Virginity. All women had it, just as all men did. Many still have. Some hold it until marriage, some done. Some get it stolen from them, some ‘give it to plastic’, aka a sex toy. Wait. What? Hold up. Lets talk about virginity itself more. For the sake of this let’s focus on women, as the culture around a man’s virginity is very different. The definition of virgin is as follows; “a person who has never had sexual intercourse.” –dictionary.com By this alone a woman can not lose her virginity to a tampon any more than she could her fingers, someone else’s fingers, or even a large sex toy. If a pre-teen gets into gymnastics and her cherry is ‘ripped’ as she does the splits, this doesn’t mean there was suddenly a penis inside of her. In the past a woman was treated barbarically if she didn’t bleed when she slept with her man on a wedding night. She was a slut. A witch even. Now adays there are medical procedures to restore a woman’s cherry because of these continued opinions. I ask all of you to step away from those times now, and realize that even if sex is more than intercourse; it is intercourse that takes away virginity. That is a penis in a vigina. Virginity may be defined as “pure” at times, but it doesn’t mean having sex has ruined a person. Don’t treat it like it has. It is also medically true that after a woman has a baby, her body isn’t permanently stretched that wide. Just as if she has sex, she will close. Healing isn’t perfect, but it doesn’t mean a woman is only good once. She can finger herself and still enjoy sex to the fullest later. Some cultures take it pretty far, but do not tell a lady she has given up what the world has defined as one of the most valued things around just because she used a tampon. So I ask all of you. What makes a woman a virgin? What takes that away? Rape? What if she was rapped as a child? (Yes, it happens.) What about sex toys? Fingers? Hell, giving a hand job? And why is it that a man’s virginity isn’t as important?