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    Hot, hard and fast. Morning comes early you know.
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  1. Now it's two days later and I have calmed down quite a bit. I see that I have gotten the ire up on several of you. That was not my intention, I needed to vent. To address the issues that you have put forth: First of all, there is no way, shape or form I would leave this man. The sex part of our marriage sucks, I'll give you that. The rest of our marriage, however, is like a fairy tale. He built me a beautiful home, he fathered two beautiful children, he allows me to grow and evolve into the person that I need to without judging. I have lost money selling Pampered Chef and Big Yellow Box by Crayola. He has never complained. He has always supported me when my MS gets bad. He takes over the household responsibilities, including paying the bills, cleaning, cooking and bathing the children when I can't do it. He cries for me when I am in pain. We are as in love as much today as we were on our honeymoon, if not more so. 7 years of marriage and all of the trials we have faced together has made us stronger. I would not pull my children apart and destroy a family because I am not getting laid good enough. A lot of my frustration the other night was because I have been trying to work with him, and it is slow going. I want progress to be faster. I knew who he was when i married him, and because I let it go for 7 years, it's that much harder to work it out. I am the one that made it acceptable, and for a few years in there, I didn't want anything to do with sex at all because of meds and MS symptoms. When your completely numb from the waist down, what's the point? So it is what he is used to. Now, my symptoms are different, my meds have changed, and along with them, so have my desires. This guy has been driving the same truck for 10 years. He bought it because the Toyota he bought in high school finally quit on him. He is celebrating 21 years with his company this month, a family business he has been with since he was 14 years old. He bought his parents house when they were ready to sell it. I am trying to say that he is not one to change quickly. He does change, and he does try new things, but it's really slow going to get him warm to the idea. I don't know what his pre-me sexual experiences were. From what I can gather, he must have dated some real dead fish. The man has never had any formal training in that area, and I have been too uncomfortable to ask for what I want. This is as much my fault as it is his, and I know that we will eventually work through it. I have made a list of what I like. It is right there in black and white, and when I get up the nuts to, I will hand it to him and we will discuss it. Will it make him squirm? Absolutely, and me too. I will not deny him his pleasure because he is denying me mine. I love him totally and completely and making him feel good makes me feel good. We will get past this, and we will have an amazing and fulfilling sex life but I have to learn to communicate what I need without hurting his ego. He should never be made to feel like he is anything less than a wonderful human being. That is what he is. He is not a control freak. Quite the contrary, as I said, he has allowed me, even encouraged me to evolve into whoever I need to be. He has always been here for me to support me and to give me a leg up when I need one. He is the vice president, of a multi-million dollar company, as well as its sales manager and advertising guy, and he gets damned stressed out and damned tired at the end of the day. Whoever said not to wait 'til bedtime is right, and that is probably part of the problem. The guy crawls into bed, exhausted, and here is his wife demanding that he put out. All he wants to do is go to sleep, because he is doing it all over again tomorrow. The weekends really aren't much of a reprieve, as he has outside stuff to get done. the woodshed is finally full for the winter. He cut and split 14 cord this year. What about me? I get up, get the kids ready for school (on the days that I am able), then I get to take a nap if I want, or go trolling TJMaxx, or fuck off on the internet or whatever it is that I want to do that day. He has never, not once, complained about it. He has never once told me that I couldn't go shopping, or hang out with my friends, or go out for an evening. He has never made me do laundry or clean the house, nor has he ever even asked. When he's out of underwear, he will run a load of laundry. When he can't find the sink, he will do the dishes. We discuss everything. Business, politics, money... we rarely fight, not because we avoid it but because we don't have anything to fight over. Our last big one was when we were building our house, he wanted oak floors, I wanted bamboo floors. We finally compromised and got maple. He wants me to be happy and he wants to make me happy. I need to learn how to tell him what I want, I need to do it with better timing, and things will fall into place. I need to communicate my needs without making him cry. If he knew how unhappy I am with our sex life, he would cry. Hurting him hurts me. In the meantime, I will rant from time to time about how frustrating it is to try to teach an old dog new tricks and I am glad that you are here for me so I can do that.
  2. yeah. i wish he wasnt so freakin' sensitive. there is absolutely no way i can broach the subject without him feeling all inadequate and withdrawing from me. i don't know what kind of crap his mother filled his head with when he was growing up, but she didn't leave me much to work with. He is the absolute most perfect man in every way but this one, and I am so completely in love with him that sometimes I cry. But then there's this part. I literally cannot talk to him about it. When I try, he does one of two things. He either gets defensive and upset or he looks at me like I'm a sick freak. Three things. He will put his good ear in the pillow and pretend he doesn't hear me. We were in the hot tub the other night and he said something about getting the kids to bed so we could have some "alone time" and i said "'ive got some new toys we could try out' and he said 'now why do you have to go and spoil the mood like that'. i was like wtf. i said you're not threatened by toys, right? he said, no but they make me feel like i'm not enough for you. I said that's silly. they're supposed to make it even more fun than it already is and he shut down. end of conversation. done. you know tht how to guide that makayla has out about being multi orgasmic? Well i am, and i miss it. I take care of my own damned business during the day most of the time and if he knew he would feel cheated on. he doesn't do that, but if he did, it would be such a turn on for me. Then, he tells me tonight that giving me oral doesn't "do" anything for him other than being happy that he's making me happy. I said WTF do you think it's supposed to do for you? Jesus Christ. I said what do you think i get out of doing it for you other than loving making you feel that good? He stuck his good ear in the pillow. End of conversation. done. What pisses me off is that he gets it all the freakin' time, and i am always trying to find new ways to make it better. I don't know if he's afraid that he'll do it wrong or what, but i wish he'd make an effort to learn. I'd like to spend some time slapping his mother around for ruining a perfectly good incredibly hot guy with whatever Catholic guilt she put on him growing up. He won't role play, and there's nobody on this earth that i want to fuck more than Jack Sparrow. Holy crap. And even if he did, I wouldn't want the fantasy ruined by the same old boring sex with a guy in a Jack Sparrow wig. When I set up this whole thing like I was his naughty mistress, he came home after he read the note I left for him and didn't play along at ALL. so I said wtf. and he said that the only woman he wants to make love to is his wife. Jesus Christ. It's sweet and all but come ON! Well, I thought i was done venting. I gotta go get some sleep. Turkey shoot in the morning. Need to be rested. This is assuming I can sleep... Thanks for letting me vent again.
  3. I can't even begin to describe how frustrated I am at the moment. Let me start by saying that I don't expect replies, I don't want sympathy or understanding, and I am not looking for advice. I need to VENT and I have no other outlet for it. I am also not editing for typos and if admin wants to pull this then by all means, go for it. I really and truly just need to scream, and since he is SLEEPING i am going to do it here. So here it goes. We had a family thing earlier tonight, and during the family thing, he had ample opportunity to tease me into a frenzy. So we get home and I spend probably 20 minutes (not long, not as long as I'd have liked, but whatever) doing all kinds of neat stuff to him with my tongue. So I tell him that I would love him to return the favor, so no fucking lie, he spends 3, count them THREE FRIGGIN' MINUTES performing oral on me, which he hasn't done in ... how long have we lived here... 2 years? Last time I got oral was in our old house. No shit. So then he fucks me and goes to sleep. What the fuck is that?? It's fucking 8:30 on a Saturday night and the kids are at my mom's house. Seriously. He doesn't like toys. He thinks that he's "not enough" if we use toys, so we've never used toys. I've got some fucking news for him. HE'S NOT ENOUGH. But with the fragile ego he's got, if I even attempted to have a discussion with him about it, he would go into some sort of shell and I wouldn't even get what I'm getting now. What the fuck. I have tried talking to him about it, he won't respond. He literally shuts down when I broach the subject of sex. I want to hit his parents over the head. What the fuck did they do to this guy?! Everything is "dirty". EXACTLY! He didn't marry a fucking NUN for Christ's sake! He married a normal healthy woman on he way into her sexual prime that needs more than a fucking quickie on the way to lights out. Holy crap, if it wasn't for the vibrators that he doesn't even know I own, I don't think I would O at all. Goddammit. 8:30 on a Saturday, no kids, and I'm bitching to a bunch of strangers on a message board about my sex life instead of getting the ride of my life because he is fucking SLEEPING! The rest of my life is perfect and I really should shut the fuck up and accept my lot in life, but I can't because the part of me that is a woman is in a constant state of freakin throbbing because it is never fucking sated. Okay, thanks for the vent. It didn't help, but at least more people know I'm freakin' miserable than just me. I am respectfully asking that you don't insult me with advice. I CAN'T talk to him, he won't talk about it. I'm dealing. I just need to vent on occasion so I don't stick my head in the oven. I have MS and I get depressed about it so my neurologist put me on some antidepressants that killed my libido. I swapped drugs so now my libido is back. he was bitching about the lack of sex. I think I'm going to just switch back. I'd rather be without it and not want it than be in a constant state of arousal with no outlet for it besides a piece of fucking plastic. Holy crap I'm pissed. Do you have any idea how badly I want to tell him all this? It would land me in divorce court. Jesus Christ.
  4. Wow. That sucks for that farmer! Here in CT, we can get special crop protection permits for farming and agriculture to curb that damage thing. Most farmers around here are able to take deer all year long as long as the deer is eating his crops. If CO doesn't have a program like that for farmers, then he should get a whole bunch of people with the same problem together and force the legislature to do something about it. Fair is fair, after all.
  5. I'm in it for the quickie, ususally, too. I do longer more erotic sessions in the shower. I love the massage setting on the hand held shower and will just give myself a clit massage with that until the hot water's gone.
  6. The first time I had "anal" it was by accident. We were going hard and fast and he came all the way out then went back in the wrong place. It about broke his dick, and I almost went through the wall (doggie). After that, anal was totally out of the question. Fast Forward 15 years. I am married to the man of my dreams. One night, we're in doggie, and he asks me if he can give it to me in the ass. (bear in mind, this is my prude guilty catholic husband that won't deviate. ever). Of course I said no. So he said, "please?" How do I say no to that? He sounded so forlorn and so sad that I had to let him. Neither one of us knew what we were doing, all I knew is that it fucking hurt like hell the only other time anybody ever went there. We figured out after a couple of tries that we needed lube, and thankfully we had a big bottle on hand (so to speak). He got me all slippery and then we tried again. It took a couple more tries and I managed to relax my muscles and OHMYFUCKINGGOD!! He has me begging him for it on a regular basis now.
  7. Wow, Howard. I was preparing a statement but yours hit the nail on the head! I am in Connecticut and our oversized deer population is creating an oversized tick population and an oversized coyote population. the Gold Coasters won't allow us to cull the herd, the state finally had to step in and tell them to sit down and shut up. Deer/car collisions are at record highs, and they cause injury, death and property damage in the hundreds of millions of dollars. That, and venison is really good eatin'. If you're anywhere close to me, I'll take the kidneys. I have my dog on prey-model diet and lean kidneys are tough to come by. Check your state's DEP website. Venison liver in CT has been shown to contain unsafe levels of heavy metals and we have a "Do Not Eat" advisory. The rest of the critter is fine, but the liver, as the body's filter, can get a build up of crap that you don't want in ya.
  8. Me, Captain Jack Sparrow, a bottle of rum and oral 'til we both have lockjaw. NOT Johnny Depp.
  9. Captain Jack Sparrow. Not Johnny Depp. I never actually noticed Johnny Depp. But when he puts on Captain Jack Sparrow, he is transformed into a man that I would destroy my marriage and sacrifice everything I have worked so hard to achieve, for one night of the hottest, sweatiest, dirtiest pirate sex that anyone could imagine. Why? There is just something about his character, the "bad boy" thing, but he is human, too. He is rugged and tough, funny, witty, sweet and engaging, yet cruel and ruthless at the same time. And that body! The swagger! That cocky self-importance! I want nothing more than Captain Sparrow's boots at the foot of my bed. I would like to humble him, to turn him into a babbling idiot. To knock the swagger out of him with my tongue and have him begging me to do it again. To peel his pirate clothes off him with my teeth, the Black Pearl rocking to the rhythm of the ocean... Okay, I have to go now. Gotta take care of some business.
  10. I have used pressure point wristbands which help me. You can find them in the nausea section of the pharmacy, or ask the pharmacist where to find them. They are only about five bucks, if I remember correctly. Good luck, the nausea thing sucks.
  11. I may be overstepping, but i have to disagree with you Howard. (forgive my poor typng... i'm smarter than my sluggish fingers make me out to be LOL) I found this forum because I have been searching for the very same thing. My husband and I are both very shy about the whole intimacy thing. i know that to unhibited folks it isn't a big deal to talk about what you want, need and expect, but for some of us, it is. My husband is an amazing human being, but very straight laced and conservative and in his very nature makes me uncomfortable expressing interest in anything outside a very specific set of (unspoken) rules. For all I know I am way off base with him and he is way more openmined than I imagine, but i am afraid to find out, because I don't want to be left feeling like an idiot (leftover crap from a past relationship, projecting onto an otherwise healthy one). I look for ideas and for reinforcement from anonymous message boards like this one. I am searching for other people that have dealt with and overcome this same situation, and I think that maybe the OP in this thread is looking, perhaps, for the same thing. It is easier to ask for real life stories of what works and what's a bust than it is to try to guess what might be appropriate and then be left feeling like a moron (whether he means to leave you feeling like that or not). To be honest, I was looking forward to reading the responses to this question, and am a bit disappointed in the referral to the adult store. This question goes beyond that, maybe not in word, but definitely in undertone, and I am eager, myself, to see some responses. Nothing personal, Howard. You have great insight and I have not disagreed or questioned you up until now, but this question really hits home for me, and is exactly why I am here, too. Adult stores and decks of cards and such things are good tools, but there's sometimes more to it than that. LOL some of need some real human hand holding and "atta girls" and such encouragement, and I suspect that is what OP is looking for, as am I, for that matter. Sorry if i appear bitchy or critical. not my intention.
  12. We both love it. The first time we did it, I had to encourage him to, as he is quite a stickler about remaining in his comfort zone. Then, I think he wasn't expecting it to be so exciting because he splooged on my chest, which sent him into a complete gross out, and he couldn't stop apologizing. LOL He finds his cum to be nasty. I thought it was hot when he did it. I can't get him to do it again. The titty fucking, yeah, but when he cums, it's inside me somewhere.
  13. Gotta agree with Howard. My husband's favorite way to wake up in the morning is with his piece in my mouth. I never actually thought of the morning mouth thing, since he won't kiss me after I've done that to him anyway...
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