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I have an active sex life and therefore have always been on oral contraception. Even being on this type of contraception - I have never really been confident with letting me partner climax inside of me. I really would like some more information on how safe it is to do so and at what points? 99% safe? At ALL times? Or just at certain times during my cycle? I have let him climax inside of me a few times, but I always try to make sure it is right before my period (when my pills are about to end) - because for some reason, having my period after he cums inside of me makes me feel better about it. Like, it is flushing it out. When is it safe to have full-blown sex while actively on birth control??

Thanks to everyone who replied - great advice and statements I think it is the sort of thing that I will just have to give time. If it doesn't stop in time, then maybe I will have a quiet word with his mother - or possibly show my disapproval when she babies him in front of me. I spoke to Ross (my boyfriend) recently, about how I feel and that I had written about it on a forum - he was alot more understanding once he realised how much it affected me. Although nothing is going to be done about it - I have told him that I would give it time, but if it doesnt stop - then there will be trouble! Thanks again! I really appreciate it!

Let me begin by explaining a few things. I have been dating the same guy for over 4 years now and I have always got along with his mother. She is single, works, struggles a bit in life - but a decent lady. I have never really had anything against her, but lately - she irritates me at a constant. I don't even really like being around her. She has three sons, one is 30, one is 25 and my boyfriend is 19. She has ALWAYS called him 'baby', 'chick', 'Rossy' (his name is Ross), 'babes', etc. She even calls her other two boys those names - and they are 30 and 25!!!! Now... I have no problem with the fact that Ross is her youngest son, and in a sense her 'baby boy' - but for her to constantly call him 'baby', 'babes', 'chick', 'hunny', etc - it REALLY bothers me. I dont even feel right about calling him 'baby', 'babes' or 'hunny' anymore - because his mother calls him the SAME thing. How can I use those 'pet' names on my boyfriend - and have his mother refer to him as the same thing? It grosses me out and irritates me. Am I being immature here? Another thing that she does is like 'pets' his hair, you know... plays with his hair. Now, I can imagine her putting her hand through his hair once... like, as a motherly caring gesture... but stroking his hair!?!?! That is what I do, when I'm being cute of affectionate. Again, this GROSSES me out - and I dont like doing that to Ross anymore, because all I can think about is the fact that his mother does the same to him. She also says things to him like 'Do you want mommy to take off your shoes for you?' or 'Do you want mommy to run you a bath?' COME ON. This guy is supposed to be my manly boyfriend, my protection. Not a big soppy mommy-toy. Ew. Sorry for this post - it is mostly a rant. I really need help with this, I was actually considering seeing a counsellor about it - because it all seriously stresses me out. I have spoken to him about it before, but he just says that he brushes it off and lets her say and do what she likes because she is a single parent and her boys are 'all she has'. Who is in the wrong here? Am I just being easily irritated? Or do you see what I am saying? Thanks...

I LOVE the idea of the whispering in his ear about whether or not he thinks a particular girl would give a good blowjob! That sounds fun AND would help. Perfect idea! Thank you I also like the idea of the sexy photos - that also sounds fun... I will definitely have to look into that I have only been a member of this forum for 2 days and I have already been filled with fantastic advice. You guys are amazing

The thing that caught my eye about your post is when you mentioned to look at myself alot - I do already, he says 'you're so vain'! every time!! I mean... I look at myself from the side and up close at my eyes and eye make-up, etc. I'm never in front of the mirror doing poses or anything! Haha Im not too sure if he means it in a bad way or not.

I just updated my profile - I am 21. 'I mean, how many times must one defend themselves?' - You're right, I cant imagine if he did it to me. If he constantly fished for compliments. That's sooo bad. Im more than aware that getting jealous over people on the TV is a bit extreme, but all the same - the pressure on today's women to be picture perfect is awful. How come we cant watch a decent film without seeing some girl's bare breast bounce across the screen with a minute of moaning? I guarantee the majority of people in today's society would change something (or multiple things) about themselves to be MORE LIKE someone on the TV. The pressure is ridiculous - skinny, leggy, no imperfections, sexy lips, big wide eyes, long bouncy hair. Nobody can have it all, but we all push ourselves to TRY!! This is a bit of an ongoing rant of mine - that needs to STOP. I will work on my self esteem, like you suggest. I will start today. I will wear my favorite clothes and make sure that I feel good when I walk out the door :) Thank you.

I'm going to reply to everyone's comments because I feel this issue is having a very large impact on my life and each and every single one of you have pointed out some very valid points. My favorite thing that you said is 'Face it, you have one thing that none of them do...him' - I've never really thought about it like that, isnt that sad? My face lit up when you said this and a 'You're right!' feeling went soaring through my body. I do have him, and I've had him for 4 years! I shouldnt be jealous at all! I met him when he was 15 years old and I have been with him since! I am his first/only girlfriend ever! This is something that has made me feel a bit jealous at times also - because, he talks of marriage, etc (even though he is only 19 - tsk tsk!) and how he wants to be with me forever... but he hasnt ever been with anyone else, does he really know? He says he does - he says that he has no need to find someone else, because he's already found that perfect person and when you find something perfect... you dont look further. I know what he is saying, but sometimes in the back of my head I think - he is still young, doesnt he ever get a tingle to explore more than me!? He says no. The one thing that alot of people have said in their replies to my original post is to 'enjoy the scenery' - that is probably a step I cant take yet! I would really struggle with that. He has told me before about people he thinks are pretty and my self esteem crashes and burns. I know people are pretty, and I know when he views people as pretty - anyone with a brain knows the difference between pretty and not. It's different to be told by him. Although - I have to say, I work in an office environment where I used to wear flat shoes, a simple top and normal bottoms. Recently, I went shopping with him and he suggested I try heels - in which his mouth dropped and he said 'You look SO good in those! You REALLY suit them! Buy them! Buy them! I will buy them!' Hahaha - I did buy them, and I dont wear flat shoes to work anymore. In fact, I have a couple of pairs now... AND I'm wearing skirts and low cut tops. So, that is a good thing. Also... he hasnt STOPPED complimenting me - like in general. Just, he doesnt compliment me when Im upset over some sexy girl flaunting on the TV or something he views as silly. He just tells me Im being silly about it and I should know better. He IS right though

I am the most jealous person I know. I do understand that the jealousy lies within my own head - there is no reason for me to be this way. I cant figure out why I lack trust in my boyfriend of over 4 years. The only thing I can think of that has happened in our lives is when I moved away for a year - we spent a LONG time missing eachother, and I feel that it was a very difficult time. We missed eachother alot. We saw eachother ONCE within that year - and it was AMAZING. But, we spent alot of lonely days apart. Do you think that maybe my jealousy is because somehow Im still holding on tightly like I was when we were apart? How do I loosen my grip? I dont have normal jealousy. I get jealous of sexual behaviour in films and flaunty girls. I dont even like him talking to girls that I view as prettier than me (this is usually ME thinking they are prettier than me - not him saying or suggesting). I know I'm not perfect, nobody is. But for some reason - I cant get my head around this. Is there some way I can... snap out of this!? It's upsetting and frustrating because I cant figure out how to stop it and how to trust him 100% like I did before our time apart. I do trust him. I REALLY do. I know he loves me and is in love with me and would NEVER stray - but for some reason, I am still jealous. Of everything. He used to reassure me alot - how beautiful I am, alot of compliments... EVERYTHING. He is extremely loving and caring and I know he is in love with me, I know it and I can feel it too. Now he doesnt - he tells me that I should know it by now. Mostly because I fish for it when Im jealous. Not good. What can I do!? It's 100% MY problem. It's really stupid and I am aware of it. It is so unhealthy.

What are good positions to try/do if either myself or my partner need to stimulate my clit?

No, I dont think you sound stupid. I have thought about it - I'll kick my partner's ass into gear and get HIM to do it! You're right!!! I wish I could hear from someone who had personal stories/experiences similar to my problem. EG - the positions they use and what they do with their hands to keep pressure/stimulation on their clit. Also - Im not sure if Ive ever had a G-spot orgasm... are there beginner ways of doing so? and if I need clit stimulation for the big O - is it possible to accomplish the G-O before the clit O? Hahaha :)

I prefer to be shaved, but I have ALOT of problems with razor rash. I get it ALL over my knees and the back of my thighs. Not only does it look terrible, it itches and drives me insane! I know tootimid sells Coochy Cream - but is there ANYTHING else that can be done to prevent this? I have always got razor rash from shaving - no matter WHAT I do.

This is my first post on here - so let me introduce myself. I am a 21 year old female who has been in a steady relationship for over 4 years. My partner and I have an active sexual life - we have explored MANY different positions, toys, etc! My biggest problem is - I can only orgasm when in the missionary position, and have pressure on my clit. My orgasms are the best when my partner is on top, but I am capable of driving myself to orgasm when I am on top. I am so bored of having to pull him from behind me (or wherever he is) and put him on top, so I can climax. My sex drive is dying, because it's not.... fun? I want to be able to climax in ANY position - It makes me feel incompetent. Sex would be so much more exciting if it wasn't so plain-jane for me. Any advice would be great Thanks in advance!