Nebrakadesra

To be honest, you have nothing to worry about (assuming you have a healthy sexual relationship). Most women I know (myself included) are turned on by girl-on-girl action and some (... myself included) have even tried it on for size. In one of her blogs on this site, Mikayla stated that women in today's society are bred to be more open and connect easier with other women which is why you tend to see women exploring their bi-curiosity more than their male counterparts would. This is very true! Women know what women want and when we see things such as lesbian scenes in a porno we tend to... long... for those same touches because we know it gets the job done the way we want it done. Now, I am in no way saying that men are incapable of giving us what we want and satisfying us (God knows you men do!). But there's a certain satisfaction that comes with having someone read your mind. My advice? Follow what Tyger said and surprise her with an all-girl DVD. Subtly study her bodily responses (No, don't put on your galoshes and check to see if the water main between her legs has blown). Watch for quickening breaths, dilated pupils, and fidgeting (Such as her legs are moving more then normal; maybe there is a noticeable rhythmic shifting?). Does she lean more towards the TV during certain scenes? If you notice these things pay attention to what is on the screen and take mental notes for later so you can reenact that particular nibble or tongue flick for her. In summation, quell the insecurities. I highly doubt your wife is looking to taco bump.

Based on the few facts you have given, I can't say definitively that your boyfriend has an addiction to porn. I completely agree with MsLayD in the idea that if a vice (I am in no way condemning porn! I, personally, love it. But, for OP's boyfriend it is classified as one.) interferes with normal life it's a huge problem. Does it interfere with daily life or just your personal sex life with him? Does he still make time to talk and visit with family or hang out with friends? Or does he chose to, once again, dive head first into his immense collection? [A side note on porn collections: a large one does not necessarily denote an addiction, either. It may be that he has many different interests and fetishes and picks and chooses based on his mood in that moment.] If he does, he needs help. If he does not then there is only one thing that pops into my mind. He no longer wants to invest the time and emotions into your relationship. In other, less eloquent wording, he was over you two a very long time ago. It is true that LTR's experience high's and low's involving sex, but the complete lack of sexual interest is a key indication that he's moved on (Another would be that you two have been together for six years and have yet to marry, though there may be extenuating circumstances behind the decision). In my honest opinion, you need to do everything in your power to keep yourself happy. If this has been going on for an extended period of time, maybe it's time to consider other options. You need to watch out for yourself because this has seemed to become very detrimental to your mental and emotional wellness.

First off, let me start out by saying that I am not a new player to the threesome game. I've had a few (two successful, one not so much) and thoroughly enjoyed the experiences- it was, after-all, my ultimate fantasy at one point in time. Here's the issue I'm currently facing: I have known my SO for three years (one of which we have been officially committed to one another). He's currently serving the country overseas and we've had more opportunities to talk about sex more in depth than we did when he was home. The subject of a threesome was brought up in a recent conversation. He absolutely, without a doubt, wants to experience it. While we were talking about it, I was game. I made sure to tell him that with something like this comes rules [The first, and only, bad threesome I've had was a caution-to-the-wind type where I was ambushed with the offer as soon as my third cocktail was consumed. Let's just say, the night ended in tears (not on my part, might I add)] and those rules must be followed in order to ensure the relationship doesn't suffer. He agreed. But now... I'm not so game at the idea. You see, my SO has cheated. He was away for 6 months and let his loneliness- and the impulsiveness that accompanies it- dominate him. Suffice it to say, I almost ended things but I gave him one chance to prove to me that it wouldn't be a continual thing. He hasn't strayed since. But, the thing that has crept into my mind and made itself comfortable there, is that if I agree to this and we find our 3rd and do the deed, is that he'll get a taste for women other then myself. My rational side acknowledges that these insecurities are just that, insecurities; and my rational side knows that he loves me and would do everything in his power to NOT mess up and lose me. But, my emotional side is still worried. Is this is a good idea for me and for us? Or should I take these insecurities and view them as my instincts telling me it's not a good situation and just tell him that, no, I'm sorry, but I won't be able to handle it? At a loss here, any suggestions or insight?