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OK, I was with a guy for 8 years, when we split I had a few other partners, and have NEVER been a moaner. I have had a few guys ask for more noise/ dirty talk and I oblige (not fake moaning just voicing my likes more) well my newest partner is more of a friend with benefits, he is helping me overcome some of my hangups. After having a discussion with him about moaning/noises/dirty talk he brought up that although I don't moan my approval of what he was doing I do make faces!

WTH! I laughed so hard until he said he was serious! I asked my ex, as well as another partner A) did I make faces or is this guy teasing me,and B) why in the heck didn't someone tell me before. :angry: they said they thought it was cute! :blink:

So, my question I guess is how does one go about being less of a facialist and more of a vocalist? Or do are most men able to read faces?

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I think all that really matters is that your enjoying yourself. I mean think about it when your happy you smile, when your sad your frown, when your hurt you grimice. Facial expressions happen, even if your a moaner. Its nothing to be concerned with, if you want to be more vocal then try it, when your enjoying yourself just let one go.

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i know my husband makes faces.. it's so so funny!! it's like he's concentrating, cuz he'll stick his tongue out just a tiny bit. it's so so funny when he cums.. idk if i make faces or anything.. we just enjoy each other's 'company'

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My kids are sometimes gone, sometimes home....... we trend to gets a little more crazy when they are not home B)

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Ok, here are my thoughts:

Facial expressions are GOOD. It is like smiling when you are happy, laughing when something is funny or crying when you are sad. I say, LET THERE BE FACES! Also, I agree that sometimes we start out being all vocal and what not and we start to sensor ourselves. Maybe due to children, maybe due to being told we are 'too loud.' Whatever it is. I am a loud person. I like to talk, talk dirty, laugh, moan, cry, scream - and I do it all whenever I have sex. Granted, if my children are in the next room I do tone it down, but it is still there.

Life is too short to over sensor!

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Life is too short to over sensor!

Totally!! Try to relax and go with whatever!! It's all good as long as you are both enjoying yourself!

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the issue i am finding with some partners though is that they are wanting me to talk, moan or make noise. They ask questions, for me to enjoy myself I have to get out of my head, or I will think of the laundry that needs to be done, if my daughter did her home work, if I had finished a project at work ect. So I either have to aske them to repeat them selves or take a min to comprehend what they said THEN answer. most of the time they get over it, but I dont know what "sexy" things to say, haha sad huh?

okay, some examples of questions that I didn't have "sexy" answers for were "do you like that?"... best I can come up with is "oh yeah"

"are you okay?"

"how do you like that?"

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when my bf and i started having sex i was always a little loud. one time someone was listening through the door of my aptartment (my bf saw him through the peephole when we finished!). i loved the thought of someone else getting off to my moans, and it still makes me horny! however my bf freaked out and said that he was totally embarrassed, so after that i've kept pretty quiet. i dont know if it's because i keep quiet or that our relationship has gotten deeper, but quieter sex is better sex. he can read me so much better when i softly sigh and run my fingers through his hair. he looks at me and knows what i want. does anyone else feel this way?

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when my bf and i started having sex i was always a little loud. one time someone was listening through the door of my aptartment (my bf saw him through the peephole when we finished!). i loved the thought of someone else getting off to my moans, and it still makes me horny! however my bf freaked out and said that he was totally embarrassed, so after that i've kept pretty quiet. i dont know if it's because i keep quiet or that our relationship has gotten deeper, but quieter sex is better sex. he can read me so much better when i softly sigh and run my fingers through his hair. he looks at me and knows what i want. does anyone else feel this way?

yes! same exact thing with us!! crazy. quiet, deep, passionate sex. :D

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ive found that if you have been with a guy for a while, and he wants to please you that the quiet sex is better, they are attuned to you, what makes that quick intake of breath, or makes you arch for more.

with newer partners, they just ask questions...kinda kills the mood.

For me I have to get out of my head, or i will be thinking about everything from how funny my legs look in the air like that, what he must be looking at... to the laundry i didn't do. So for a guy to break my concentration with questions i am brought back to reality and after i answer, the next question that pops in my head is usually "am I doing something wrong? Did he really have to ask THAT?"

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ive found that if you have been with a guy for a while, and he wants to please you that the quiet sex is better, they are attuned to you, what makes that quick intake of breath, or makes you arch for more.

with newer partners, they just ask questions...kinda kills the mood.

For me I have to get out of my head, or i will be thinking about everything from how funny my legs look in the air like that, what he must be looking at... to the laundry i didn't do. So for a guy to break my concentration with questions i am brought back to reality and after i answer, the next question that pops in my head is usually "am I doing something wrong? Did he really have to ask THAT?"

Well just remember, questions means he's trying to do right by you. But I do the in 'my head thing too, i always try to think only about him and almost memorize what he's doing and how he looks. That helps me get out of my head and more in sync with him. Or I focus (and yes it can be hard) on things that I'm feeling, like his tongue or his hand, that one point on contact is all i allow my self to think about and eventually it's all I can feel or think of. if you want him to do something else just show him. :) or move him there, lol

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Moaning is great. Screaming is great. The louder the better in my opinion. It's all about the intensity of the moment. Unfortunately we live in a duplex and our neighbors are practically silent. Kinda awkward.

May be they're silent because they hear you. A big turn on for them! B)

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