IanD33

Me, for many years now, but I can't seem to tell her.

I've been with my fiancée (we recently decided to wed) for a while and I've always wanted to share her with another man. I told her once during sex and the idea got her horny. However, how to make her understand that I really want this, is a totally different thing. I don't know how to tell her without freaking her out. Any idea?

Dear reader, A few days ago, my partner recommended we do something different to spice up our sex life. We've been together for over 10 years and I felt (I guess she did too) that our sex life needed some change. I was excited to hear her say that, but when I asked what she meant or what she was thinking about she was hesitant to answer. Sounded like she wanted me to propose something. At the moment, I didn't know what to propose because I felt my deepest fantasies (threesome, swinging or cuckolding even) we're a bit too extreme and would scare her away. I know she was exhibitionistic fantasies and sex in public, but I feel that's too extreme as well. So, since this is a forum on relationships and advices, what, if any, are your experiences in the matter and what steps have you taken in your relationships to "spice" things up? Thank you for your input.