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My list: Ski Gondola, balcony of a downtown hotel, 1 night with an expensive prostitute, with a cock ring, BJ in a limo, in a dance club, with a lady who doesn't speak English, in a warm rain, "Russian", "mile high club", and make a video. Just quick ramblings off the top of my head. Of course my marriage is much more important than the list so the items that would entail cheating will not happen - but always fun to fantasize. Great question "Triple B" - Thanks

Great job getting that off your chest!! My Turn - My pecker is 5.5 inches long and very fat, wish it was bigger but nothing I can do about it. I read all the posts from the ladies about ideal length/girth and I don't measure up. Can kill the self-esteem.

Purely situational. Usually I need to get off in less than 5 minutes due to life related time constraints. Ideally I like to take 45 minutes or more actually teasing myself and working on stamina. About 3 months ago I spent 4 hours cumming 3 times while watching porn.

Treat her like a lady

Rabbit, It is normal to have fantasies about someone(s) besides your partner - that makes you human. It is also normal and OK (in my opinion) to be aroused by the writings of someone else or the sights, sounds or smell of another. However, what makes you a good person in the relationship is not to act on it if you have made the commitment to a monogamous relationship. I also believe it is fine to masturbate to the thoughts of that person. Just my ramblings.

Love to have tunes during play time. The music needs to match the mood however: i.e. no AC/DC during slow, soft and sensual. My favorite of all time with music was in my early 20's, light buzz, low purple lighting, my partner and I were totally into each other, and we built up intensity during Led zeppelin's Cashmere. It was the perfect piece for the moment; the music builds in speed and intensity and so did we. We had simultaneous O's at the end of the song and agreed it was the perfect music. 20 years later when I here that song I'm instantly transplanted back to that magical moment and I have a smile on my face.

I like to watch what we are doing; my wife does not. She actually asks me to close my eyes if she catches me with them open. So I close them for a bit and re-open to get the visual stimulation that I crave when I know she will have them shut. She says she likes to focus on the sensations and can do a better job with such with her eyes closed. By the way, I have never asked her to open them. So I ask: Do you play with eyes open or closed? I wonder if gender makes a difference.

IRL - I'm witty, chatty but not loud. My wife is an extravert. In the bedroom, it is completely situational. If no one is around and we are playing, then ear plugs would be a good thing for both of us. If we are being more sensual or the kids are home then it is just bed noise with some low moans and groans. I would have to say over the years I have became a bit louder and my wife has become less vocal. Her clitoral orgasms have always been very quiet.

Thanks - Time to find and try.

I have never used a Cock ring. What is the purpose: like making you bigger or last longer and does it do anything for the lady?

OK - that review made me hot and here I am at work - nothing like walking around the work place trying to hide my erection.

I think my wife would enjoy - just a few questions: Is this designed for solo play? Inside or out? How long does the warming last? I wonder if it would help prepare the G-spot.

Please give me daily that was no less than 30 minutes each time and a preferred hour plus with lot's of experiment and explore. In actuality It's 2-3 times per week averaging 10 minutes start to finish secondary to time constraints and usually missionary. I take matters into my own hands about 3 times a week to help relieve the "wedge pressure".

I've never been involved in a forum or chat of any kind - anyplace. Why now? I adore good sex, love it, significant importance in my life. Unfortunately things and people change. My sex life is not what it used to be and I really miss those days. I saw the link from tootimid and thought I should try and get other's perspectives on things. Just don't know if I should list some discussion items here or make new posts. Thanks