attyathome
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Briefly Describe your last sexual encounter:
woke up my husband with a bj.
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Married
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almost 40, female
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I'd like to hear what others say, but here's my 2 cents: We've only done this a few times, so I am by no means an expert. On the pain issue, we have only ever done it when I am really super turned on and I really want to. I am able to just relax. We use a ton of lube, and I have never had any pain, really. Now, afterwards is a different story (see above, start of thread), and I do have a little paid and have to sort of recover after each time. On the cleanliness issue, I'm really interested in what others say--I am sort of a clean freak, so it's very important to me. I am somewhat paranoid about any fecal matter making an appearance during sex. So, basically, every time we've done it I have to plan ahead--I try to make sure I've had a BM, and I also use an anal douche an hour or two before I think we're going to get started. I know a lot of people don't think this is necessary, but it makes me more comfortable.
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Ok, ok. I'll give it a go.
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I'd like to try this one, but I think I'm a little too self conscious to really relax for it. I'd be all scrunched up, which is not a flattering view of my very less than perfect belly.
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Yes, I have read the Holy Grail article, and it is indeed a quest isn't it? I will keep on trying. I have been reluctant to enlist hubby's help, because I don't want the sex to become goal oriented or to have pressure to achieve, especially b/c we are enjoying a real renaissance lately. But there are worse things to be working toward!
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Yeah, well the squirting thing is more of a curiosity for me, (perhaps bordering on fascination...) But I still haven't managed a g-spot O, or even found my g-spot. I've only tried on my own, and only with a finger. I need to get a toy for that purpose I think.
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Can a woman learn to squirt, or is it a trait that some just have and some don't--like eye color?
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Those of you who role-play--when you first started, did you feel silly or self-conscious at all? If so, how did you overcome that?
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Funny, funny, LL!!
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Well, not exactly Mother Theresa. I am confident I will get mine some other time! Yes, oral sex any time--thumbs up! Stress, busy, whatever. I'm not turning it down. (Unless I'm mad at him or we're fighting, but in that case, I don't think he's putting his face down there anyway...) Absolutely! I've always thought it would be cool to be a doctor so I could be in some public place and answer to the "is there a doctor in the house?" call. But now you've given me a whole new and far more interesting fantasy--"is there a woman in the house who can give a lifesaving blowjob?!"
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Quality Over Quantity
attyathome replied to Mikayla1's topic in Marriage and Committed Relationships
This is a tough call, but I would choose less often but with more foreplay and/or the whole smorgasbord. For me personally, when we have great sex, I will be turned on and ready to go again the next day. The more we have, the more I want. But DH seems to prefer a break of a day or so in between. So, if we do have sex again the next day, he's a little too tired--or something--to make it the end all and be all. The sex itself, even with orgasm, is just not as satisfying. I am discovering that with some time in between, the sex is more fun. I'd rather wait a day, let him get his ardor back up to peak, and get more satisfying sex out of it. As long as we don't let too many days lapse. -
Ok, good to know. I believe I will go for it some more. No, Sunday--not looking for reciprocation. I get that I shouldn't wake him up basically asking for my own needs to be met, except my need to please him at that moment; just want to give him a nice start to his day. Although you have scared me a little bit--I'm certainly not looking to kill my poor husband with a heart attack. I think I give a good BJ, but not sure if it's really "to die for"
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Ok, quick question here--I've done this to my hubby, once. A good time was had by all. But since then I haven't tried it again, I guess because of a little shyness. What if he's not in the mood? He's not always raring to go first thing in the morning, though he did tell me he liked it when I did it. I think I'm afraid of how turned down I would feel if I'm going straight for the wake up bj, and he's not into it. So, guys--what are the chances that you would not welcome this type of wake up call?
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I agree with you 100%, LL. While perhaps not a cure-all, I think dating is absolutely a necessary component to keeping things vibrant between us. We have been very neglectful of our dating relationship in the past; it's so easy to just forget to call babysitters and get lazy. Then we end up spending every evening in our own zones. So, inspired by posts and messages here on TT, I have resolved to get back to frequent and regular dates. We have sitters booked for every weekend for the next 6 weeks, and I am committed to keeping that up so we can go out once per week unless there's a legit. conflict. (like this weekend when dh's parents are in town. They don't babysit. ) It gives us time to be away from all the administrative details of our lives and simply enjoy each other's company. I also like anticipating going out--planning something nice/fun (doesn't have to be expensive), putting on some sexy underthings, nice clothes, etc. It's refreshing for us.
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Over it too. Working on getting over the next hangup.