Members Sarahangel Posted August 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 27, 2008 Hey all, I know my name says Virgin Girl... but I lost my virginity a few months back... But I don't think I've had a single orgasm... I know the night I lost my virginity it took an hour for my guy friend to get me off... and when he did I squirted like a mad woman and it sorta felt good... but after words when we were laying there I didn't feel satisfied... We tried many positions and I have two that I like.... Doggy Style... and a Position where he put me on my side and he faced me but up on his knees with my left leg over his shoulder... that position was just awesome but he never stayed in one position long enough for me to cum.I've been with him and other guys and I really don't think I've had an orgasm... And I think I know why... because I am scared of being caught by my grandmother and other family members that I live with.. But I heard that the thrill of getting caught is supposed to be a turn on...Oh and I also have a bunny vibe that I try and try to come with but All I get out of it is a so so clitoral orgasm... not really all that strong... Is there something wrong with my body? or am I just cursed with so so orgasms?? Is there anything I can do to help me achieve stronger orgasms... ya know that kind that make your whole body shake and all that good stuff?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted August 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 27, 2008 Hey VG.OK, stop and take a breath. You are new to sex (and orgasm?) and it takes time to get comfortable with it. There are very, very few women who orgasm through sex alone (80-85% need clitoral stimulation AND penetration) and there are those whom never orgasm through sex alone AND there are those who just need time.let me ask you, do you masturbate? Do you have orgasms when you masturbate? Do they feel intense if you do? You mention orgasming but not feeling satisfied. Perhaps you have it built up in your mind as some great, huge experience and the reality doesn't measure up.For most women, the first few times having orgasms with a partner are 'less than' because women need to be comfortable to enjoy sex. I suspect that your 'fear of being caught' is playing it up here. Perhaps try to spend some time alone with your guy friend. also, spend some time masturbating and getting comfortable with your own body and sexuality. Don';t expect the earth to move immediately.Oh, and one final thought. You mention that the only orgasm you seem to have is clitoral - well, it does take most women quite a while to even have a G-spot orgasm - so just be patient and get comfortable with yourself before you start going for the gold, ya know! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sarahangel Posted August 27, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted August 27, 2008 Hey VG.OK, stop and take a breath. You are new to sex (and orgasm?) and it takes time to get comfortable with it. There are very, very few women who orgasm through sex alone (80-85% need clitoral stimulation AND penetration) and there are those whom never orgasm through sex alone AND there are those who just need time.let me ask you, do you masturbate? Do you have orgasms when you masturbate? Do they feel intense if you do? You mention orgasming but not feeling satisfied. Perhaps you have it built up in your mind as some great, huge experience and the reality doesn't measure up.For most women, the first few times having orgasms with a partner are 'less than' because women need to be comfortable to enjoy sex. I suspect that your 'fear of being caught' is playing it up here. Perhaps try to spend some time alone with your guy friend. also, spend some time masturbating and getting comfortable with your own body and sexuality. Don';t expect the earth to move immediately.Oh, and one final thought. You mention that the only orgasm you seem to have is clitoral - well, it does take most women quite a while to even have a G-spot orgasm - so just be patient and get comfortable with yourself before you start going for the gold, ya know!Hey Mikayla1, Thanks for responding... to answer your questions... Yes I do masturbate with my hand and with my Rabbit Vibrator... And no they are not intense... the ride to the orgasm is better than the actual orgasm pretty much. And your right about me having an orgasm built up in my mind as some great, huge experience.. I watch alot of porn when I was a virgin and I always imagined orgasming like the girls did in porn movies. I would love to take my guy friend somewhere private like a motel room where we'd have nothing to worry about at all, but a room costs money and I don't get paid to take care of my grandmother... I suppose the stress of the day to day drama I experience in the house I live in plays a role too. I do share my room with my cousin and so when I masturbate its rushed and done in our private bathroom.Its not easy living here and I am usually exhausted by the end of the day so when I masturbate or I am with my guy friend I am usually pretty exhausted. The other night when my guy friend did me doggy style he rubbed my clit with his fingers and that felt so awesome... I was in heaven when he did that!! He's coming over right now for another round.. so I'll let you know how it goes 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted August 27, 2008 Members Report Share Posted August 27, 2008 Oh honey, porn is not real. I mean, yes, they are having sex, and yes the women do occassionally orgasm, but it is not 'real' orgasm ya know? If they showed real sex, porn wouldn't be so popular!Anyway, I think your situation boils down to a stressful situation without privacy. You do not need to get a hotel room (and HE can pay for that you know!) but perhaps just find a private woodsy area, or his house, or anywhere you can get a little privacy. It will change the entire way you react to sex, I guarantee it!Yes, let me know how things go, I think it will just get better and better for you. Oh, and the road to orgasm is one of the best parts of orgasming in general, but we still need to get you to a more powerful orgasm pinnacle! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sarahangel Posted August 27, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted August 27, 2008 Oh honey, porn is not real. I mean, yes, they are having sex, and yes the women do occassionally orgasm, but it is not 'real' orgasm ya know? If they showed real sex, porn wouldn't be so popular!Anyway, I think your situation boils down to a stressful situation without privacy. You do not need to get a hotel room (and HE can pay for that you know!) but perhaps just find a private woodsy area, or his house, or anywhere you can get a little privacy. It will change the entire way you react to sex, I guarantee it!Yes, let me know how things go, I think it will just get better and better for you. Oh, and the road to orgasm is one of the best parts of orgasming in general, but we still need to get you to a more powerful orgasm pinnacle!Hey Again.. I know I was shocked when I saw this Show on HBO called "Pornucopia" and the porn stars talked about faking it and rarely having actual orgasms on camera. It really made me wonder what it is really like, and how the orgasms really feel. Yeah I know he could pay for the room but he always says no, So I gotta settle for my room no matter what.. I guess I can be honest and say that he's just a fuck buddy... he comes over when I want him to basically. Okay so the guy friend that I've been talking about.. his name is Aaron... he's pretty good to me, the guy that came over last night his name is Adam and he was a total dud. First of all I have been with him before... the first time was wham! Bam! thank you ma'am!! Meaning I gave him a 2 second blow job and he fucked me for all of 5 minutes before he came, rolled over and went to sleep like he thought he could just spend the night. I'd been really upset at him for doing that to me so after alot of begging from him, I gave him another shot... which is why I let him come over last night... He said he comes really fast the first time and so I gave him a quick blow job.. he said he'd need a few minutes before we could get to the sex... I said okay... and then he fell asleep, pushed me out of my bed and I sat at my computer desk and watched him sleep for 3 hours...I was truly pissed off.. and got even more pissed off everytime he'd wake up and I'd tell him to leave because he'd go back to bed... I finally got him to leave and once he was gone I pulled out my vibrator and had some fun. Aside from Aaron who always is trying to help me come faster and have better orgasms... the rest of my sexual experiences have been horrible.. I am always left hanging unfortunately... so that's why I came back here to this forum.. I want to have better sex, orgasms and everything inbetween. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jojo1231 Posted June 17, 2009 Members Report Share Posted June 17, 2009 You really need to get a better set of guys. They're using you and the worst part of it, you're letting them. Look, I'm guy so if the guy isn't going to at least treat you right in bed...move on. You can do better, you deserve better, go find better. Sex is at least 50% in the mind...technique helps but the grey matter between the ears can make all the difference. I think the biggest is trust...you don't have to love but you have to trust. If you can't trust him/them, kick them to curb and be done with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sarahangel Posted June 17, 2009 Author Members Report Share Posted June 17, 2009 You really need to get a better set of guys. They're using you and the worst part of it, you're letting them. Look, I'm guy so if the guy isn't going to at least treat you right in bed...move on. You can do better, you deserve better, go find better. Sex is at least 50% in the mind...technique helps but the grey matter between the ears can make all the difference. I think the biggest is trust...you don't have to love but you have to trust. If you can't trust him/them, kick them to curb and be done with it.Haha you are so right.. I need to pick a better set of guys... I dated this guy Brian for 7 months, tried really hard to make it work but he just was a big fat Liar and very immature and really rude so I dumped him. I mean He doesn't have a car or a license so I always had to go pick him up for our dates and what not.. However its been about a month since the last time I had miserable sex with him and dumped him.. now I am worried that I might be pregnant by him. Not that I don't want to be pregnant... Lord knows I want a baby bad... just not with my Ex... and not when I am getting ready to move out of state. I've not really had A true orgasm at all.. And I guess it is because I am in love with my neighbor... have been for 2 years and all because he led me to believe there was something between us by making out with me in secret a couple nights a week.. He never once mentioned his pregnant girlfriend and I found out about her the day she pulled up to his house 9 months pregnant and he kissed her when he came out to meet her... didn't see me sitting on my porch. Anyhow her and the baby now live with him and as stupid as this sounds... I totally in love with him even though he told me to leave him alone last 4th of July after he came home wasted and made out with me on the hoof of his car... all of the sudden he's e-mailing me on myspace telling me to leave him alone... that he had a girlfriend who didn't want him talking to me. Its funny he's never told me to my face to leave hm alone or that he hates me... its always by myspace... he's a coward lol.I guess I have fantasized so much about being with my neighbor that its ruining my sex life?? OR that I am not allowing myself to thoroughly enjoy sex because its not with him?? I don't know how to get over him when I see him every damn day looking so unbelievably sexy.. especially when he's playing with his daughter... I've actually almost fought with his girlfriend a couple times now lol. Wow I am screwed up lol!!I welcome any advice ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TopCat Posted July 16, 2009 Members Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 Leave all of those guys alone. You can never fix them or change them. THEY are the one's that are fucked up. Move on. Love finds you. As for orgasms, Get good toys and relax. Karma will catch up to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Chandra Ballard Posted December 4, 2013 Members Report Share Posted December 4, 2013 So true,,you have years ahead of you and you'll find the rhythm thats right for you.Some things are worth the wait. Cheer up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Chandra Ballard Posted December 4, 2013 Members Report Share Posted December 4, 2013 So true,,you have years ahead of you and you'll find the rhythm thats right for you.Some things are worth the wait. Cheer up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Chandra Ballard Posted December 4, 2013 Members Report Share Posted December 4, 2013 Sorry didnt mean to post twice. Still getting used to the site and its quirks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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