Hello trishy, Well just wanted to remind you that there are many way for your lover to please you with his tongue, fingers (and I'm sure more that I can't think of right now) not just his penis. If he is a considerate lover he will make sure that get pleasure from making love.As you get more comfortable with him and your relationship grows you can introduce toys into the mix.I thought my hubby would be against toys being brought into the bedroom but boy, was I wrong. Also the Kegals sound like a great idea. I think i'll give them a try too. Also don't let him know that you think he may be on the small side it won't be good for his confidence or the sex. Have fun honey sexygranny