Sunday

Sadly, we bought a new house that doesn't have a good place for a play room. Our old one had a double bed that was a spindle bed that I cut the spindles off of the footboard. The spindle headboard was great for having places to tie ropes. We had a hook in the ceiling a couple of feet inside the door and various hooks above the bed. We didn't use those much - they just didn't work out for the things we wanted to do. But I engineered a hook over an open space where we hung a swing that we used a lot. She LOVED it. There was a bench from a workout set that was about 3 feet long and 18" off of the floor, and a big overstuffed chair. We didn't do a lot with fancy lighting, just a table lamp by the bed, but I always thought I could get creative with the lighting. It was great, and we both talk about how much we miss it.

Part of our D/S relationship is she takes my cock in her mouth every day. After 30 years I sometimes forget (I know, how can you for get that?) If I'm not on it, she reminds me.

My wife and I have a D/S relationship, but only when it comes to sex. We lead a normal plain vanilla life until it is time to play, then she becomes Girl and I am Sir. It took a while for me to believe she was so willing to submit to my sexual whims, but I have come to fully embrace it and we both fall into our roles comfortably. I feel it clear to my loins when I give her a command and she looks at my feet and says, “Yes Sir.” We have a spare bedroom that is the “playroom” with various hooks in the ceiling, a single bed, an easy chair, and a bench - and a big drawer full of ropes and toys. I can post details - and a surprise - if there is any interest.

Hello again Too Timiders. I was a regular here several years ago - I see by my profile that I first joined in 2009 - but drifted away. Over the years I learned a lot, was entertained a lot - had a good time. I happened to think of this forum again and decided to drop back in. I recognize some names - like finding old friends. Anyway, I'm here looking around and hopefully contributing something. Take it easy. Sunday

My wife was looking for one to try and we got this http://www.tootimid.com/first-time-g-spot-tulip-vibrator-6512.html It's the right size (about 1 1/4 at the fattest). With the wand type handle it was easy to use and had decent action. We liked it for the 3 or 4 times it worked but the whole switch area crumbled to pieces after a few uses. I guess it's what we should have expected for $20. I'm looking right now for something similar that is well built.

There are so many different toys. My wife and I have tried several and there were hits and misses. Some, like the rabbits, do nothing for her. Dildos - nada. OTOH restraints, floggers, and crops are part of nearly every playtime for us now. My wife loves the little Cushee butt plugs, but those are the only ones she likes. If you are worried about cost, the most cost effective toys we have are some 1/2 inch rope and a soft black scarf we use for a blindfold. My point is there is so much out there to try, if you keep looking you'll surely find something that works for you.

Thinking can lead to sex, yes. About the 40 thing - it's been a while since I was around a woman of that age, so I can't help you.

You sound fine LB. I think it sucks to be him. He's stuck with himself, but you can move on. Don't give him the power to drag you down. I like RG's advice. You need to be with a person who appreciates you.

Nothing wrong with being picky. You have your standards and your preferences. I'm glad that you wish to honor them.

Wendy? I'm hangin' here. Tap, tap, tap.

I don't know if there is an idea. It depends on my mood. I think we probably do missionary most of all. We often do three or four positions and finish in missionary. She seems to have the most intense orgasms that way.

Must just be the women I know. We know for a fact that this 5.5" circumference unit is too big for my girl. We tried it. She said she'd take it if I want her to, but it hurts and distracts her. I threw it out. I want her to have fun. http://www.tootimid.com/suction-cup-hard-on-dildo.html

You are wise for a 29 year old, Samma. Rushing to judgement slams the door on many interesting experiences.

There are people who can easily switch. It would be difficult in a 24/7 D/s relationship unless you are a couple that just role plays at playtime. Just remember, you set the rules, so don't worry about what anyone else thinks.

Wow, it's been almost a year and I can't believe I haven't responded. My take on 50 Shades was it was a woman's fantasy and an insight into what some women think. The popularity of it leads me to believe some = a lot of women who are interested in or curious about domination and submission. The book was a launching pad for a new way of being for my SO and I. It gave here an opportunity to talk about her feelings of wanting to be a sub, and we took it from there. It has been a very interesting journey.