4whatitsworth

Oh boy can I relate! I am a person that does not beleive in divorce, and ended up with one after 6 years of marriage. When I married my wife she was a 28 year old virgin. She was great looking and told me not to worry about sex, she had waited a long time and wanted it as badly as I did. In less than six months she told me she did not like oral sex preformed on her. I asked what I could do differently and she said nothing everything is fine. Later she did not like giving it to me, having me touch her and even did not want me to kiss her over the next six years. I tried to make sex more appealing but she refused. I agree with Mikayla when she said it might have something to do with your church. My ex-wife was told no you can't have sex it's dirty, it is a sin until your married. She had bee taught that for so long she could not shed those feelings even after our marraige. She didn't have any guilt associated with me because We did not even have sex until we gave our vows to one another in marriage. Disperate because of my longing for intatmacy, I once showed your a xxx movie hoping to get the hormones in gear. She watch 10 minutes worth and shot it off. I asked if she liked it and she responded no it made me horny. I said why is that bad? and she replied because its wrong. I asked for counseling and she wouldn't go, I asked to talk to someone in the church and she said I don't have a problem. I told her I had a problem so we had a problem. She would not seek any outside help. After no sex of any kind, touching or kissing, for a year I said enough is enough. We were divorced a few months later. 4 years later after I met the love of my life, my ex and I were talking about child visitation and she brought up the subject and asked you want to know why I wouldn't give you sex? I replied of course, and she answered because I knew you wanted it. I am jealous of your situation because your wife still wants to you, and I can see hope. But, I don't know how she can say she loves you if you have only had sex that often?? I had no idea what I was missing until I met a woman who shared my wants and disires. My kids see us HAPPY and tickling, kissing, hugging and totally in love, that's right totally not faking it. We have been married for 15 years and she means the world to me. She would never and I repeat never treat me the way me ex or your wife as treated you, because love my friend is about give and take, and your wife is a taker. I don't feel your problems are sexual. I feel she does not respect you, or care about your feelings or she would be more giving. I hope you can find a solution to your problems, but until she realizes what a great catch you are and treats you like you deserve to be treated, I don't think she will change. Some people are not wired the same as the rest of us and if she is not willing to change and at least fake it a few times each month then she don't deserve your loyalty.

you can't force anyone to like something! Try complementing her and thanking her for the BJ's you now recieve. Letting her know how good she is at giving them and how lucky you are to recieve them, might be the key to success. Remember, some men don't get any BJ's, so be thankful for what she is sharing with you. I am a very lucky man and have a wife that loves BJ's and you can bet your life I let her know how lucky I am to have her for my wife.

You are sooo smart to be flirtatious with your husband. Even though after giving birth your doctors are keeping you from having sex, and your sex drive was not up and running to its full capacity. You know your husbands sex drive didn't miss a beat. The quick grabs in the shower and sexy talk keeps him wanting you. I was jealous and yes I'm ashamed to say this but jealous of my 6 kids. They took my lover and best friend away from me. She was all mine and learning to share was not easy. No man likes to be second chair to anybody when its the love of his life at stake. keep up the great job with your hubby and remember to keep him number one.