My husband of 17 years has no sex drive, either. We have 2 kids, 16 and 14, then did it, like, 5 times in the next 1.5 decades. We finally got it together last weekend, agreed to at least every 2 weeks, and I feel so much closer to my husband, now. Initiate sex (although by the end of the dry spell, I didnt care, half the time), because the longer you go w/o, the easier it is to continue to go w/o. GOOD LUCK