstrates his longing for the perfect woman he was separated from. The irony, of course, is that he traded a death that would have put him with Ana sooner (had he remained mortal) for a moment of satisfaction in the revenge he sought in destroying her murderer. Each of us makes sacrifices when we settle to be with one lover…leaving lovers of the past that took a piece of our heart with them, and forgoing other lovers in fidelity to the one we have chosen. Most of us, even those who are ‘happily’ in a relationship, feel a longing and restlessness for that ‘something’ that is still missing, still yet to be fulfilled. His body coldness represents his desperate loneliness for his one true love. His consideration to sweetness by ‘placing warm thoughts’ into her so that she does not feel his coldness shows that his superior character has been able to overcome and darkness or evil through the power of his will. He is a tragic figure in that while he can produce the sensation of warmth in the mind of sweetness, he remains helplessly cold without his true love. His passionate sex is a counterpoint to the fact that as a vampire, he cannot procreate. This (unstated in the story) impotence presses the story to come to the only conclusion it could arrive at: his decision to end his existence. To achieve this, yes, he deceives sweetness, but, reflecting his true character as a gentleman, he does this after he fulfills the desires of sweetness first. There is a bit of every writer in their story. Though I am not a vampire, I am a gentleman…albeit one who is, like everyone else, seeking passion in relationship and sex, and forever longing for that missing ‘something’ in relationship. See you in the graveyard.

Well the obvious is facial hair (though I have seen a few gals with pretty good beards!) Facial hair is still obvious after a shave for most guys. There are also bone size differences between males and females, though I do not rightly know that this extends to skulls. The major 'tell' is the literally thousands of 'micro expressions' that the human face is capable of. Now, both males and females have the same capabilities, but have clearly different (gender) social upbringing. Most of us are socialized either male of female, and this then effects all of our gestures. All of our micro-expressions are very unconscious and mostly out of our control; so we cannot hide our gender by altering our facial expression. The idea is most evident when you interact with a transgendered person; they often have micro-expressions from both genders. See?

The best I can discern is that 'gamahuching' is a euphemism for cunnilingus....yea, it's all erotic until the name 'Ethel' comes up...I mean, come on, ETHEL!!! Who wants to think of their grandma with toes pointing to the ceiling screaming, 'Oh God, Floyd, don't stop gamahuching my cunt!' Excuse me now, I think I just threw up in my mouth a little bit.

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