Mrslonely89

Ps. He is on a very low dose of suboxone. Pls dont knock the treatment.

My husband and I have been together 6 years. The first 4 years of our relationship he had a serious drug problem...resulting in him cheating as well as a number of other things. Anyways, he is now sober and on suboxone which has been known to lower drive in men. At first he blamed his low drive on the medication. Then at times he blamed me nagging him. Hes blamed it on several things but as he grows in his recovery hes shared that the guilt of the cheating he did in active addiction hit him hard in recovery, and he says that he feels like a piece of crap when he is intimate with me and initiates sex. He says this is why he isnt interested in sex...because it is something he is working on (sex addiction or cheating addiction) I have coped as best as I could for the last two years. However these are the parts that make this confusing for me...when I initiate he never turns me down, but he also doesnt participate much (lays there and insists I do the work). Its like he wont get on top or do any work and I dont know if it is because he cant stay hard due to medication unless I am on top? But everything I read (I have masters degree in social work and studied psychology quite a bit) says limbido lost die to medication means no interest in porn either and he is watching porn like every other day. So I dont know what to thing. Can medication cause you to not be interested in your S/O but still interested in porn? Or is he not suffering from low limbido at all and is this a psychological thing going on like he says in regards to the cheating he did years ago and the guilt? It's been two years of having to initiate to get laid and feeling undesired by my husband. Please help.