I read an article online about how to be the best at oral sex. First, dont say blowjob. It shouldnt be considered as a job. Pleasing others should be approached with an eager and positive mindset. This is the same with pleasing a woman orally. The receiver should be positioned comfortably and given time to relax. The receiver may also request soft music, scented candles, or even a gentle massage. The giver's first role is to do anything to help the receiver relax. When the time comes to begin forget every porno you have seen.....unless it is a how-to guide to oral sex. If you have your own technique that is flawless, use it, but be careful not to over stimulate. The receiver is still relaxing. You may also need to inform the receiver that you are about to begin so you do not startle them. While performing oral sex on a guy use both of your hands as well. Cup his balls, grip the base of his cock, and slowly slide your lips and tongue down and up his cock. Stroke his cock while asking him how he wants you to continue. He is the only person who knows what feels good to him. He should also feel comfortable enough with you to ask you to play with his ass. Remember, you are pleasing him. Performing oral sex on a woman is just as delicate. Most women dont want the giver to be too aggressive. Always begin gently, if she wants you to be aggressive she will let you know when and how. Ask her what she wants you to do.