I've been with my boyfriend for a year now. For the first 6 months i thought our sex life was great. i hadn't had a lot of experience of sex before him so i never saw the signs that he was experiencing problems and to me everything was new and exciting. I've just turned 21 and he's the same age. a couple of months ago i noticed we were having sex less often (we live together in a student house btw) and it was over quicker. He would turn me down when i tried to initiate sex saying he was tired so i confronted him. he told me he has always had premature ejaculation and past girlfriends have been horrible about it. he says alcohol helps and i've realised he used to drink very often throughout the week. A lot of his past behaviour suddenly made sense to me We've talked about it a few times and each time nothing gets resolved - the convo just goes round in circles. He went to the doctors about it once and was basically fobbed off and told there was nothing he could do. now i've done a lot of research on the web and i've started doing the stop start method while giving him a bj for the past couple of weeks- we're trying to do this 3 times a week and he's willing (obviously haha) but i can tell he doesn't expect it to work or change anything. I'm being supportive and i know he appreciates that i'm the first girl whos stuck by him and not run away from the problem but sometimes i do feel frustrated. Anyway i'd like some reliable info about if the stop start method will actually help and if anyone has any success stories? Is there anything else i can do to help? I want to stress that i'm willing to help in anyway i can, and to be honest even if things stayed as they are now we'd still have a brilliant relationship and be very happy - i suppose i'm saying this is not something that would ever break us up, but an improvement would certanly boost our sexlife and give him a more confident and care free atitude towards sex