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  1. In my car in my work parking lot. It was in a side lot and off to the side, but it was fairly well used. However, I just couldn't wait to try the dildo that came in the mail 🤭
  2. I'm a woman who prefers MFM as well. For me, it feels like there's more focus on woman's pleasure, less women as sex slave perspective. I don't like it when it seems like the guy is only there to get pleasured and does little to give. I want everyone to enjoy themselves. Also, I'm straight, so seeing more handsome men (especially vocal ones) is more of a turn on than more women who tend to be over the top with vocalizing and annoyingly high pitched/little girl sounds. Ick.
  3. Hmm, I guess the craziest would be in the car...while going 65 mph on the highway. Ok, so it wasn't full sex, but I was driving, and hubby was rubbing my clit and making me orgasm while driving. There were cars going by, and all I can say is I wish I had cruise control working on that car. It was amazing but soooo dangerous. We were on the way home, and hubby had a couple drinks and thought I should drive to be safe (ha, right?). Well, on the 30-minute drive, he was getting pretty excited and couldn't wait until we got home. He can talk me into almost anything, and he's very...persuasive. On the way home, we stopped at Dairy Queen to get ice cream. I pulled my shirt over my unbuttoned pants, and we acted like nothing was going on. As soon as we got home, we were all over each other. It was the scariest and most exciting foreplay I've ever had. I would definitely NOT recommend it, and it was so dangerous I don't even want to think about it. As for the whole enchilada, that would be while floating the river. We were with a group of people including my in-laws and their friends in a couple canoes, and hubby and I were on tubes behind them. Well, they quickly got very far ahead of us, and with the twists in the river, they couldn't see us. It was a nice day, and hubby kept saying how sexy I looked. He had us stop under this tree that gave a nice shady spot but didn't cover us from view at all. There were no people ahead or behind us close enough as far as we could tell, so he talked me into having sex right there. I was bent over the tube to keep us out of the water, and it was so exciting that we both went pretty quickly. We had to stay quiet knowing how water carries sound, which is kind of exciting for me because I'm a bit of a screamer. Anyway, as we were pulling our clothes back into place (really hard to do when sopping wet), we heard another group coming behind us! We barely got our clothes back on and back on the tubes. I don't know if they saw anything, but it was a super close call!
  4. Hmm, well, this isn't specifically a summer thing, but it's something I've been wanting to do for a while now. I've always been intrigued with role play, dressing up and acting out a fantasy as someone else. Maybe a cliché he-man Tarzan to my Jane or maybe a sexy vampire seduction role. I've recently learned that hubby likes a little biting too, nothing really rough, but just enough to get the blood boiling. He's done it to me before, and I go nuts, but for whatever reason, I'd never tried biting him until a couple weeks ago. Vampires have always just done it for me, and I just finished reading the Anita Blake series (just waiting for Hit List on my waiting list to finish the latest book!). So, I am so revved up for that kind of thing. Mmmmm....
  5. The best summer sex is on this little hill just down from the house we rent that looks over the lake when it's been hot and sticky all day and now it's dusk with the sun setting and turning everything golden red and a breeze cooling our bodies and the twilight just giving us enough light to see the passion in each other's face while hiding us in the woods from any passing boaters. It makes me feel like we're newlyweds again, exploring and being explored, while holding all the passionate experience 5 years of marriage will give.
  6. In this modern world where girls actually get to run around and do more physical activity, the hymen is, at least partially, torn/damaged long before anything is ever inserted. That doesn't mean that it won't be uncomfortable, painful, or make you bleed the first few times anyway. There is a certain amount of stretching that needs to be done, and in the heat of the moment, we don't realize what's going on until we're done and notice the blood or the twinge of discomfort. I've been married for 4-1/2 years and have played with toys for long before that, and I still get some slight pinkish tinge when I had a particularly vigorous playtime, whether with toys or hubby. So, don't be too surprised if it happens again! If it keeps happening or starts getting uncomfortable during, I'd see a doctor. Since it seems to be getting better, I wouldn't worry too much.
  7. Wow, a lot of great tips here. Mine would be to try new things. Some of my favorite toys are ones that I never looked twice about until there was a sale, a freebie, or someone talked me into it.
  8. Hmm, I guess you could say there was a progression--in that I gradually from whatever replacement for a toy I could find (hairbrush handle, etc) straight to the big boys. My first real toy was SmartBalls, but I didn't like them. I really only got them for 2 reasons. One that they would hopefully not intimidate hubby and two that they would be exciting and strengthening down there while doing every day things. Then I got a 7" dildo with balls that's about 1.5" in diameter. I've always known that I like strong vibes and big toys, but I haven't always known which toy to get. I have made an effort to try toys that I wasn't sure I'd like, such as anal plugs and bullets. I have found that toys I was sure I would think boring were actually quite pleasing (like bullets, especially with a glass wand), so I have grown in that respect.
  9. Cum shots as in shooting on the woman's mouth, chest, etc.? You might be interested in "creampies" where the man cums inside the woman or as suggested the soft porn such as on HBO.
  10. I haven't used one on hubby, but a friend used one with her husband. They happened to not like it, but I believe it was more like a slip-on vibrator than an extender. Apparently, it was too tight for him and too hard or large for her (she has a petite frame). There are lots of options, however, and I'm sure that you could find one that would work for you. I'm thinking that the CyberSkin one you mentioned would be much better than the one they used. I believe theirs was a harder plastic, and they used it many years ago. There have been many improvements in design and materials since then, such as the development of CyberSkin.
  11. So true! For what it's worth, I definitely think that the multiple places that could be putting some stress on him are probably really weighing him down and making him feel too tired and stressed to be interested in sex right now. Firstly, the change in status from single guy to married man is a big one for a lot of guys. Plus, his mom was apparently in poor health, and perhaps he was worried about her dying (not sure how sick she was)? Add to that the potential to become a father and then the potential of not being able to, and you get a lot of new life changes that are a big deal at any one time. I agree with Mikayla to try to de-stress as much as possible and let it flow. It might be really frustrating, but it would be a lot more so if the issue continues to be a problem and becomes a source of fights (which may lead to longterm trust/resentment issues). If you need to, masturbation is a good way to relieve some of the tension, but don't let him forget that you are interested in him and aren't using toys to replace him either. It's a fine balance, but one that may make a huge difference. As for the OP's original question, there have already been some great tips such as bringing up the subject in neutral, nonsex time and coach it in positive give and take ways. "I really liked it when you did this. I would love it if you did that more." Positive reinforcement works 10000% better than negative comments, arguments, and harping. Sexual dysfunction, whether temporary stress-related issues or longterm hormonal or psychiatric issues, is one of the most difficult topics to talk about for both the person experiencing the problem and for their partner, and for professionals like doctors and therapists whose advice may be needed. It takes tact and patience.
  12. Hubby is always saying that I have too many toys, and there aren't things that we can use together (he doesn't think operating a rabbit on me counts apparently). I decided to ask for something that I've had on my wish list for even longer than I've known about TT! It was the Wedge/Ramp Combo from Liberator. This would really help us get into positions that are hard to hold or that I just can't physically do because of my asthma and my current weight. Plus, when my asthma flares up and I have to sleep either upright or inclined, I can use the ramp instead of a mountain of pillows or sleeping on the couch! Seriously, though, I could never afford this by myself, and it would be something that hubby would actually like to see delivered to our door. As far as he's come with being understanding with toys and using them, he still sometimes seems to think I use them in place of him, and this would be a nice reminder that I love him and only want to be with him.
  13. Love 'em. They are really great for g spot stim since they are hard and give that firm pressure that's needed. I love being able to warm it up. You can cool it down to, but I'm not such a fan of that. You might be, though.
  14. I tried the teeth once, and he about went through the roof! He so did not like it at all. He likes it when I do it with my lips though. More like I'm sucking an ice cream cone, making this move up and down the shaft. Kind of sucking and kissing up and down.
  15. I was first. I remember being a little worried that I wouldn't be able to since I was a little grossed out because it was the same organ he pees out of! Ew. But he kind of wanted to try it, and I really wanted to at least try. I loved it! He hated it. I kept trying, and eventually I got a better technique. I made sure to drink more water so that I would have plenty of saliva to make it nice and slippery, and I've even been able to take him into my throat a few times for a few seconds. It is the hottest foreplay for me. I think it is because of the power I hold over him (yes, he loves it now), whereas whenever he's trying to do foreplay on me, I'm too conscious of my body and what I'd like him to do instead of what he's doing. Plus, I know how much he doesn't like the taste of giving oral on me. Knowing he's not liking it and only doing it out of obligation makes it really unappetizing when he's giving me oral.
  16. Yeah, the river one was pretty hot since the people that might have caught us were complete strangers. But, the lake one was more anxiety inducing than anything! Since they were our friends/family, it would've been hugely embarassing if they'd known. It's just so hard to say no to him; he's too darn cute!
  17. I really have no idea when I first started exactly, but I know it was before I was ten because I started long before my period started at about 12. I never got off on fingers, felt rough and predictable. I loved humping stuff, especially with a soft bath towel over it to keep it clean, first, but also the slightly rough but still soft towel felt amazing on my clit. I don't remember when or why I started, but I do know that my cousin was a huge source of info after I started. She is about 2 years older than me, and she was like a goddess!
  18. The first thing that popped into my mind was when I was a kid. I don't remember exactly how old I was, but I know I was no older than 10 or 11. I would hump this huge gallon-sized soap refill bottle (my Mom loves to buy in bulk), and Mom walked in on me humping away. When she asked what I was doing, I said I was pretending to ride a pony! She looked suspicious, especially since I was completely naked from having a bath, but she didn't make an issue out of it and just told me to put my clothes back on. The next thing I thought of was when we were at a lake. Hubby was feeling horny, even though (or maybe because...) there were a fairly good amount of people swimming, and we were with several friends, including his little sister who is also my friend. He kept coming up behind me and hugging me and secretly fingering me under the water. Then he would get me to hug him and put my legs around him while the water was up to our shoulders/chins. I'd protest quietly and get him to go back playing with his buddies and goofing around, and then he'd come back. Eventually, I gave in, and we had sex right there. I still have no idea how much our friends suspected. Oh, and then there was the time we were floating the river! We were the only ones using inner tubes, and the rest of our group were in a canoe and a small boat. Since they had paddles, they were way ahead of us. We stopped in a curve in the river, and we did it doggy style over one of the tubes. Within seconds of pulling my shorts back on, another group of people came floating around the bend about 100 yards away! Huh, I didn't think I was that adventurous, but I guess I've got a few stories.
  19. Mikayla brings out a lot of good points. I'd like to just say you're not alone, and I wouldn't freak out just yet. Try some of the things Mikayla suggested first and try to relax (I know it's hard, but try) and let it flow. Maybe just have a romance night, without any expectation or hope for sex, and focus on each other. Perhaps the reset will help loosen things up and allow you to release in the way you use to be able to. It can even be as simple as watching a cute movie and cuddling on the couch. As for the not alone part, for a few months when we were first married, hubby had a really hard time coming. There were many times when it took forever and then he said it didn't feel quite as good as some times. It was super frustrating because we both wanted it to happen. I love watching his face when he comes, and seeing the frustration did make me feel inadequate, even though I knew he was totally into me. It's illogical but there it is. Sometimes it's harder on the wife when the man can't come, so be sure to remind her that she is just as (if not more) beautiful as when you first met. When he had trouble keeping his erections sometimes, too, that made it all the more hard to deal with. He felt inadequate; I felt inadequate. It was just a big snowballing problem. Sometimes he'd be able to come just fine; other times it would go on and on and nothing would happen. It was especially bad when it was hot out. He is definitely not a summer person, lol! We still don't know why he had such a hard time ejaculating. My theories are that we were both virgins when we married, and he had a hard time transitioning into it being okay for us to have sex. Plus, he was feeling super stressed from being the provider for 2 rather than just him as a single man, especially since he was a seasonal worker and was laid off all winter and had a big auto debt. Then he got sick (gallbladder trouble) and just didn't feel well enough to even try having sex for most of about 6 months. Sometimes we'd start to try and his belly would just hurt so bad we'd stop. After he started feeling better, he was able to perform much better. I don't know why, but it was like the break when he was sick allowed him to come to terms with this new status as husband and provider. EDIT: Ok, wow didn't notice this thread was a few months old. I hope that you've been able to work through the difficulties and figure out what's going on.
  20. I like the idea of these, but I've never had the patience to actually work on it. I think it's partly because I picked the wrong ones to start out with. My first real toy was the SmartBalls by Fun Factory. They have this numb where the retrieval string attaches to the balls. I liked them because they were big enough that they stayed in pretty good. However, that nub stuck out just enough that it really irritated my labia. I think that if I had worked in flexing the PC muscles to keep them in it would've worked better. I also had high expectations that they were really gonna feel amazing and orgasmic right away. I did enjoy the sort of fluttery/viby feel of the ball inside the balls that would rattle around. That felt really cool as I walked around. My second attempt were more traditional-type ben wa balls, though weighted and attached to each other with a string. These were smaller and thus harder to keep in (in my opinion), and the weight also made it harder to keep in. I think having regular ben wa balls (with a string for easy removal) would have been a better starting point. I view them more as an aid to strengthening/toning the PC muscles than actual pleasure devices. There are definitely some women who love them and really get pleasure from them. I personally don't really, but I can see how it could happen, especially with patience and perseverance with a focus towards a tool to help with Kegel exercises. Heh, rereading this post, I think I might be coming off as dissing these things, but I really think they have a place in your repertoire. I think I went into them with too high expectations and didn't keep with them/use properly (didn't flex to keep them in to exercise PC muscles) to really see a benefit.
  21. Heck yeah! I love, love, love TT! I've recommended TT to many friends, and I hope they took the time to check out the website. I know that the one I gave a gift certificate to for her bachelorette party hasn't used it yet because she's afraid that her new hubby will be intimidated or something. Another of my friends and I suggested using something smaller and not penis shaped, like a bullet or egg. Ironically, I also ordered the free item a couple days after my replacement order, and I got that Friday. My replacement order should be here tomorrow, and I am so freaking excited!! I haven't used the free item yet (Royal rabbit, can't remember exact name) because I'm thinking about giving it to a friend (the one that also suggested the egg/bullet to the newlywed) who hasn't tried many but appreciates them. She just isn't sure what she likes and can't afford a whole lot. Plus, she has kids, teenage boys, and can't really get on the website much, if at all.
  22. Yay! My rant is now a woohoo! TT gave me a $130 gift code to replace my damaged items. Unfortunately, the Chester Cheeky was discontinued since I placed my original order, but I decided to get Gigi from Lelo with Climax Bursts cleaner, I like it Doggy Style Strap, Sliquid Silk lube, Gun Oil H2O lube, and Liquid Silk lube. Yeah, lube heavy, but I've wanted to try some of these for a while and figured I couldn't go wrong with lube, lol. I've certainly learned my lesson to leave the dog inside when expecting packages. My only gripe is that TT had to pay for UPS's mistake. In this whole mess, TT was really the only completely innocent party, and yet they had to pay for the stupid mistake of leaving a package in the reach of a dog. Oh well, I can't complain since at least I didn't miss out on some new toys. Now I'm super excited to get my new order (and leave the dog inside, lol!).
  23. Well, the internet thing is solved. I was able to get into safemode and run the virus/malware scan. Then I checked the connects between the modem thingy and the wireless router. One connection was a little loose, so I reconnected it and now works fine. The only thing is that the McAfee software won't download, so I might just get a refund and try getting the actual disks instead. I do have some temporary blockers setup now and am only using Firefox since it seems Internet Explorer is not as protected. Besides, it says there is some problem with it connecting to the internet while Firefox is fine. Anyway, so I submitted a damage report to UPS, so hopefully I'll get that taken care of as well. I realized after hitting submit that when I put in the total items damaged were 2 and I wanted the total replacement cost to be $128, but it thought that the total cost was that times 2. Hopefully, that will get straightened out and won't be the reason they deny me. Ugh, I just can't seem to get anything going right.
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