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Zoe Eyes    1

My boyfriend and I just finished watching 50 Shades of Grey (the first one, not the second).  Now he is on a mission to talk me into letting him spank me.  I am naturally reluctant to letting him do this.  Should I? What is anyone's advice...and if I do agree to it...how should I start as a beginner (and not be spanked too hard, if that makes sense).

ZoE

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RC4BLUE    872

First, I would suggest the two of you do your research on BDSM behavior and safety. Remember everything needs to be safe, sane and consensual. Then have open honest conversations about impact play. Next have a safe word in case things push you over your comfort level. Talk about open hand spanking, and the use of paddles, crops, floggers, and more. What are you comfortable with. Remember you are giving permission and that permission must be respected. Start slow and easy and talk about the experience after each time. 

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Zoe Eyes    1

I am just talking spanking, not BDSM.  He just wants to spank me.  

He has my consent (although I may regret giving it!) to spank me - I really want to know (aside from hand) what is the best thing to be spanked with that won't hurt too much!

The other question to start is if this (the first time at least) be over panties or on the bare bottom...as can be guessed, my BF wants to start straight on my bare bottom but I remain indecisive on that at this moment.

ZoE

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RC4BLUE    872

Spanking is traditionally a part of kink. Either way, communication is the key. How much, how hard, how long need to be determined before you begin, I suggest. The dominant one can get carried away with the activity if things are not talked about first. As for what to use, I'd say start with an open hand. If that is good then maybe a paddle or crop. If you are more comfortable with a spanking over your panties, start there. If that is good, then move to bare skin. Remember do only what you are comfortable with. Impact play can be fun and arousing. Last thing to remember, 50 Shades is NOT a good example of what to expect or what really happens. Having said this, go explore, have fun, and talk about everything with your partner.

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Spanking can be fun but yes make sure he respects you if you ask him to stop. With my ex it started randomly, he caught me coming out of the shower and slapped my ass. I jumped of course and laughed it off. Then it became more commin if my ass was naked and near him it was getting slapped. I actually asked if he was mad at me once because he didn't slap it when I walked by. 

With this new guy...he knows I like the man to be completly in charge. We have talked about it and other things but haven't experienced it yet. So far just hair pulling amazing fuck me harder sex that I can't stop dreaming about. 

Anyway of it is something you are interested in go for it but do as they said earlier and have an exit strategy or safe word.

Have fun?

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ladylove    267

Hi Zoe!  First, you should only do things you want to and are comfortable with.  Anything new can be scary.  Take the time for yourself to read up on beginner spanking and see whats involved, how to start, what you may need, etc.  You don't need to rush into anything and never do anything you are uncomfortable with.   Good Luck and keep us posted!

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H. Housewife    69
On 5/20/2017 at 9:01 PM, Zoe Eyes said:

My boyfriend and I just finished watching 50 Shades of Grey (the first one, not the second).  Now he is on a mission to talk me into letting him spank me.  I am naturally reluctant to letting him do this.  Should I? What is anyone's advice...and if I do agree to it...how should I start as a beginner (and not be spanked too hard, if that makes sense).

ZoE

I think that's hot and mabye suggest to him that it's his turn to get spanked

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michelleddd    350

We enjoy spanking light.... lol   I like a little sting and he seems to enjoy the thought of the domination, not really causing me pain. We use a Nerf sword (I know that sounds crazy) but it does work, it pops and stings with no real pain or bruises. It might be a place for you to start and see if you like all the aspects of it. Exploring your fantasies will only open up your mind and  your sex life. Good luck! Remember you don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable no matter what anyone else says. It's supposed to be fun for both people.

PS in my experience that giver never really wants to be the receiver.

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H. Housewife    69

Yeah bondage is such a sexy thing until it gets out of control. I have read about a guy in England who went too far and I think he's in huge trouble. So please all be careful and have sexy time❤

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It does not seem like too much to ask for. there is nothing I wouldn't do for a lover short of blood or body waste. If a woman wants she can spank me till I cry! I prefer being tied up and gagged for my spankings.

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12GAUGE    114
On 5/20/2017 at 9:01 PM, Zoe Eyes said:

My boyfriend and I just finished watching 50 Shades of Grey (the first one, not the second).  Now he is on a mission to talk me into letting him spank me.  I am naturally reluctant to letting him do this.  Should I? What is anyone's advice...and if I do agree to it...how should I start as a beginner (and not be spanked too hard, if that makes sense).

ZoE

Fuckin' A you are on your way to Glorious Sex if you say YES to spanking. Not 5m ago I was watching a 1970s Swedish clip on XHamster. My crop in my right hand my cock sliding up and down my drooly left hand. Haven't cum yet. Thought I'd pop in here for a bit. So GLAD I DID. I hope you find spanking to your liking. I certainly have both giving AND Receiving. If you have a favorite pair of black patent leather cum fuck me boots the next time you need to get fucked slide those on and demand your old man tear you a new one. Then have him spank you. If he's dialed in you're in for the Wildest Sex You EVER HAD MUKA MUKA MAU MAU

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12GAUGE    114
On 8/25/2017 at 4:14 AM, tiedupnaked33 said:

It does not seem like too much to ask for. there is nothing I wouldn't do for a lover short of blood or body waste. If a woman wants she can spank me till I cry! I prefer being tied up and gagged for my spankings.

FUCKIN' A you and I have much in common. I LOVE to watch spanking porn. It puts my RPMs in the RED ZONE. Watching it dishing it out and receiving it from a Wickedly HOT MAMA.

That's my cross to bear.

On 8/25/2017 at 4:14 AM, tiedupnaked33 said:

It does not seem like too much to ask for. there is nothing I wouldn't do for a lover short of blood or body waste. If a woman wants she can spank me till I cry! I prefer being tied up and gagged for my spankings.

What I find extremely curious here is another man right close to my age wants the same sexual play as I do. Even better if we engage in enema play in a warm/hot wet place like a Japanese public bath. These are extremely popular in Japan. My recent girlfriend held my same thoughts to enema fun spanking and rough sex.

Well that got the job done. Now time for a movie I think.

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On ‎7‎/‎11‎/‎2017 at 2:06 PM, michelleddd said:

We enjoy spanking light.... lol   I like a little sting and he seems to enjoy the thought of the domination, not really causing me pain. We use a Nerf sword (I know that sounds crazy) but it does work, it pops and stings with no real pain or bruises. It might be a place for you to start and see if you like all the aspects of it. Exploring your fantasies will only open up your mind and  your sex life. Good luck! Remember you don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable no matter what anyone else says. It's supposed to be fun for both people.

PS in my experience that giver never really wants to be the receiver.

giver, receiver,witness for me please. And I need a moderate amount of pain to make it exciting.  I will be tied and gagged. The safe work is a tennis ball held in one hand. I drop the ball I have had enough and expect her to give me one more hard one. To hurt not to harm is a good moto.

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