I have 2 problems (maybe not problems, but dilemmas that relate) and would like some advise. My best friend and I had a conversation a few years ago. She knows I enjoy girl on girl, and she had decided to let me know she was willing to try it. I told her I couldn't do that, as I was afraid it would make our friendship uncomfortable and strained. (That was 6 years ago) Well, lately, as my husbands and my sexual relationship has been hotter and better than ever before , I now find myself thinking about a girl on girl relationship again. (I haven't done it in 6 years). And it's my best friends face I see in my fantasies . I also know this is something my husband would love to be involved with. I would never involve this friend with that, but am torn between finding someone to let him have this experience and not doing this at all, as this is the same situation that was the demise of my first marriage. My exhb fell in love with the girl we introduced to our relationship. (She was a VERY good friend of mine, they are now married and she is the step-mother of my 2 children). All I wanted to do was to please my exhb - and that's where it got me. Now, I would love to please my current hb, but am very afraid. Boiled down, (1) do I ask my friend if she's still interested and (2) how do I please my hb without feeling scared or threatened? Does anyone have an opinion or advise to these 2 issues. Thanks in advance