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Am I the only one who total hates when my husband watches porn or looks at other girls naked? I mean I am a freak in the sack and am usually 100% up for anything. Is it just a man thing to want to jerk off alone sometimes? Just like out of laziness, like it's easier just to get yourself off real quick instead of having to worry about getting your partner off too? I just feel like dude if you have a wife who's down to do it whenever however whatever porn shouldn't even be a thought as well as jerking off. 

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From some of the responses from men on similar posts such as this, and my own personal experiences, yes, sometimes a man just wants to get off real quick, And yes, they will jerk off whether you're the porn star of the year, the greatest lover ever, love of their lives, mother of their kids, on their honeymoon, or their wives. It's not a fault of theirs or mean that they love or desire you any less, but it's a great stress reliever, for either gender really. It has NO bearing on how much they desire you at all!!

Men are visual creatures. What they SEE turns them on. Looking at women whether clothed or naked, is normal. They LOOK. And  any man that says they don't is fibbing (unless they're gay, then they're looking at other men LOL).

Honestly, when I too was in my 20's, I felt the same way you do. I was (still am) a freak, love sex, and why should they jerk off and not do  me instead? that was my insecurities showing. Now I regret making them feel bad for something that men do naturally, and for different reasons, but, again, it's usually for that quick release, to relax, and move on with what they want to do. Kinda like yoga for men. It helps relax them.

Many women masturbate to go to sleep as well. So, it's not just a "dude" thing.

I hope this helps.

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Thanks tyger, that did help made me feel like I know that it's a basic thing and I'm not crazy haha.. I think like you said it's based on insecurities I need to work on myself! 

Thanks for your help!:)

 

 

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Once again Tyger show her wisdom. Masturbation is simply a normal part of life. As much as you and your partner may have sex and play together. He will most likely still masturbate (you may as well). It is a way of relief for many things and a good way to get to know our sexual responses and likes. Men are quite visual and like visual variety. It is like eating potatoes every day for a month, at some point potatos just are not as wonderful. That doesn't mean we stop liking or loving potatoes, just something different is good once in a while. The vast majority of men would not give up partnered sex for porn. It is just one of many outlets or interests. And if you are a "freak in bed" as you describe I am sure he will always come back to you. Really his masturbation is not against you. And I would be willing to bet he masturbates to fantasies of you.

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On ‎4‎/‎19‎/‎2016 at 6:21 AM, PlayfulKitty said:

Thanks tyger, that did help made me feel like I know that it's a basic thing and I'm not crazy haha.. I think like you said it's based on insecurities I need to work on myself! 

Thanks for your help!:)

 

 

Until I met my current girlfriend I had some serious sexual insecurities. Stuff I dint talk about here even. After having known my *Jenny* about 6 weeks now my old number 1 insecurity has basically flown the coop for me. After having sex I'll get up and take a leak without putting on a robe. Sometimes she'll come in and watch me pee. That usedta wood bother me but not no more. Sometimes I'll pop in and watch as she tinkles. We're both a bit weird and neither of us cares. Neither of us have the near/semi close perfect bods we had in our youth. We are comfortable with each other. She's quite the freak like the original poster here. I was a closeted freak for 22+yr before I knew what freaks like us were into. From the first night I met her I was absolutely straight up with her. Told her what I liked sexually and without realizing it at the time the bartender heard most of what I said. Thus far she has not told anyone. Perhaps she told her husband IDK. If she did he's never mentioned it to me which I appreciate as I live in a small town in a semi conservative county. I my own self am conservative. For the first time in my voting life the man I voted for (a non politician) won and certain folks are having a fit. I just hope for the good of our country they dust off their behinds dry their tears and do something they can look back on 30-50yr from now and say they helped make America great again.

When I was with my lady the other night while I watched a little TV she was in bed test driving a new 110v vibrator. Judging from her moans her new toy will keep her company when I'm not horny and she is. I've told her I still jack off sometimes mid week when I can't spend the night w/her. She does the same thing while thinking of me. I whack off thinking about her to porn on XHamster. As summer approaches I look forward to me nekid and spread eagled and restrained while she reams my greedy ass and spanks me. I wish she was here right now to whip up sumpin good to eat. Grub wise.

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On 4/19/2016 at 4:17 PM, RC4BLUE said:
On 4/19/2016 at 4:17 PM, RC4BLUE said:

Once again Tyger show her wisdom. Masturbation is simply a normal part of life. As much as you and your partner may have sex and play together. He will most likely still masturbate (you may as well). It is a way of relief for many things and a good way to get to know our sexual responses and likes. Men are quite visual and like visual variety. It is like eating potatoes every day for a month, at some point potatos just are not as wonderful. That doesn't mean we stop liking or loving potatoes, just something different is good once in a while. The vast majority of men would not give up partnered sex for porn. It is just one of many outlets or interests. And if you are a "freak in bed" as you describe I am sure he will always come back to you. Really his masturbation is not against you. And I would be willing to bet he masturbates to fantasies of you.

I for one know I fantasize about my wife when I masturbate. I have to agree it is a great stress reliever. Porn will never replace skin to skin sex. Oh and by the way my wife is not a freak in bed. So any ideas on how to turn her into one let me know.

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On ‎4‎/‎18‎/‎2016 at 10:19 PM, PlayfulKitty said:

Am I the only one who total hates when my husband watches porn or looks at other girls naked? I mean I am a freak in the sack and am usually 100% up for anything. Is it just a man thing to want to jerk off alone sometimes? Just like out of laziness, like it's easier just to get yourself off real quick instead of having to worry about getting your partner off too? I just feel like dude if you have a wife who's down to do it whenever however whatever porn shouldn't even be a thought as well as jerking off. 

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I if you are really  doing whatever,however whenever. Maybe your whatever and however is different than his. All the couples on here into bondage and toys,seem to always get along sexually. Men get bored with missionary and nothing but. Sounds like you are doing much more. As far as the porn goes maybe he would give it up for some changes. Spice it up little. Look at porn together. good luck.

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My feeling on porn is that if you're getting all the sex you want from him is it really a problem? If your not then yes you have a right to a discussion about needs not being met etc.

We do porn night every so often just to spice things up and taking turns planning a scenario for the other is a good way to keep things interesting and fun.

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8 hours ago, michelleddd said:

My feeling on porn is that if you're getting all the sex you want from him is it really a problem? If your not then yes you have a right to a discussion about needs not being met etc.

We do porn night every so often just to spice things up and taking turns planning a scenario for the other is a good way to keep things interesting and fun.

You have wisdom far beyond your years.

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3 hours ago, tiedupnaked33 said:

You have wisdom far beyond your years.

Aw thanks! 

 

I wonder if playful kitty has tried mutual masturbation or joining in if she catches him?

I've been known to 'let' him catch me from time to time, you've never seen anyone get hard or naked so fast.  ;)

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8 minutes ago, michelleddd said:

Aw thanks! 

 

I wonder if playful kitty has tried mutual masturbation or joining in if she catches him?

I've been known to 'let' him catch me from time to time, you've never seen anyone get hard or naked so fast.  ;)

We think a lot alike. Your pic is stimulating to say the least. If it is not you please don't tell me . Old man here. Have a great day.

8 minutes ago, michelleddd said:

Aw thanks! 

 

I wonder if playful kitty has tried mutual masturbation or joining in if she catches him?

I've been known to 'let' him catch me from time to time, you've never seen anyone get hard or naked so fast.  ;)

  It is a small problem. Communication is always a problem when trouble arises . Thank you for the response . Your pic is stimulating to say the least . Please don't tell me if it is not you.

 

 

 

 

 

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