Newbie oifsgt Posted July 8, 2006 Newbie Report Share Posted July 8, 2006 Hello All, Something is telling me that this has been asked amillion times, so here goes a million and one. My wife and I are looking for new toys for the room. To give brief histroy, I am 7 inches long and 4 inch around. My wife enjoys when I go deep inside her. I need honest advice from a woman. Some times I don't feel like I get a honest answer. Am I big enough, or does she need a toy bigger than me. Also some of the toys scare her, she thinks they look like torture devices. How can I calm her down some more. Please help! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members me4now Posted July 8, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 8, 2006 hi im new to the forum and buying toys i found out that from here in tootimid was that vibrators were really good i startrd off little and now im working my way up.my husband and i went to stores to see what was out there and we started with stimulators (bullets) if she enjoys you already she might just need a little stimulating thats my opinion so stay here in too timid and i promise you the advice you get is well worth it also check out the area that says shopping at the top with her.i hope this help a little keep in touch Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie oifsgt Posted July 8, 2006 Author Newbie Report Share Posted July 8, 2006 Thanks howard for you input, I gues what i needed is for someone to tell me straight. Alot of the things you have said, we have done, or do. Being that my wife and I are both young, and sheltered, we are still learning. I strive to please my spouse. Being that I am deployed it hard for us to try these things now. I'm sorry for coming off as insecure, and hope that I did not affend anyone.Want2Know I also thank you for you advice as well. I will mention what you said to her.As I said earlier I am deployed, is the picking of a toy something that would be easier when I get home? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nosleepnmesa Posted July 8, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 8, 2006 Welcome oifsgt!! As far as your question is concearned it is easier to pick out a toy when you get home? That all depends on the communication between you and your wife. Does she want it, when you a deployed and away from her, along with enhancing your play time togeather? Communication is the rule, I believe for any and all toys. Since Tootimid is online it does make it alot easier to look, and order no matter where you are. The reviews here are great and there is also alot of members to help out. I believe this is something that needs to be discussed between you and your wife as to when the best time to get it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members whiskeywoman Posted July 9, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 If I may add my 2 cents?Perhaps you and your wife should make a date online, if you both have some sort of an instant messanger, you could both meet at a set time and day and use the messanger to talk and discuss the toys your looking at.You said she thinks some of them look like tourture devices?Well, thats actually pretty accurate, they torture you with pleasure.Perhaps she would be happier for now with something a bit less intimidating than a dual action?Perhaps a bullet, or a simple slimline vibe would work better?speak with her, have her come here and go window shopping, have her read the reviews.If she has any questions, tell her to feel free to ask questions.I think it is awsome that even though you are deployed, you and your wife are able to agree to on toys and their use while you are away and at home.its a good thing to that you are part of the desicion makeing, its very important for both of you to agree on the toys that will be used in your bed.god bless Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members hrnychick Posted July 10, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 Well you wanted a womens point of view and among the others here is mine......YES you are big enough so dont worry about that at all.....now as for buying some toys......I suggest that you and her check out the toys for sale on this site.....and also the reviews.....adding toys should be fun and it shouldnt scare her.....but i know what she feels like i didnt know squat when i was looking to add some toys......so just have her or you or both check out whats for sale here and if you find something of interest check out and see if there is a review on it and go from there......since there are a lot of toys out there you have to have some idea what you are looking for......and in order not to scare her or turn her off from toys all together i say start of small or basic and work your way up.....have fun and keep posing!!!!!Hrnychick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members hrnychick Posted July 10, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 Well you wanted a womens point of view and among the others here is mine......YES you are big enough so dont worry about that at all.....now as for buying some toys......I suggest that you and her check out the toys for sale on this site.....and also the reviews.....adding toys should be fun and it shouldnt scare her.....but i know what she feels like i didnt know squat when i was looking to add some toys......so just have her or you or both check out whats for sale here and if you find something of interest check out and see if there is a review on it and go from there......since there are a lot of toys out there you have to have some idea what you are looking for......and in order not to scare her or turn her off from toys all together i say start of small or basic and work your way up.....have fun and keep posting!!!!!Hrnychick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newbie Maxiega Posted July 10, 2006 Newbie Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 One more thought from a military wife. OIFSGT relax. You are trying to work on things that should be done in person. It's great that you are doing your research now but it's hard to have these kinds of conversations on a chat or public phone especially while you are deployed. I have personally been married to the Army for 19 years and to be honest hubby and I have been a part almost as much as we have been together. Of course you are feeling a little insecure your what seems like a million miles from home and your best friend. Plus after being around the military as long as I have, I can more than understand that insecurity. Keep your lines of communication open. I know when my husband was in Iraq it was one long year. I also know that unless you have a cell phone trying to have a private conversation over there is like trying to take a shower in the middle of a shopping mall. It's pretty tough. The on-line date is a good idea provided you can get to an area where you can have some privacy. Just keep in mind that nothing over there is private. I can tell you of an instance where one of the wives got a little adventerous on line and another soldier was looking over his shoulder. Needless to say it caused problems in the unit which eventually ran down to the families. It got out that she was pretty sleezy. Which wasn't the case, they were young and in love and didn't realize that they had an audience. After that incident there was a lot of changes in our unit as to how the computers could be used. Remember these computers are not private, neither are any conversations coming out of the country. As for toys one or two might help her pass the time until you get back home to her. As someone else suggested, start out with a bullet or one of the small vibe's. Trust me her just hearing your voice and knowing your okay is more stimulation than she needs when you are so far away. You will be home soon and then you can put use all of Howards wonderful advice. I've been reading for awhile here and he is one smart cookie.MaxiegaProud Army Spouse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Scout Posted July 11, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 11, 2006 Hello All, Something is telling me that this has been asked amillion times, so here goes a million and one. My wife and I are looking for new toys for the room. To give brief histroy, I am 7 inches long and 4 inch around. My wife enjoys when I go deep inside her. I need honest advice from a woman. Some times I don't feel like I get a honest answer. Am I big enough, or does she need a toy bigger than me. Also some of the toys scare her, she thinks they look like torture devices. How can I calm her down some more. Please help!From this woman's perspective - you are plenty big enough...not to worry. But trust me, there's so much more to all of this than your size - it's what you do with it, you lips, your eyes, fingers, arms, legs - the fact that you are separated from your wife makes all this much more difficult and when you do get together, I can only imagine that it's "Katie bar the door!"...but when you are together, take time to communicate - look at the websites together, read the toy reviews on this site...start off slow and work up...you are both young and have a life ahead of loving and giving...enjoy the journey - every second of it!If you're wife is wanting a toy to help ease her tensions while you are away - again bring her to this website, have her read the toy reviews - and try whatever appeals to her. She'll be doing it alone at first as you're occupied elsewhere...and in doing this alone, she'll learn more and more about her own body - what feels good to her, what she likes better than others...and when she can bring herself to orgasm time and time again, she'll be able to share that with you when you come home.And from this Texas girl - thank you for doing what you do for our great country...and please, please, keep safe!Scout Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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