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I am so hot just reading that line (and the great stories) and imagining how well it would work... can hardly wait to use it!

Thanks for the reply, still learning - since I initiated this thread, I have had a different boyfriend who was not circumcized - he was amazing in many ways, and it was quite fun to play with his penis and the foreskin - as others have said, it wasn't all that different in practicality, and he is a very hygienic type, so no issues there...

To my mind, it is okay to "enjoy" the punishment a little... I don't see a problem with you earning a spanking, which would then be enjoyable to you.... that might be fun in a different way! But I also really like Mikayla's ideas. My suggestions were similar: having to do housework clad only in an apron, being chained/handcuffed to him for a period of time, or even doing house chores for him. I think it's hard to get away from any sexuality in the punishments at all... because the whole scene is sexual, really.

From my point of view, nothing is hotter than going down on a guy and then sharing his cum with him... one of my exes maintained that ejaculate has a numbing agent in it and made his mouth a little bit numb! I don't know that I have ever noticed that.... and equally hot is having him go down on me to clean up a bit after he cums inside me... but not many men will do that, and I appreciate the explanations offered here - it makes sense.

I would pick this: http://shop.tootimid.com/ProductImages/liberator/lwr02main.jpg the liberator! My guy and I are on the plus side, and very adventuresome - but missionary is a bit harder to manage in an intimate face-to-face way. I think this would enable us to do better/closer missionary, which would enhance that intimate connection...

Oddly enough, Mikayla, I am dating a man who loves, LOVES the feel of my teeth around his penis when I am going down on him. When I am taking him as deeply as I can (which is not all that deeply on him as he is huge) and I gently close my teeth around the middle of the shaft and open and close my teeth slowly as I pull up to the head, he quivers and groans and it seems to be a very positive reaction (not fear, LOL). I can actually feel him swell in my mouth when I do this. I don't know how I thought to try this; I am SURE I have spent years of giving bjs carefully avoiding any penis to teeth touches. Maybe it was because he is just so dern big and meaty that it made me want to test it with my teeth, I honestly don't know.... maybe it was because he responded so well to the little nibbles up and down the shaft (aka the corn-on-the-cob move). I agree with you that it is probably a no-no for most men, and should only be attempted with caution especially at first, but I'm really glad that it occurred to me to try this. I guess I knew he would like it the same way he intuited that I would like my neck bitten... Another suggestion which men seem to love: angle your mouth so that the head of the penis rubs against the roof of your mouth, where the ridges are... by the responses I get from this, it must feel mighty good.

ladylove, it is wonderful! Definitely worth a try - when current bf does this, it takes my breath away. And I love to feel the soreness the next day (preferably in places that don't show, like my nipples) - it is a constant reminder of the fun we had.

I love to keep my eyes open while making love, but it is really hard - I need to block out visual distractions to focus on the inner orgasm... the times when I have made the effort to look into my man's eyes have been very erotic, not sure about spiritual... I think we are still building to that kind of connection and hope we will eventually be there.

I feel the most with oral, and can feel the ejaculate rising in his penis seconds before he releases; in my vagina I can only feel the heat and wetness when he cums - but that is a wonderful feeling, to be sure!

I think a "fundamental disinterest in sex" can be addressed, because to me, the physical part of sex is not the part I miss the most when I'm not in a sexual relationship. To me, sex is an emotional intimacy and connection, even more than a physical one, and I wonder if that emotional intimacy is lacking, which is then coming out in the physical part of your relationship. There are a couple of things that I would suggest to try and perk up her interest, now that the pain is under control. Some of these might work for you, and it's worth considering them. Hire a cleaning service to do the housework so that she is relieved of that chore. I find that disinterest in sex often results from being over-tired and/or stressed out, so the more of that you can relieve the more likely she will feel sexually energetic. If hiring cleaners is not feasible, then step up and make sure you are doing a full 50% - and the bigger percentage you do, the more energy she will have left for love-making. Sometimes resentment over an unequal distribution of housework masquerades as lack of sexual interest, and you are already forwarned that this is not a woman who talks easily about things painful to her. Also, sometimes women spend their days taking care of others, at work, in their family, even their friends - and it is very erotic to me when my man makes an extra effort to nurture me - and not just when he wants something from me. Another thing to try is to set up an evening of no sex, only sensual play. You are good at research, read up on the Tao of Sexual Massage, and challenge her to complete the book with you - it is full of sensual massages and touch, but actual sex is prohibited until the activities in the book are finished. Sometimes it's nice to build up the sexual anticipation and excitement without being allowed to fully release it, and she may be willing to engage around this with the hard and fast rule of no actual sexual activity.

Even more good points, hyokahay - I'll check the idea page out! I don't mind sharing my secrets... It was my plan to spend a lot more time orally anyway, so it's nice to know from a male pov that oral is better on so many levels... I did not realise that.

Biting the back of my neck - medium hard, not lightly, and biting the tops of my ears - especially from behind me, and especially when we are making love - really turns me on. There is something so animalistic and primitive about it, I can't explain why it is so erotic, and there have only been 2 men in my history who have figured this out - but for me, there is nothing like it. Add to that: sucking my breasts and nipples REALLY hard! Most guys are way too tentative with this, but I love to feel that power...

Thanks very much for your response, Mikayla - we did try me on top for a bit, his preference was for me to sit on him with my legs on his chest and his penis inserted, which felt VERY deep to me, but did relieve the pounding some. I lost my cervix when I had a hysterectomy, so he is not hitting THAT - but the repeated pounding did feel the exact same way as I recall it feeling when my ex would occasionally hit the cervix- not unpleasant for brief periods of time, but not enjoyable over the long haul, either. We did some modified spooning positions, not the classic back to front one, I will suggest that... I really appreciate your suggestions. I want him to get what he needs sensation-wise and don't want him to have to give up too much of his enjoyment. Interestingly enough, when I was giving oral I was able to bring him to the edge of orgasm with none of the pounding, so perhaps there is a way to do this vaginally as well...

Thanks, and I am LMAO at the rhino man analogy - perhaps not too far off the mark. He told me that he had read the Kama Sutra (and indeed, has implemented some very different positions from what I am accustomed to!) so perhaps I can use that to help me talk about this with him. While I don't want to be uncomfortable, I am worried about the "retraining" thing - how does one go about that? Nor do I want to give this man up, he is everything I have been looking for for a very long time. I can't believe that THIS is the issue that I am having with Mr. Wonderful - too much of a good thing, lol. (and It is so nice to Have you bAck!)

I need suggestions... My new boyfriend, who is a wonderful, WONDERFUL guy - loves sex, and can go for hours (erect for 30-45 min at a time before he becomes semi-erect for 30 min or so before getting hard again). He's good at the oral stuff, and also likes recieving oral from me and is quite responsive to that. So yesterday, we had marathon sex on a cool, rainy Sunday afternoon. I'm talking from 12:45 to 7:30 pm, with some breaks in between for pillow talk and feeding each other grapes. He came once in this time, near 7:30. But the length of the time we are making love is not really the problem. I think the issue for me is his size. He is at least 8 inches when fully erect (maybe more), and 2 1/2 around - and I honestly think it might be more than that but I did not pull out the tape measure. After round 1, which lasted about 45 min, I was horrified to discover that I had bled all over - he asked me if I was having a period (LOL NO, I have had a hysterectomy). Nothing really hurt, I didn't feel any tearing, and I was plenty lubricated I thought - and the subsequent rounds did not have any more bleeding. But after a while, the pounding and thrusting against the back end of my vagina just hurt. I wonder if I could be bruised internally! He started out gently, but as he became more aroused as time passed, his strokes became more forceful, and I worried if the whole penis could fit in (he said most of it did). At one point he said something about him holding back, and I said "WHAT?? This is holding back?!!?" and he said he could go much harder, and then showed me that he was indeed holding back in comparison to what he could do. And he said that wasn't even full strength, and I believe that, too. I am so worried that I am not going to be able to stretch to comfortably accomodate this man, and the sexual relationship is too important to me to set up a relationship in which I would avoid sex or dread it. Is it possible for vaginas to just be too small? Any tips or techniques that might make it more comfortable for me, yet would give him the pressure/stimulation he needs? Any suggestions from others who have been in similar situations?