I have had really good luck with www.passion.com. Someone here recommended it to me. I had a profile up for two weeks and I got something crazy like 1000 views. I corresponded online with several men for a week or two and then met a few in public places to see what they were like before deciding whether to move to friends with benefits or not. Not sure if it's my location in the counrty or my radar, but I have met some really lovely men who are now friends with benefits. I don't know if you can find a long term SO from a place like that, but I would give it a try. Just be verrryy careful 1) it can be an addicting site 2) there ARE weirdos and liars out there. Insist on a recent photo and if anything sounds weird or too good to be true, be wary. It was VERY fun to get 10 messages a day from interested men, such an ego boost. After two weeks, my head was spining and I had to take my profile down or I would spend the whole day replying to men. There are something like thousands (millions) of men on these sites, and lots fewer women, so the odds are in your favor. I have had some odd meetings, but nothing dangerous...just keep your wits about you and use commom sense. Feel free to email me if you want more specific info.