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This situation seems really scary. I know I wouldn't want to be involved in it. I guess it depends on what you're actually looking for. It seems to me that you want to have a happy, healthy, sexual relationship with your boyfriend, but he wants this other thing. I may just be time to hit the road and find someone who is looking for the same kind of relationship as you. Please be careful if you decide to get into this master/slave situation.

Hmm, yeah, that seems like it would totally change the mood of the whole video. Talking about or even mentioning abortion in a porn is absolutely not erotic. It is the complete opposite. After reading your review, Valyntyn, I think I'll stay away from that one. Thanks for the heads up.

Welcome folks! I just wanted to let you know that you've got yourselves started on the right track with this site. I was introduced to it not long ago because my husband and I were having sexual desire issues. This site just sortof jumpstarted us and got us more excited about all the possibilities we have in the bedroom. Getting involved with this forum and this site in general has sparked my interest in sex lately, for sure!!! We've become more erotic and adventurous in bed lately, which is such a turn on in itself! I find myself thinking about sex more often, too, which is great! I think you'll be glad you decided to check into this! Have fun!!!!

Are any of your female friends roommates of yours by chance? It might be easier to get it going that way. Otherwise maybe you could ask them if they wanna come over and watch porn and then it'll happen on its own???? I had a guy roommate when I was in college. His door was right next to mine and we were good enough friends to hang out and joke around and stuff. He ended up puttin a porn on in his room and invited me over to watch with him. We watched and made fun of it and all...Then later we were hanging in my room and listening to music. We talked about being horny. Sooo, he stayed on the floor and pulled his out and I gave him a view of what I was doing from up on my bed. It was really exciting to do this with someone you're not romantically involved with. I ended up climaxing with the help of a toy and when he was about to I let him do it on my chest. We never touched each other(he had a girlfriend) and figured it was fair game. I'm pretty sure she wouldn't have been happy to know about it, though. Hopefully you'll have the chance sometime. It is quite fun!!

Hey there, just wanted to let ya'll know that things are starting to look up for us. We had talked in the past about having a romance night and taking turns kindof running the show. We then made excuses when the day came and ended up not doing it. Well, this week we actually did it and had an amazing time!!!! I think if we keep it up we'll have at least one day a week of sexy goodness! As far as the counseling goes...we went to our first visit yesterday and things went really well. We both felt comfortable with the counselor and it seemed to relieve some tension just by talking about things with the counselor present. One thing I really liked about the lady was that she told us up front that she could help us, but that we were going to have to work hard. She also said that she would be giving up homework on a regular basis. That made us both feel more hopeful, too, like she was really going to be a good match for us. We had gone to a counselor before and she seemed to kindof take the passive route, which probably wasn't the most effective for us. I also introduced my hubby to this site. It was so great looking together through the articles and the products that are offered here. It kindof sparked a new interest for us. Thanks everyone for your encouragement and advice!

I think it's great that so many of you can really have fun and laugh at the things that go on during sexual encounters. Sometimes I'm not able to control my laughter...which ends up killing the mood for my husband. He always thinks I'm laughing at him, when really I'm not. I have really had to try to control myself because he takes it all very seriously. I guess everyone is different and if I want to keep him in the mood I'll have to keep my giggles inside.

Krazikris, I met my husband through eharmony.com, so I it can be a good thing. I guess one of the drawbacks, though, is that you never know if the people are being honest. I guess you just have to try it out and then use your best judgement. I don't know if most internet dating sites make you pay, but I paid an initial $50 to get going with eharmony. I felt like people who were on there were serious about getting into a relationship, not just messing around. You can kindof get an idea of what you're getting into by the way the site is advertised. Some are definitely for just messing around. With eharmony they are more into the serious relationship thing. If I were you I'd decide what I'm looking for and then find a site that seems to be up to your speed. I guess you do have to be careful, though, when meeting people. THere are a lot of crazies out there.

I found your post to be pretty humorous. I am not turned on by this product at all. I haven't used it, but I think I would feel like I was using a kids toy. The bear and the bunny and anything else animal related just seems a little odd to me. I'm sure they can still do the trick for some. Just not for me.

That practicing thing is not a bad idea for getting used to giving head. I just can't get past the taste and the anticipation of him letting go in my mouth. Cum makes me gag and want to throw up.

As far as the sex drive difference, honey, as you have seen, you are SOOOO not alone!!! Some of your issues, may be that of trusting your spouse. You said that you tried bondage, and, you *think* he "accidently" hurt you. Either he did mean too, or it was an accident. That is something to also be addressed with each other, as well as in counselling. Maybe he likes pain? Maybe he did that thinking you could do that to him, and found out you did NOT find that pleasurable? Maybe it was a big f'n OOPS?!! Was he sincere in an apology? Did you get one? If you're scared of him due to this accident, that will need work. For, what relationship can last without the trust? Yeah, it was a bad experience. I had tried to turn it around and do it to him, but he resisted. When experimenting with any sort of sexual activity, such as bondage, then there should always be a "Safe Word" to let the other person know that you are scared, uncomfortable, not liking whatever is being done, and the action STOPS right after the word is spoken. And, it should be a word that can easily be recognized as NON-Sexual, such as "paper, paint, soap, fan, car, photograph" something like those. I'm pretty sure I made it clear that I wasn't enjoying it. I wasn't able to talk, but my body language and sounds I was making should have been enough to get the point across. Afterwards I was mad because he didn't stop. That also may be why your sex drive has gone down: lack of trust. Are you scared it will happen again? We've tried it again since then and I reminded him to go kindof easy. Then he said that ruined it for him because I was telling him how to do it. Ugghh!!! For me it's the idea of being tied up that turns me on. I don't want to be tied up so that it hurts me!!! Can't there be a middle ground? Thanks for your input and the welcome Tyger.

For your eyes only, thanks very much for the encouragement. I'm so bummed out right now and you helped me feel like there really is hope.

Yeah, I guess I won't. I just never knew there were special candles made for that.

On a spur of the moment type of thing I used just regular old candles. It was extremely exciting to me and yes, it was very hot. It wasn't unbearable, though. I guess people have different pain thresholds.

Outdoor sex is great! It feels so liberating to me! It can get a little dirty and sometimes it can be uncomfortable, though. I've had some love wounds on my back and on my knees afterwards. When you're in the heat of the moment you don't realize that you're getting so scratched up!

So my husband and I have been married for 7 months. We've been living together for 2.5 years. We've been together as a couple for 3 years. Our relationship seems like it is on the rocks all the time! We get on each other's cases about little things. When one of us brings up something that's bothering us, the other person doesn't wait long in the conversation before they bring up something else that's bothering them. Then we just get in to a circular conflict where we both are telling the other person what we need and aren't getting from the other. So we do alright getting all the bitching out, but nothing ever gets resolved and depending on how heated it gets it can go on for days. We are so disconnected emotionally and physically. Our sex life is awful. I don't have the drive and he wants me to make all the moves. I try to explain to him that since I'm the one with the lower sex drive then it makes more sense for him to try to initiate and seduce me and get me turned on. He thinks I just don't want him. It's true that he could use some help with his technique, but it's not that I don't want him, I just don't usually feel like having sex. We've been into sex before. The first year or so of our relationship was super in the sack. We got into toys and bondage and that sortof thing. He was really into tying me up and being naughty and I was into it too. That was until he kinda went too far and actually hurt me to the point that I was crying. I don't think he meant to, but he was really into it and I was trying to let him know I wasn't comfortable, but since I had the gag ball thing in my mouth I couldn't really talk. Oh man, now that I've started this I feel like I could go on for a looooong time. Anyway, we have gotten to the point where we have decided to go see a counselor. We went awhile ago before we were married and then we stopped because things seemed like they were getting a little better. Now it's just as bad and we are both really frustrated and know that we need help. I guess I just wanted to get some of this out. I read some of the other posts in this area and it seemed like some folks had a good perspective on things. I'm open to any thoughts you all might have that could help us. Maybe some of you who might have been through some tough times in your relationships and are now happy and fulfilled could give me some pointers. Thanks, in advance.