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Does your SO know you're a member on here?

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Tyger    717

Other than the few couples that are on here, does your spouse/significant other know you're a member on here and what "here" is?

To answer my own question, yes, my SO does.

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Gadget Geek    245

Yes. My wife helps me with my "reviews" and she knows I'm a member. :-)

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l8niter    888

Yes she does and as most of you know shes on here also my sweet sexy WenWitch

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Tyger    717

I think it's great when couples are on here and are active on here together. I think it opens up more sexual fun communications. ;)

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PlayfulKitty    75

My husband knows im a member on here, when i spoke to him about testing out sex toys it made him pretty hot- let just say we have both realllllly enjoyed my becoming a member. As weird as it may sound my mother in law also knows im a member! We are extremely close, and I figured her knowing might spark some conversations I feel she desperately needs to have! lol hopefully her curiosity continues to grow-my in laws have been married 47 years.. they need spark big time! 

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Sdffm3    6

I am relatively new. I told my wife about it while we were having sex. I then told her I chatted w another member and let her read. It was vwry racy, including talk of masturbation and what we would do to each other. I told the member my wife had a fantasy of a FMF, with the other woman sucking me, but no fucking. My wife thinks I went too far. She knows I would not cheat on her, and I thought it was just sexual arousal to basically a fantasy person. Thoughts?

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Sdffm3    6

I told her she could do the same with a male. It only accelerates my sex arousal and wanting of my wife when I do it. We sometimes watch short porn clips while we do it.

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Tyger    717

Well,  sharing fantasies with your spouse is one thing.  However,  if the roles were reversed,  wouldn't you be upset with her for basically sexting someone else behind your back? 

There's a line to which she's told you that you crossed.  Do I. Personally think you went too far?  Yes.  I do. But what I think doesn't matter,  just what your spouse thinks. 

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Frank82    98

Yes she does and I show her toys and different things on here at times.

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Cyn    112

Yes he does but no longer likes that I do.

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ladylove    267

Absolutely!  We usually use the toys together before I write the reviews.   

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Last2Long    41
On 1/2/2017 at 0:00 PM, Cyn said:

Yes he does but no longer likes that I do.

Is that why so many pix have been deleted? At least I'm pretty sure yours were some that are now gone. Sorry if I'm wrong. 

But I am intrigued why so many ladies have deleted their pix. In ready thru the various posts, where people are commenting on pix, it really sucks not being able to see the pix they're all talking about. Is it because a SO found out about the pix on display?

BTW -- to all the women that do have pix posted (here & under other topics), thank you! I love em!

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ladylove    267
1 hour ago, Mike miller said:

Nope not at all.

Why not?  If she reads how you feel, it may bring about some important conversations. 

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Crazy Cat    430

Got in another "discussion" tonight about our issues. Almost logged in here to show my husband some of my posts. And email conversations. He keeps saying the same thing. And nothing changes. I am so tired of being sexually frustrated and in a marriage in which I feel like I have a roommate not a spouse. Why, why can't my husband see me as sexy? 

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michelleddd    350
17 hours ago, Crazy Cat said:

Got in another "discussion" tonight about our issues. Almost logged in here to show my husband some of my posts. And email conversations. He keeps saying the same thing. And nothing changes. I am so tired of being sexually frustrated and in a marriage in which I feel like I have a roommate not a spouse. Why, why can't my husband see me as sexy? 

I'm assuming he's around your age, has he been to the Dr? Could be low T or diabetes or even heart problems, even if he's embarrassed he should just for his health and maybe he'll end up getting back to his old self. And believe me his Dr. won't bat an eye to prescribe him Viagra if he's healthy. I've been in your boat and it's not fun.

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Crazy Cat    430
3 hours ago, michelleddd said:

I'm assuming he's around your age, has he been to the Dr? Could be low T or diabetes or even heart problems, even if he's embarrassed he should just for his health and maybe he'll end up getting back to his old self. And believe me his Dr. won't bat an eye to prescribe him Viagra if he's healthy. I've been in your boat and it's not fun.

Thanks Michelle, well he is 12 years older. And has  diabetes, and heart issues, and low T. I am just behind the 8 ball here.  Well now just shared my membership of TT with him. Read posts of how many men and women are in the same boat as us. It has been a VERY depressing day. And so not sure what salvageable state my marriage is in. He is ready for retirement and we have lived separately for so long now. we have nothing invested together in each other. Not sure what is going to happen. But glad he knows of the TT site. It was a very open and bare all kind of discussion. The good the  bad and most definitely the ugly. Think I am moving into the RV tonight. 😿.

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michelleddd    350

Sorry to hear it yet it needed to happen didn't it. Now he knows the scope of your unhappiness and it's up to him if he's going to step up and make some changes. This should be the best part of your lives! Good luck and keep us posted.

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Big Rack    396

CC. I wish you the best of luck and am in a similar boat. So many of us are. 

I can always lend an ear, . I'm hoping the best for you. :kiss:

My husband has heart conditions, is 8 years my senior and has so many pain pills prescribed to him... I live life by myself while he sleeps. Days at a time. So many here know the feeling of what you're going through. 

I wish you the best. For you. ☮🌹

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Last2Long    41

Crazy Cat -- I'm really sorry things are so difficult in your relationship. Trust me, I know that feeling far too well.

OMG, Big Rack, I am so sorry that your husband has those issues and that you've got to deal with them and having to so often live a separate life without the man you love. That must be extremely lonely. I've been on both sides as you & your husband, from what I gather.
I know physical pain all too well with all the various issues & surgeries I've been thru. When I was dealing with my 1st cancer, my wife was sure she'd be a widow. (She didn't tell me until many years later, of course). I know what would have been worse for me, but I don't know what would have been worse for her, dealing with my death or experiencing the awful downward spiral I took. I hated my life then & saw everything in my life through those dark glasses (as opposed to rose-colored) -- my job, my marriage, my lack of success, my body, my snowballing financial problems, etc. Eventually, I even hated being sober.

For a very long time, pain has been a constant. It's the degree of pain that varies. When I can no longer take it, I've had joints replaced & spine sections practically "rebuilt". Oh -- and last year I broke my neck. So I know the physical pain. As for emotional pain, I was in a marriage that outlasted love, happiness & security by years. We were married young, grew into two very different people, slowly became very far apart, despised many things about each other & eventually suffered an ugly, awful divorce. Sex was nearly non-existent for years. As my drive increased, hers dropped. Worse, when she did get horny, she'd "take care of herself with masturbation & tell me once I got home that I missed it. (Kinda like: "Hey, little kid -- want an incredible pile of your favorite, delicious candy? Well, NO. You just missed it.")

After the nearly 25-yr marriage officially ended, I found myself completely lost. The dating world was nothing like it was decades ago, especially for a middle-aged guy and worse, a guy with all the physical issues that I had & still have. To find deep, mutual love with someone that'll accept me in this condition (trust me, there are even more issues I'm not mentioning) is a needle in a haystack.

Sorry for all the details. I wasn't going to get that wordy.

Again, CC & BigRack, I'm sorry you're going thru that bumpy, awful ride. I know it really can be hell. **Hugs to both of you**

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