This is the first thing you need to do for yourself. I think you need to separate your anger and hurt to decided this first, to be able to make a clear headed decision; Can you and will you want to work hard enough to get through this if you/he deem it fixable. If you decide to stay will you both be able to move past this and not hold on to any of the hurt and pain in the future.... so much to consider. If you would prefer to pm me, or not it's up to you. However I do believe you need to separate your feelings first before making any life changes. Separating your hurt from your anger is a very difficult thing to do. Remember there are 3 sides to everything, yours, his, and the neutral. If you think you have already done this, have you tried to see thing from your mans point of view and not yours, has he tried to see things from your point of view? Will you consider going to a marriage councilor or clergy for marital help? In the long run what's best for you, for him and your child. If you decide you no longer want to be married, who will get custody of the child. You have all kinds of difficult choices and decisions to make. II know you've been living this for a long time, just things to consider.