From Bi-curious To Bi-sexual ...

[12GAUGE]

Today my SO and were doing some profile updating on another forum we frequent. When we got to the question about my sexual preference, I put bi-curious. He said “BS, you are bi.” I looked at him like he was nuts. He said “have you been with another woman” and my answer was yes, once. Then he asked if I liked it and I said yes. Then he asked if I would be with another woman. “Yes,” I said. “Then you are bi,” he said.

Hmmm. So, I mentioned this to a female friend of mine during chat … and she sort of agreed with him. Double hmmmm. She and I proceeded to discuss this and could not really decide when a person is considered bi. I mean, I am in a serious relationship with a man and I wasn’t looking for a woman to have a serious relationship with, but I can appreciate an attractive woman.

So, what do you all think? When does a woman (or man) go from being bi-curious to bi-sexual? Is one sexual encounter with a person of the same gender, and a willingness to possibly do it again, enough to classify a person as bi?

Wow. Who knows??

I read about half of the replies here before answering.

Each of us is a specific individual. As such we each will learn who we are as we travel this road of life.

Speaking only for myself I find that of late I am attracted to gay men in the twink-leather-shemale and crossdresser varieties. Where women are concerned Dommes and Mistress take center stage.

For the first time in my life I am exploring my sexuality guilt free and loving every new opportunity to do so.

I can't answer your question. But every time I get on CL I go to the m2m section.

Peace

12G

[12GAUGE]

Ginger J said it best when eliminating labels. I am a lover of humans. To date I've taken only men to bed and married two. I have always been heartily aroused by women as well. It is the person I respond to--gender tends to be an afterthought for me. I have been hanging with a woman recently and if given the opportunity would make love to her in a minute. It was her smile, wit and grace that compelled me to talk to her. It was my ex-husband's hands, confidence and stature that drew me to him. If someone wants to label my actions and desires--fine, whatever blow their skirt up. For me, I love who I love, no explanation needed.

What she just said.

Shazaaaam...

[SensualWoman]

I have to completely agree with mikayla's statement. Until I have a sexual experience with a woman, I will not declare myself as "Bi", but only as bi-curious, because I may want to try it, doesn't mean that I will like it or want to do it again. Now, I can tell you right now that I love my best friend's breasts, I like grabbing at them and such, but I am in no way attracted to her in that regard! I just like to admire what God's given her. So I would have to say it becomes bi-sexual when you have done it, liked it and, want to do it again.

[nightowl]

Since I can remember, I've always associated myself as being straight, but not narrow. Basically meaning that I know i like men, but if I ever had feelings for a girl I would accept them. I've never had any emotional or sexual desire to be with a woman, although I always had fun making out with some of my girl friends. And I have always been physically attracted to women, but only that.

Recently, I found myself extremely interested in a woman, a transgender woman to be more exact. I find her very attractive! I'd always known she was naturally a man but didn't have feelings for her until now. She still has her past gender genitalia, but she also has AMAZING breasts!! (she knows I like her and we've fooled around a little)

I had touched breasts before, but never in a sexual way, and I've come to find I think they are a fantastic addition to things, I fianlly understand why men like them so much, lol!

Anyways I really like her a lot. And I like her for who she is. I find that I'm of course attracted the fact that she still has her past parts, but I'm also attracted to the fact that the rest of her is a woman.

So, I'm not really sure what to call my orientation anymore. I find that yes, I do love breasts, but I know that I'm not attracted sexually to the pussy.

If we end up dating, she'd be my girlfriend which I'm totally fine with, but I just don't know what my true sexual orientation is anymore! This is the first time I've seriously questioned this. Am I bi? I dont think so. If so, I'm like 90/10 And I guess on the kinsey scale or whatever its called I'm like a 1, but what am I? Is there a word for someone who likes men and transgender women?

I cant be straight, I love breasts and other small aspects of a woman, but I'm not bi, I don't have an emotional/sexual desire to actually be with a natural woman.

Can anyone help me out here? Thank you.

~MK

i agree with many others, screw the labels and be who you are. i am a married mother of two and am extremely bicurious and love to watch girl on girl porn. ive never been with another woman, and i dk if i could go down on one, but i know i could fool around and maybe take it farther. i cant wait to find a new friend to make my new best girlfriend so i can explore that curiousity!! Just have fun!

[ricksgirl]

Bi or bi-courious, that is a question that I think many women ask themself more and more these days. I think that if you have had experience with both men and women and love every min of it then that clasifies you as"BI". However if you have thought about being with the same sex over and over agian and have not had the chance to explore those feelings or you have only tried it a little once or twice and want to explore more aspects of the concept then that classifies you as "BI-Courious". To be honest though the way I see it is if you have done it and love it then who really cares what you should be clasified as Just live life to the fullest and enjoy every minute of it!!!!!!

[sterculius]

http://www.cleansheets.com/coverstories/ga..._01.04.06.shtml I found this article very interesting. It relates well to questions that I've been having regarding my own sexual proclivities. Any opinions?

[Smile4Me]

I think people get far too hung up on labels when it comes to sexual orientation. I think the term "bisexual" is really just a personal declaration or an announcement with no for-sure definitive answer. It's putting yourself in a box with a certain definition so that other people may understand you better, that's all. Otherwise, it's meaningless. I know people who have experienced both sexes but still call themselves "bi-curious". I also know self-proclaimed "gay" guys who have never even been with a woman sexually before. I identify as bisexual, but there are a gah-zillion people who would tell me I couldn't possibly be bisexual because I'm married to a man, which automatically means I'm more attracted to men than I am women (which is totally false). I think the term holds different meanings for different people and it's all a matter of perception. The line is where the Individual draws it...I don't think the concept is scientific in the least.

[Zinger]

I, would say I am definitely bi-curious. I, often fantasize about having a 3 way with a guy and my wife. When I was about 12 me and a friend jerked each other off and we went as far as to do anal on each other and this happened off and on for about a year. We never spoke to any one about it and after I felt ashamed of myself but finally got over it. I, looked at it as we were young and just checking things out. It never happened again and until recently I never even gave it a thought. I, know my wife would never go for anything like this she that is just that way she is so for me my curiosity will just have to stay. If I had the opportunity I'm sure I would go bi-sexual. Maybe I was bi-sexual now I'm bi-curious??

[Dutches1908]

Greetings Group! I am not confused anymore about what I am. I've been married for 7 years now but I love everything about a woman... and a man. I love the smell,  taste and curve appeal of a woman and the testosterone driven behaviors, and strong shafts of men. My husband knows how I am but it's hard for me to explore the "other" side myself because it's hard for me to find a quality, willing  woman partner. Any advice on how to attract a genuine woman friend/partner? 

[12GAUGE]

On 4/18/2016 at 5:56 PM, Dutches1908 said:

Greetings Group! I am not confused anymore about what I am. I've been married for 7 years now but I love everything about a woman... and a man. I love the smell,  taste and curve appeal of a woman and the testosterone driven behaviors, and strong shafts of men. My husband knows how I am but it's hard for me to explore the "other" side myself because it's hard for me to find a quality, willing  woman partner. Any advice on how to attract a genuine woman friend/partner?

If I knew the answer to this question like as not I'd be well coupled and coupled well.

[Tyger]

I met my GF on a dating website. Some sites have options of whether or not you like men, women, or no preferences.

I asked my GF how she met many of her previous GFs, and she said at gay bars, just playing pool. They'd come up to her.

[krisleightate]

I don't label myself as bi-sexual or heterosexual or homosexual.  I love who I love.  Their gender has nothing to do with it.  My Uncle Mark, who is very much out as a homosexual man, had a girlfriend for almost 4 years.  He loved her, she was not a cover.  He wanted to marry her.  He has told me that she is the only woman he has ever been attracted to, and the only woman he ever had sex with.  He loved who she was, not her gender.  All the labels and such are rubbish in my mind.  Either way your heart will love who it will love regardless of what label you or society says you should fit under.

[12GAUGE]

On 5/6/2016 at 6:55 PM, Tyger said:

I met my GF on a dating website. Some sites have options of whether or not you like men, women, or no preferences.

I asked my GF how she met many of her previous GFs, and she said at gay bars, just playing pool. They'd come up to her.

Yes yes and YES. On those rare occasions I felt I could not go one more minute without the touch of someone touching me sexually I jump in my truck and head for a gay bar about 80 minutes away.

It's a Jim Dandy place too.

The Cuff.  

 

When I was in my late 20s and 30s there was a singles newspaper I'd sometimes pickup that had ads. Met at least 1 gal thru it. I member her like it was 5 minutes ago. Met a great little country gal in I think the Little Nickel. Member her like it was 10 minutes ago. Writing long letters then yakkin on the phone is my speed.

 

I'm horny.

[12GAUGE]

On 4/18/2016 at 5:56 PM, Dutches1908 said:

Greetings Group! I am not confused anymore about what I am. I've been married for 7 years now but I love everything about a woman... and a man. I love the smell,  taste and curve appeal of a woman and the testosterone driven behaviors, and strong shafts of men. My husband knows how I am but it's hard for me to explore the "other" side myself because it's hard for me to find a quality, willing  woman partner. Any advice on how to attract a genuine woman friend/partner? 

If you live close enuf to a large town/city research if there's a gay or lesbian bar there. I found quite by accident a dyke bar in the mid 70s in Seattle by just walking in off the street. I am a hillbilly so it took awhile for all the hints to drop into place and solve the puzzle. Boy howdy did I feel like a rube. It was also a major turn on and a lil bit scary cuz these wimmin HATED men. No one was friendly and conversation was kept at a minimum.  Don't member the name but it was on 1st Ave in Seattle. Back when adult **book stores** titty palace joints and XXX theaters were all downtown or across the railroad tracks in the sleazy parts of town.

 

Definitely google search alternative clubs/bars in your closest large city. I am a member over at FetLife.com under another name. Oh and another sexually charged website I am a member but they might be way over most TT heads but PM me I'll lay it on ya.

[RC4BLUE]

Straight, gay, bi, pan.... Labels may help some of us and not others depending on who we are and how we live. Personally I know I am not 100% straight or 100% gay. I could not be in an exclusive relationship with a man, while I could with a woman. Yet there are certain men that I find exceptionally attractive sexually. Women always sexually attractive and attractive in many more ways to me.

[Biguy89]

For me i didnt say i was bisexual until after i had first full encounter with anotheran before that i had just made out with men from time to time