Maybe I can add something useful too. I had a VERY sheltered sex life early on. I'll omit details as they mirror a lot of the ones already given. One thing that we've found extremely useful in our relationship is "date night." No, I'm not referring to the Dr. Laura/Ruth thing. We don't go out. We stay in, lock the doors, turn off the phones and have a night together. I throw something very easy together for dinner and then we start imbibing. I'm a wine fan and love vodka too. Both will rid me of inhibitions in a heartbeat. He sips beers and we put on whatever music suits our moods. Sometimes we go through 1/2 our CD collection before the right one hits. The drinks, music and laid back tone of the evening ALWAYS lands us in bed (or elsewhere) together. The first few times we had these nights we were just reigniting smoldering fires. Lately, it's been one adventure after another. Doing it in different places around the house and in different positions. I took the ultimate step (to me) recently and we experimented with different entry systems. It was amazing! I think the best thing a couple can do is get into the groove of having one specific night per week that they are just by themselves. Do whatever feels right and you'd be surprised at what happens eventually. I sure was.