liminal76

I am 34 years old, petite, attractive & single. I say this because most people I know would not believe that I am quite shy when it comes to sex. Mentally I love it. I have fantasies all the time. My ex-friend of 3 months broke up with me and it really has thrown me for a loop. When we first started talking, he told me that he was into sex with multiple partners. When we broke up we had the conversation again and he asked me if I would be into that. I told him that I was not sure as I have never done it before but would be open to it if I was with someone I trusted. A few weeks after that I found out that he was shopping around while we were still together. Though this relationship was short, he was the type of guy that told me he wanted to marry me & have babies & all that comes with it. Well, of course I was turned upside down when I found out more about him. But it got me to thinking, I am just not sure how to handle sex without an emotional commitment. Also, I do not know how to pleasure myself. This frustrates me because I do enjoy sex. How can I find the balance and learn more about what makes me happy? This may sound like a simple thing to most people, but I really feel lost and it makes me sad. I do not always want to rely on a man, but I don't want to be completely independent. I just feel ilequipted and also feel like my relationship may have ended because I did not know how to take my sexual relationship to the next level. Any serious advice you may have would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

I am currently in a long distance relationship. I am unable to talk to him because he is on a cruise and it costs $4.00 a minute to talk. However, we are able to text. Every time I try to think of naughty messages to send to him, my mind goes blank. I am still getting used to talking dirty, but I don't want to lose momentum on the fun we are having through text messages. Any sample phrases would be greatly appreciated (and fun.) thanks!

thanks everyone for all the feedback...it is really enlightening. the truth is, he honestly does not taste that bad, but there is a taste. I never really liked going down on a guy. then i started dating a man about 2 years ago and could not get enough of it. the transition to my new BF is where i got hung up (no pun intended.) i think most women enjoy the taste...not me. i want to give it to him good, but i need to get over my issues. i like all the advice on the food. i really never knew it had an effect on everything.

Smoking? serious? i had no idea, but now it makes sense. we've been dating for almost a year and really don't have sex often because of our work schedules. i don't want to add fuel to the fire (and certainly don't want to make an issue of it) but how do i tell him the real problem? he smokes and is not planning on quitting anytime soon. i just want to get back in the mood and make him really want me.

i enjoy going down on my bf, but i am struggling with the taste of precum. he's asked my why i stopped and i cannot bear to tell him the truth. does anyone know any tricks to going down on him while i work on getting used to the taste? thanks.