I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this info, forgive me if it's not. I really like these boards, you people seem to be very caring and honest. I have been reading for a while but haven't posted yet. I really need some help with my situation. I'm just going to be totally honest here and tell it like it is. I have been married now for almost 13 years. Pretty much very unhappy. I used to try to get my hubby to go to counseling but it was like trying to drag a two year old to a place he didn't want to go. We both come from very dysfunctional families. He is and always has been a very angry person. To be honest, I don't know if I've ever truly been in love with him. All I knw for sure is that I tried and tried to get him to get help w/me and he didn't want it. He thought we could do it on our own. Now, I no longer want any part of this relationship. I know what true love is now and it"s definitely not what I have with him. It's a long story. All I can say is he's okay with our relationship as long as we have sex. If he gets what he wants(which is only minutes long) then the rest of his free time is spent watching TV in bed. Nothing else matters to him. Now I'm kinda going my own way because I got tired of asking him to spend time with me and our kids. That's all I wanted was a partner. SOmebody to have fun with and raise our children and enjoy life with. Our kids have never seen us really happy. I've stayed in the relationship because I never had my Mom and Dad together. It's all anger and fighting. I have major walls that in the past if I let them down, I was always hurt so I no longer let them down. I don't know what to do because now he seems to want to work on the relationship but only because I no longer give him what he wants. Do I keep trying for my kids? or do I move on? The answer seems clear as I type this but to be honest, my kids have it good compared to what I had growing up but I want them to have so much more. I want them to know what love is. I want them to know how their partner should treat them. I want them to be happy and I don't want them to think this is what love is. But what's it gonna do to them when they are torn between their parents? I am very close to my babies and I can't imagine being away from them. At the same time though I want to be with somebody that loves us and isn't miserable all the time. Am I being selfish? ANY advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.