My husband and I have been together for 22 years. We had problems from the start with different ideas about frequency, sometimes him wanting more and sometimes myself wanting more. We even went through many years with no sex at all. Like you and your husband he is my best friend, we have been through a lot together. We have so much shared history now that I can't imagine leaving. But the sex life is still the weakest part of our relationship. Aging has added physical problems neither of us anticipated. The Urologist says my husband's low sex drive and 2 ED issues aren't treatable. Unless you want to become the queen of masturbation like I have you need to work this problem out. Of course there are times when stress and money worries take their toll on your sex life. But if this has been a problem year after year you may need to think seriously about whether this is the way you want to spend the rest of your life. If I had known a few years into my marriage what I know now I'm not at all sure we'd have stayed married. Sex is such a basic need, almost like eatting or breathing, and believe me it doesn't let you go over time. It's always possible that our husband will come around but staying 'frustratedashell' is a real possibility. I'm sorry if this is a bitter pill to swallow but I wish someone had been this straight with me back when I was younger. Too many well meaning friends gave me the it'll all work out pep talk.