Hello,
I met someone 7 months ago. I felt great attraction to him, but I was very disappointed when I was unable to be aroused physically. Mentally I wanted him, but my body didn't respond. He was offended and we ended up having an argument. This happened few more times. I went to see a doctor and they discovered that I am pre-menopausal and low on estrogen. I am still having periods. I am sad and devastated that I am incapable of experiencing sexual pleasure. 😢
Some background:
1. 45 years old female, pre menopausal, still having monthly periods. I started hormone replacement therapy a month ago.
2. Due to my upbringing I never had sex before my current relationship (PLEASE don't judge, I have had a difficult life)
3. I can't feel anything when touched in a sexual way, whether by myself or by my man. I do get wet, but do experience dryness. Mentally, I want to make love and I think about sex a lot. However, physically, I don't feel pleasure. This confuses me a lot. I feel like my man rushes into the act and gets frustrated, upset, with me because I am not "responding " the way I should. Why can't I feel anything? My doctor suggested masturbation 2x a week. But I can't get myself aroused physically.
Has anyone experienced anything similar? Am I doomed to life of celibacy 😢 I want to love and be loved, and to experience that deeper level of intimacy.