Hi Mac73,
You might want to talk to your Doctor about taking herbal supplements to help you.
Please research Red Maca, Korean red panax ginseng, vitex berry, Rhodiola and Wild yam.
Best of luck. 🫶
Sorry this is happening to you. You not getting hard only during role playing does not excuse her on stepping out on you. She failed to talk to you about it and went out and cheated on you.
You issue sounds like a fantasy that you are allowing to dictate your erection. All men go through some similarities especially as we get older. But there are things you can take naturally that can get you hard without role play.
I take horny goat weed with red korean ginseng and maca. When I am not in the mood for love making. I go through depression and this affects me sometimes. The thing with any supplement wether it's natural or viagra. Don't take it all the time and also don't start with high doses. You also have to make sure you are healthy enough to take supplements as most area deal with blood flow.
Some people that take supplements and don't workout may have heart attack. So be careful and consult with you health care provider.
In closing: The conversation you two had should've occurred before she was caught cheating. It isn't your fault. Therapy can help you get over the this and get regular again. I was all over the place with suggestions. But you can message if you need clarification.
I use to sext with a chick from texas. Same old story husband neglected her. We would talk dirty in the DMs. Then she just disappeared. Account deleted and everything. **Poof** I miss her. 😞
I would ease into it with one of those half torsos sex dolls or if you can afford a full sexdoll even better.
I asked for one and my GF said absolutely not! She said my cock is exclusively hers but she has dildos soo.. 🤷
The best part of giving women oral is putting my tongue deep on the side walls and sucking away. This drives them nuts. The vagina has so many points of pleasure. I want to dive in right now on someone. 😜