Hi Konav, first off welcome to the forums we are a great group on here so read threads ask questions but most of all just have fun. That being said I don't think either one of you are being selfish, some women don't like to give blowjobs for one reason or another, I would suggest asking her what about giving a blowjob dosen't she like? if its about taste there are a number of different products on TooTimid that are flavored which you could talk to her about as well as a lot of house hold food products, IE. Honey ( my Wens favorite) , chocolate syrup, jellys, jams, ECT. as far as shaving her vagina my girl does all the time and has for years and she has no troubles because of it , I myself shave for her , Is she on here with you, if not maybe you should invite her to sit and read through the forum threads with you there is a lot of great information on here posted by a great group of well rounded people from all around the sexual spectrums, hope to see more of your posts on here and just talk to your SO and find out what she dosent like about your requests and try to work around the issues.
Happy Sexing