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  • Briefly Describe your last sexual encounter:
    woke up my husband with a bj.
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    Married
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    almost 40, female

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  1. I'd like to hear what others say, but here's my 2 cents: We've only done this a few times, so I am by no means an expert. On the pain issue, we have only ever done it when I am really super turned on and I really want to. I am able to just relax. We use a ton of lube, and I have never had any pain, really. Now, afterwards is a different story (see above, start of thread), and I do have a little paid and have to sort of recover after each time. On the cleanliness issue, I'm really interested in what others say--I am sort of a clean freak, so it's very important to me. I am somewhat paranoid about any fecal matter making an appearance during sex. So, basically, every time we've done it I have to plan ahead--I try to make sure I've had a BM, and I also use an anal douche an hour or two before I think we're going to get started. I know a lot of people don't think this is necessary, but it makes me more comfortable.
  2. I'd like to try this one, but I think I'm a little too self conscious to really relax for it. I'd be all scrunched up, which is not a flattering view of my very less than perfect belly.
  3. Yes, I have read the Holy Grail article, and it is indeed a quest isn't it? I will keep on trying. I have been reluctant to enlist hubby's help, because I don't want the sex to become goal oriented or to have pressure to achieve, especially b/c we are enjoying a real renaissance lately. But there are worse things to be working toward!
  4. Yeah, well the squirting thing is more of a curiosity for me, (perhaps bordering on fascination...) But I still haven't managed a g-spot O, or even found my g-spot. I've only tried on my own, and only with a finger. I need to get a toy for that purpose I think.
  5. Can a woman learn to squirt, or is it a trait that some just have and some don't--like eye color?
  6. Those of you who role-play--when you first started, did you feel silly or self-conscious at all? If so, how did you overcome that?
  7. Well, not exactly Mother Theresa. I am confident I will get mine some other time! Yes, oral sex any time--thumbs up! Stress, busy, whatever. I'm not turning it down. (Unless I'm mad at him or we're fighting, but in that case, I don't think he's putting his face down there anyway...) Absolutely! I've always thought it would be cool to be a doctor so I could be in some public place and answer to the "is there a doctor in the house?" call. But now you've given me a whole new and far more interesting fantasy--"is there a woman in the house who can give a lifesaving blowjob?!"
  8. This is a tough call, but I would choose less often but with more foreplay and/or the whole smorgasbord. For me personally, when we have great sex, I will be turned on and ready to go again the next day. The more we have, the more I want. But DH seems to prefer a break of a day or so in between. So, if we do have sex again the next day, he's a little too tired--or something--to make it the end all and be all. The sex itself, even with orgasm, is just not as satisfying. I am discovering that with some time in between, the sex is more fun. I'd rather wait a day, let him get his ardor back up to peak, and get more satisfying sex out of it. As long as we don't let too many days lapse.
  9. Ok, good to know. I believe I will go for it some more. No, Sunday--not looking for reciprocation. I get that I shouldn't wake him up basically asking for my own needs to be met, except my need to please him at that moment; just want to give him a nice start to his day. Although you have scared me a little bit--I'm certainly not looking to kill my poor husband with a heart attack. I think I give a good BJ, but not sure if it's really "to die for"
  10. Ok, quick question here--I've done this to my hubby, once. A good time was had by all. But since then I haven't tried it again, I guess because of a little shyness. What if he's not in the mood? He's not always raring to go first thing in the morning, though he did tell me he liked it when I did it. I think I'm afraid of how turned down I would feel if I'm going straight for the wake up bj, and he's not into it. So, guys--what are the chances that you would not welcome this type of wake up call?
  11. I agree with you 100%, LL. While perhaps not a cure-all, I think dating is absolutely a necessary component to keeping things vibrant between us. We have been very neglectful of our dating relationship in the past; it's so easy to just forget to call babysitters and get lazy. Then we end up spending every evening in our own zones. So, inspired by posts and messages here on TT, I have resolved to get back to frequent and regular dates. We have sitters booked for every weekend for the next 6 weeks, and I am committed to keeping that up so we can go out once per week unless there's a legit. conflict. (like this weekend when dh's parents are in town. They don't babysit. ) It gives us time to be away from all the administrative details of our lives and simply enjoy each other's company. I also like anticipating going out--planning something nice/fun (doesn't have to be expensive), putting on some sexy underthings, nice clothes, etc. It's refreshing for us.
  12. Over it too. Working on getting over the next hangup.
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