I feel the same way, I've always wondered if I'm not as sensitive as most women are? I do love hair pulling while in doggy or giving him oral. I've only had ass spanking with my DH and it's okay, it's fun at moments but sometimes he throws it in at awkward moments, so I just ignore and get his hands occupied in other places I have had him (very PLAYFULLY mind you) choke me a little bit when he and I were both about to cum and it was SOOOOOOOO amazing. It wasn't like I couldn't breathe, just a little tension. I asked him to do it or he never would have otherwise! Definitely going to try it again and experiment some more when he gets home. I'm a very lucky lady to have found my DH who's willing to experiment with me