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    43 yr old male

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  1. Thanks everyone, I appreciate your support. Going through tough times right now. The hardest I've ever had in my life. I'm still trying to feel for what she wants to get out of this. Sometimes I fell like it's her way of facing her midlife crisis. But I'm going through it too and I have no one to be there for me. She begs me to stay everytime I say it's time to go separate ways. I want to start being happy again but at the same time, I find it very hard to walk away from 24 years of friendship. I am to say the least confused. It is very open ended now, I have already talked to her parents and told them that we might part. They we're devastated. They were worried and hurt for me more than her. It felt nice but that's all it was, feeling nice at the moment.
  2. Thanks square. This forum reaaly helped me get through this. It's something I couldn't talk to my best friend anymore (my wife) and to be honest, I have forsaken everything for her. That is the main source of my pain. I'll give her a little time to sort her feelings. Maybe she's still in love with me. Who knows. If you want an idea how I feel right now. Go to YouTube and listen to the song by Daine Birch title "Nothing but a miracle". Listen to it with your hearts and you'll understand how I feel right now.I heard it this morning and related to the message, on the dot. I am just so sad! Hopeless and desperate. I've lost the love of my life to anouther man. Thank you all again.
  3. I guess you were all correct. I got to the bottom of things tonight and the only pun I can come up with is "Why did I have to marry a beautiful and attractive woman. You folks were right, it seems to be very painfully over. Yes I did lose her. She admitted having feelings for the bastard and wanting to have sex with him to seal the deal. I feel like I'm done with life. I've lost my purpose. I;m trying to sort the anger and remorse. I can't seem to tell them apart rigth now. I would like to thank everyone for the reality check and support.
  4. Thank you again, I will take time think really think about it before doing anything. The reason that I am really hurt and ready to give up is because he/they have managed to wipe away all those years of love, companionship and friendship in our marriage. I have always believed that these are very important factors in a relationship. Love, the emotional aspect. Sex, the physical and fun aspect Friendship, you are each others best friend. Someone you can share eveything with. Companionship, the need and the desire to want to be together all the time. The reason we see old people, all wrinkled and crumpled up still holding hands as they walk through the park. It's looking like there is nothing left with the way I'm beginning to see events unfold. There seems to be an "affair of the heart" that has been going on. Disguised as their fondness and concern for each other. With that, I feel like her love flew out the window. The friendship they developed involved my wife developing a trust in another man that made her very comfortable with him. I feel like I lost my status as her best friend. They have been sharing intimate details of their lives with each other, I've had a tired wreck coming home at night for the past 10 to 12 months who crashes as soon as her back hits the bed. Sure she was honest with the sexual curiosity but the fact that she had implied her comfort and trust in him, to me means that I may no longer be her best friend. (as she stated , "I can't just sleep with anyone, I have to know them and trust them".) The companionship aspect is what bothers me the most. There has been virtually none for the past 10 to 12 months except for that time that we got to talk about the good times and she expressed her being "ready to have sex with someone else". I felt so good when we started having a conversation at first thinking that things were probably going back to what I consider normal, just imagine the size of the anvil that fell on my head and landed on my chest that night when she said that. They have been spending all the quality time together. She has been staying after training and talking which she describes as "wind down" after the training. Why couldn't she wind down with me and share training experience WITH ME??! I'm also interested in what's been going on and what she has been going through! Why the need to spend an extra hour at the least, sometimes 2 hours until 10 or 11 PM with this guy at the gym or at the parking lot? At the cost of being with me! That is why thinking back, it's looking like the SEX was to seal the deal! She wouldn't consciously betray me but I feel that she let things progress unconsciuosly and ended up fantasy of running off with this guy and doing things together since they have a lot in common. I'm not stupid, I know that people usually hold back on giving signs of leaving a relationship until the next one is ready to sail right? That way, there is no chance of ending up in the streets until the next foundations are at least solid enough to stand on. It may be her going through midlife crisis. She seems to have become extremely selfish. I dont know anymore. If you were in my situation, wouldn't you think that there is nothing left to fight for? I apologize for having such a topic posted on this board. I know that this is suppose to be a fun place to talk about sex. I found the people here very mature and intelligent and that was why I joined the forum in the first place. I used to be fun too. I just thought I'd use you all as a sounding board. My means of venting my frustration since I feel like I lost my best friend, the only person I could have talked this through with. I do miss her.
  5. Thanks for the input everyone. They have helped me a lot in examining the situation and looking at all that has happened retrospectively. To answer one of the questions posted (would I have let her do it 4 years ago), yes I would have in a heartbeat. So it led me to think about how things were and realized that some things have changed this past year. I gave her my full support when she decided to start seriously working out. (Mind you she looked great then and even better now) She has a body that can put most 20 year olds to shame. Part of that support was to overlook the fact that the training took a substantial amount of time from us. Before, when she was done with work, she would come home and enthusiastically prepare dinner so that we, including our daughter could eat together and it served as our connecting time. (It has always been like that ever since we got married). Nowadays, even if I served dinner, she would come home, rush to change clothes and leave to go and train. She says she can't eat before going to training and so she has been eating lightly 3 hours before coming home. When she started training, she used to let me know when she got home and I'd sit with her at the table as she eats her real dinner. Lately she would come home, go straight to the kitchen and eat. I can understand that training is tiring but it's taken away something that I really valued a lot. So technically we don't spend time anymore. She's too tired to even talk afterwards. She jumps into the shower for 20 minutes, and just crashes when her back hits the bed. So who do you think has been getting the quality time from her when she's fully awake, enthisiastic and not rushing. Her trainer of course. I guess it would have been fine but there were even times when she would stay longer at the gym and they would talk, not just about the training but other things like his plans to open his own gym and his family. She would reciprocate by talking about her life and her plans. An extra hour or two with just the 2 of them. After which she would come home, rush eating, jump into the shower and sleep. I've been feeling neglected but had just began to admit it now. I strongly feel she let it happen. Yes, I do believe there is already a bond between them. I am just awed at how I could have let this slip. How this trainer, who I expected to be professional has won my wife's heart without her knowing it. She's a very decent person and I feel he snuck in through the back door of her heart without her consciously knowing it. We've talked, she cried, I told her how I saw this possibly happening and that was when I mentioned he was a threat to our marriage. She brushed it aside then and said our marriage was too strong to be affected by something like this. I know it's usually the women who complain about things like this so please don't make fun of me. I gave up a lot of things in the past when she complained about the time these things took away from us. Now I'm the one that it's being done to. Is it just sex, I'm not quite sure anymore. Someone mentioned in a post that she may be trying to "seal the deal". I do feel now that there is that possibility. We've talked a lot. I don't think things are ever going to be the same between us. The happiness and contentment between us has disappeared. I feel that I am too old to handle these emotional stresses which are basically all new to me after all these years. I still do appreciate all the happiness she has brought to my life but I feel betrayed. Betrayed but not ungrateful. I'm thinking of leaving. I would rather leave the marriage now while we still care about each other because I do cherish the fond memories and would like to be able to cherish them as the best years of my life. I don't think I can love anyone as much as I have loved her and so I have completely negated the idea of trying to find someone new. I'm done with that. Unconditional love hurts. Thanks again everyone and please cherish your significant others. Don't take them for granted even if you have been together for a long time. Never take that joy you bring to each other for granted. Remember the possibility that there is only one person in your lifetime who is meant to give you that.
  6. I don't know if you'll think of me as being wierd or crazy but I've always believed that human being's are naturally born with their physical wants, needs and curiosities. My wife and I got married at a very young age, she was 19 and I was 21. We are now 43 and 45. She looks very young for her age. We've been together for 24 years. I was one of only 2 men in her life. Four years ago, we had a friend who went through a divorce after 15 years of marriage. (also married quite young.) Both people ended up with younger partners and they both admitted that it was sexual curiosities, deception and unfaithfulness that led to the divorce. It made me realized the fact that we've been together for 20 years. My wife has always been faithful, loving, caring and a very supportive as I with her. This made me bring up the topic of regrets, I asked my wife if she regretted marrying so young and not being able to sexually explore with other men. She answered no and said that she is not wired that way and never even thought about that. I said that to me, I don't think that sexual curiosity of one partner should be a reason to throw all those years of loving each other away. I know I've had my good share of "fun" when I was young but I know that she didn't. So I told her, if ever she gets the urge to leave me just because she becomes sexually curious, please be honest and let me know. I know she loves me and vice versa. I do love her so much and cannot imagine my life without her. She responded with "I doubt it and I don't think I'm wired that way." Fast forward to last week. It was a nice evening and we were talking as usual. From out of no where she tells me "Honey, I think I'm ready..." I looked at her quite puzzled. She continued "I'm ready to have sex with someone else out of curiosity" I was caught off guard and asked her what brought this up and with whome? She said it was her training instructor. A 51 year old man who looks 35 and was very well built. I did feel she had some sort of interest in him whenever she would tell me about him. They've known each other for a year. I've always made her aware of the fact that something could develop between them. That if she asks me, he's a threat to our marriage. She always responded with "I don't see him that way and I just want him as a friend." Well apparently, my wife developed a sexual attraction to him and wanted my permission to act on it. She said she won't if I said no. That she's just being honest with me. I told her that I've seen that coming and that happened inspite of all the warnings I gave her. She told me that she loved me very much and that it was only a physical curiosity. Purely sexual. That she loves so much that that she doesn't think it shoud be a reason for us to go separate way after all this time. That she's not the type of person who can sleep with just anyone. She has to know them and trust them. I told her the conditions are very risky, it's not like a one night stand with someone who isn't so close to her. She insisted it was purely sexual and she cried. What do I do? Should I believe her that it's purely a physical attraction? Will our marriage survive. I think I do love her enough to "allow" her to do it. Is it really possible for 2 people to go on loving each other after something like this. I am in no way conservative and do find some sort of erotism in letting her do this but the part of me that loves her is hurting over her rekindled sexual curiosity with this man in particular. Even though she says that there is no way he can take my place in her heart. Do you women think she's being honest about that. I could really and simply just say no but I feel that it may compromise the honesty between us in the future and lead her to cheat on me. Should I let her go ahead and act on it, get it over with and go on with our lives? We are very happy with each other and have always been even through all the tough times. I would really appreciate the females point of view here. Thanks
  7. I'm sorry I thought it was hilarious when I read it.
  8. Dear Tyger and Mikayla, I am happily married to a beautiful woman and we will be celebrating our second anniversary in a few days. This time of the year always reminds me of events that happened one week before our wedding which almost cancelled our plans. Allow me share these events with you. My problems started when I met my then fiancé’s very conservative family, and started getting to know them better. You see, she has a 19 yr old sister who is equally beautiful and even sexier. I started coming around more often and I noticed that her sister would always change into her very short skirts whenever I’m around. I was beginning to think she had the hots for me. There were times when she would join us in the living room as I visited and sat right across from me. I’m only human, I did my best to look away each time she crossed her legs but I could never resist the opportunity to find out whether she was wearing panties that day or not. The week before the wedding, I came to visit with them and when I rang the doorbell, “slutty sister“ answered the door and let me in. She said that everyone was out but that I was welcome to wait inside. As soon as I sat down, she threw herself at me and confessed that she has wanted me since the day we met. She started to pull my clothes off and told me that she was willing to be my last tryst before I marry her older sister. I got up! Shocked at the effect I had on this young vixen. She was pulling me towards her bedroom but I resisted, pulled away and broke free from her grip. Horny, disappointed and angry, she took off her panty and threw it at me while yelling, “This is your last chance! If you want to screw me, I will be waiting in my bedroom naked!” as she stormed off. That did it for me! “After all, who would ever know! Just one last tryst before I tie the knot! Yes! No one would ever know!” I took a step forward but quickly turned around and ran for the door to get to my car. As I opened the door, I was surprised to see the whole family, including grandma and grandpa, standing outside and they all began applauding. Slutty sister came out and joined in the cheering! My fiancé kissed me and gave me a very loving hug as her father said, “Ah! My daughter is truly a very lucky woman! Signed, Lucky Ducky The moral of the story, “ALWAYS KEEP YOUR CONDOMS IN YOUR CAR.”
  9. It is funny how MSWord check makes things look like they were taken from the pages of paperback novel doesn't it
  10. I have one from a long time ago if you want to hear about the all too common fantasy about the wifes best friend becoming a reality. My wife’s best friend Barbara, Barbs as I fondly called her was a virgin at 25 because she grew up in a very restrictive environment. They met in college and ever since they became close, she would often come over on weekends and end up spending the night. They would talk for hours and never ran out of things to talk about. They shared a lot of things in common from books to movies and even food preference. Funny how they say that birds of a feather flock together is so befitting for these two, they were also almost the same height and had and weight too. Though they didn’t have the same facial features but they were equally beautiful in a different way. I usually left them alone and minded my own business on her visits. When I ran out of things to do, I would retreat to our bedroom and fall asleep watching movies. One of the times that Barb was visiting, they had their normal chit chat session and I was already asleep when my wife came back to our bedroom. I was awakened by the closing of the door and was half asleep as I watched her barely visible silhouette pull her nightshirt over her head then joined me in bed naked. She started to squeeze and pull on my dick with a milking motion. When it started growing, she got up to suck it. She started off pumping as she sucked but then released it after a few strokes and took it deeper in her mouth. I heard her make a choking sound. She stopped, got up and said she needed a glass of water. Normally if we were alone in the house she would trot naked to the kitchen but since Barbs was over, she feigned modesty and pulled her sleep shirt back on. The bedroom door opened and closed again a few minutes after she left. She got in bed naked and laid down on her side facing that direction. I figured she must have lost it and didn’t feel like having sex anymore. I’ve always loved sleeping while hugging her with her back against me. Aside from the warmth, my nose would be buried in her neck and the smell of her freshly washed hair always relaxed me like a puppy nudging his mommy’s belly. So half asleep with my dick still rigid and lodged against the crack of her ass, I could tell that there was something different. She smelled different. I mumbled “New shampoo?” to which she just responded with a soft “Uhuh”. I was getting turned on and I began to my rub erection between her ass cheeks. I kissed and licked the back of her neck and felt she tasted different. My chest began to pound. I was wide-awake by now and realized that it was Barbs who was in bed with me. I continued to pretend not to notice the difference and be half asleep. With my arms already wrapped around her, I massaged her breasts and her nipples with one hand and reached down to rub her clit with the other. She must have liked it because she opened her leg to give me better access as she softly moaned and my fingers moved circularly on her clit. I pulled her shoulder towards me, her back flattened on the bed but she kept her face away from me. I let her think that I was still unaware that it was her. My dick knew better though because her ass was already slimy with pre-cum. I climbed on top of her. Normally I kissed my wife when I do so but since I wanted to let Barbs think I didn’t know it was her, I went straight for her breasts, massaged them and sucked on the nipples. I got really horny. I kept thinking about how her pussy would taste so I slithered my way down and licked it. She pulled her legs apart and I just engulfed the whole thing in my mouth. I sucked and pushed my tongue in. Keeping in mind that she was a virgin and wanting to make her first time experience as pleasurable as possible. I licked my finger and slowly loosened her pussy with it. I placed another one in as I continued to circle my tongue on her clit. My fingers scooped more of her own lubrication towards the outer part of pussy and on to her labia. I felt she was ready so I took her leg and slowly guided her to turn over flat on her stomach, still facing away from me. I then slowly entered her from behind. So slow that as my dick made it past the outer opening, I felt a thin ring of tightness at the area right behind the head. The sensation was comparable to feeling a condom rip from the friction inside a pussy and head of the dick is suddenly liberated but the tightness remains behind the head. I remained at that depth for a while before I started gyrating my hips to inch in. She was quiet but sweat began to cover her all over. I slipped my hands over hers and positioned them above her head. Our fingers interlaced, she clenched down on mine. I could feel every inch of her body. My chest on her back, her nice ass resting on my abdomen as my legs held hers in place. I felt a “ give” in her pussy and she let out moan. I could sense some fluid flow out and it started to feel looser. It was easier to glide in and out. I plunged deeper. I could distinctly feel my dick going through an inner area of resistance before hitting her cervix as I slowly plunged all the way in. She involuntary moaned and squirmed. Not knowing if I was hurting her, my heart pounded harder. The anxiety caused my dick to lose its rigidity. It was softer but still stretched out inside her. I thought to myself “Its over, great performance! I must have prematurely ejaculated in this very beautiful woman, my wife’s best friend! The person who she shares her deepest secrets with, and likewise does the same. “ Barbs relaxed. She started to push her ass against me. I responded to her movement by moving against it. Softening while inside her did have its rewards. My dick was so sensitive that I could really appreciate the feeling of being inside a tight pussy. Her movements created a milking motion on my dick that was very similar to how my wife was playing with it earlier. This action revived me, like a second wind and I got hard again. This time, I was going to be selfish. I felt like an animal. I focused on the sensation of my dick pumping into her pussy. I was ready to blow within minutes. She started sweating even more profusely. I pushed in as deep as I could go and came. My dick twitched as it pumped into her. I know she felt that. She moaned really loud as I did and I assumed she came too. Afterwards, I didn’t even have a chance to slide off her back. I just fell asleep content. I woke up to my wife’s kisses, the sun was already out. I realized the sheets had been stripped from the bed. She had a big smile on her face. I told her I knew it was Barbs I had sex with. She laughed and jokingly said “You bastard! You fucked her anyway!” I just happily replied that I figured that they had set it up. I stopped smiling though and said “Hon, I came inside her. I shouldn’t have, but I did. I’m sorry” She just smiled and said not to worry because they spent half an hour counting the days in Barb’s cycle. They were sure she was infertile. In fact, she got her period that morning, accounting for the missing sheets. What a relief! Apparently they were discussing movies and got to talk about the scene in “The Big Chill” where Karen offered her husbands services to Meg the single lawyer who wanted a child. The topic went from that to sexual experience and off to Barb’s virginity. My wife had offered me to Barb. She was scared at first, apprehensive but horny. My wife reassured her that I was a gentle lover. Plus, she was sure I would figure out who it was and be even gentler. Breakfast was awkward that morning. It was so hard to make conversation that didn’t touch on what happened. We were all genuinely happy and smiling but I tried to avoid eye contact with Barbs. I didn’t want her to feel that I would be looking at her in a sexual manner from then on. After all, we’re good friends too! My wife got up to get something from the fridge. Barbs took the opportunity to give me a wink and a big girlish grin as she mouthed “Thank you”. It was only then that I felt nothing has changed. The two of us never discussed that night with each other but I’m sure that she and my wife have had a lot of giggles over it to this day.
  11. I asked her that since it was something new to me too. According to her, it felt like a very deep vaginal orgasm. Similar to the ones she got from moving a soft vibrator in circles around her cervix except that there was no oversensitivity from direct contact. I have no idea what that means
  12. Thanks for the replies ladies I forgot to mention that she is also the only multiorgasmic woman I've ever been with, would that possibly have something to do with it? (My complements to you! Multiorgasmic women are God's gift to mens egos )
  13. I'm curious as to how common it is among women to experience an orgasm from just anal sex (penile penetration) without other means of stimulation. I'm asking because of something that I recently experienced with a close friend. She was curious and asked for my help (yeah, according to her a lot of trust was involved, lucky me!) We prepared according to the advice I found on this site. Showered, plenty of KY and so forth. We started off with vaginal sex until she let me know she was aroused enough. She said that the initial insertion was a little uncomfortable but had a very big orgasm after a few minutes. Not that she has any reason to lie but this is the first time I've seen this.
  14. Hi everyone. I've been searching for a forum like this for a long time. I found the members here very mature and friendly. I felt very comfortable after reading through some of the topics so I decided to join. Thank you!
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