i used to dread giving head more than a couple times during the whole relationship. like i got tired of it, but now with jeremy, i enjoy it as much as he does (if thats possible)...i love just randomly going down on him, and giving him the little finger slippage, which makes him even harder (i didnt know it was possible for a guy to get even bigger than he normally is hard, but it really happened) i probably went down on jeremy 5 times yesterday. i just love the taste of him, which is really weird for me...i cant get enough of it...i love driving him wild too. as for the whole hand thing, im not sure if id mind if he just placed it lightly on my head, but as soon as there is pressure i just look at him and tell him nope get that away from my head. it doesnt take away from the experience at all. you just have to be open with what you want or dont want, and you both will be exremely pleased. crznbye - i love the musky odor of a guy...plus its a real hassle to have to shower immediately before oral sex. a lot of the times its a spur of the moment kinda thing and taking a shower before would really ruin the mood. unless of course you both take it to the shower, and fool around in there, and then go out and perform the oral. but a shower every time? theres already too much water being wasted as it is... Jen - you go girl!