justinlove

Darlin you are 18 and he is 19, you are both gonna be wet as hell and my guess is no lube will be necessary unless you plan to try anal the first time, which would really surprise me. If you try to suck his cock or give him a hand job and it's a bit dry, use your spit, most guys think that's hot but if you don't think he will, you can do it really discreetly. I'm excited for you! Have fun!

Even though you are seeking counselling, you seem to still be preoccupied with your ex-girlfriend's life. If you really want to date other people and think perhaps someday when you have changed your controlling ways you can try again with her, then the timeline should be more like this; Remain friends with ex-gf, letting your meetings be random, not pre-planned and overthought. Break it off completely romantically. Don't pay attention to who she sees or why. Continue with counselling, work on figuring out why you felt the need to control everything, work on changing that. My guess is something big in your life or past needs attention and confrontation. Use all your mindpower on yourself, not your ex-gf. Date casually, just like your ex-girl is doing. Have fun, try out your new non-controlling ways on other girls you find interesting. Someday, long in the future (we are talking maybe years here, man, sorry if you were hoping for sooner) when you have both had lives apart for a while and you have grown up and learned to love kindly, your friendship may turn a corner to something more. But really it is unhealthy for you to hope or plan for this. Try to move on as if this is not possible. Doing that may make it MORE possible in the future. I think you are awesome for admitting a problem and attempting to fix it, and I honestly hope you meet someone new that you love even more. Alot of times changing something so intricate in our personalities means a total separation with all the negative things in your past, including your ex girlfriend. Getting back with her after making progress on your own may set you back to your old ways. I wish you much luck and love!

You know the BEST way to get her into that? wrap all that stuff up and wait for a day like her birthday or mother's day or secretaries day, nurses's day, or your anniversary (somethings gotta be close enough - anything will do!) and gift it to her. This will make it more like a "hey, got you this naughty stuff cuz you've mentioned before you may like it, it's up to you what you do with it". It makes it all about her, not you. She'll feel flattered that you put a little sex gift basket together for her, and you'll probably get what you hope for out of it too! Don't forget a real "normal" gift if you do this on a big day like bday or anniversary. Make the sex toys a special behind-closed-doors-between-you-and-me gift. Good luck!

I think you are right about that! Because it was half asleep sex, he wasn't super hard, either which actually helped me just rage on his dick til I came, without any thought of possibly inflicting damage on myself. He was just as thrilled as me when I exclaimed that I was actually coming from it. He said he might actually use that as his late for work excuse, since the guys at work would actually reward that more than the usual "stuck in traffic" excuse, and might even let him take an extra long lunch break to come home and do it again hehe

I forgot I started this thread until this very morning, when my boyfriend and i were having lazy sleepy anal and I totally came from just that! I honestly couldn't believe it was possible! I think it was a "growing into it" thing! I am still amazed. He was late for work (oops!).

Hey guys, my guy and I have been having anal lately and it's been really great, but there is enough slight dicomfort that I can't imagine ever coming from it alone (I can come from clit stimulation at the same time only). I really want to, the idea gets me so hot I could almost come from thinking about it. So my question is; can you come from JUST anal, or do you ladies pretty much always have to have something else going on, like double penetration, or him fingering your clit to help you along? Just wondering if anyone ever actually just comes from anal alone, and if so, whats the trick (does it just get easier over time to the point where it feels orgasmic?)

I had a situation similar to this one recently. I became best friends with a guy I was working with on a shoot. I was going along all dumb thinking we were just best buds. He was becoming completely enamoured with me. He finally built up the courage to ask me out and I said no. I felt aweful because he was my best friend and I knew either way, that wasn't going to be the case anymore and I was so angry to lose him as a friend over that. I was determined to stay best pals, so I hung out with him a lot and even supported him when he would talk about dating a girl here and there. All the things I could do to reinforce that we were only friends. A year later, he tells me he still feels the same way about me, even moreso since we had been spending so much time together. He explained that it emotionally exhausted him to be my friend. So just remember that he might just not be capable of being friends. Even if that means the end of the friendship. Don't settle, for sure, but just know that you might not be able to carry on being buddies.

ok I got something to add, and I would like to hear people's advice on this. The first time a dude tried to titty fuck me, he didn't tell me what he was doing and I was just confused. He sat on top of me and rubbed his dick on my chest. Since I had no idea what he was doing, I couldn't put two and two together and figure out that it would be hot to push my tits together for him. I ended up just being creeped out by him sitting on me just trying to dominate me. had I only known, i would have been into it! Ok, flash forward to now. No guy has since attempted to titty-fuck me, but i haven't slept with that many guys. My current boyfriend never mentions it. I think I know why, but before I get into that let me say that I have never felt so safe and comfortable with another person. If I was to feel ok about being sat on by anyone, he'd be the one. I think he doesn't mention it because he is very overweight and feels he might crush me. I encountered this with him when we had missionary style sex for the first time (neither of us favor that position, so it wasn't a huge deal). He seemed to not want to just lay on me. And I wanted him to, I never felt crushed, I felt hugged. It took me a while to get him to really believe he wasn't crushing me and now we do that position every now and then and we both quite like it, more than we have in the past. So, should I ask about his thoughts on titty fucking, or should I leave it alone since I don't totally love being sat on anyway? Or should I try some other position on him where I am not below him? I think he'd really like it because he loves when I give him "foot jobs" and whacky stuff like that. and he LOVES boobs!

yeah, bed squeakage is an odd cop-out. To me that sound gets me almost horny. It's a total turn on!

This should totally be a sticky thread! I keep coming back to it for techniques and ideas!

You totally should. I never used to swallow, and I have been dating this guy and I want to turn him on so bad that I promised myself I'd swallow when I gave him a blow job. It was surprising, and actually, I swallowed it so freakin fast that I didn't even taste it (I could tell it was salty, that was all)! And I think I was a little messy, like I didn't lick it all off like maybe I could have. But it was totally hot and I liked it, and I can't wait to practice to get better at it. And he was totally impressed with me right off the bat. It was cool even though I was nervous. Some day I'll be letting him cum all over my face. Just take the time you need to get comfortable with it, but definitely try to set a goal (I know that sounds wierd in sex terms). You will feel like a total champ once you have done it. And I don't know too many men who don't LOVE swallowing over spitting. Hint; have a glass of water ALWAYS nearby when oral is a possibility, just in case anyone wants a rinse before kissing again. My guy thinks it's hot that I don't mind kissing him right after he goes down on me, but I don't know his thoughts on his own cum so I always take a drink after just to be considerate. Some dudes actually like it, but always check first!

yeah, i think I will just keep doing what I am doing. I like taking baths to really clean up, but when I am at his place the bathroom is shared by 8 ppl (mostly guys) so it's not really bath worthy. Also I don't want to hog the bathroom. Thanks for your help, everyone! I am sure I will be back with more questions soon!

alright, as long as i am not alone I feel better about it already! Half of me feels like I should know this stuff since the age of 15, the other half of me is proud that I don't and that I was an angel with the condoms for so long.

Ok I have a totally freshman question, but there is no better place to ask these things. I just starting having condomless sex for the first time in my life (I am 30, committed clean partners, both). I have never had to deal with cleaning up after ejaculate before and I am wondering if there isn't some trick to it, to make it less messy. Because even after we do the "everybody wipe off" routine, it still can drizzle out of me for a while after (and sometimes even after a shower!). And most of the time I just don't have time to wait for it! So I end up throwing on a pantyliner just to catch anything that might come out. It's so wierd! Is there a better way to quickly clean up and move on? Please don't say jumping up and down!

Thanks, Howard for all your advice, you are so right about the lube, I think it came up about four times during foreplay that we both wished we'd had some. And, a little over 24 hours later and the discomfort is gone I'm happy to say, ready to get back into it! We have some more angles to figure out, too. I love being on top, but I have trouble straddling him and still being about to control how deep his cock gets, also because of his weight. I really need to read some things about sex with heavier people for some hints. I think our foreplay will last longer each time, too. We were both just overly excited to get to the vaginal intercourse and now that we have done that we will start taking our time doing other things first. Poor boy wanted to go down on me but I just started the pill a couple weeks ago and I am having a small amount of spotting (which is normal) so I told him to wait because I kind of want that experience to involve as little embarassment as possible, and he agreed. But we'll be having fun with that soon enough! Thanks again Howard, I am sure I will be back with more questions as things progress.