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I have been interested in this topic for sometime. I have used anal stimulation for sometime now however it has always been solo. My wife has let me do her in the ass a few times as I have a huge thing for it. She does not like it however. She would always bring up the fact of how would I like it etc, and would occasionally try to stick a finger in my ass, which I wouldn't allow, because at that time I didn't not know how she would feel with the fact that I enjoy it.

I finally built the courage up, and bought a strap on for her, with a few attachments, (one that didn't look like a penis, incase she had the homophobic issue). Finally brought up the idea and gave her the toys and nothing has been mentioned on the topic since. (sad face)

I know I would love it, but it would be really weird the first time that I do know.

As for the homophobic effect from my point, I'm in no way gay or thoughts of, I just enjoy the feeling. Though I know its not a general census on the issue.

That is AWESOME that YOU bought the strap on and would like her to use it on you. I'm not sure why she is hesitating. You will have to bring it out just before the two of you have sex. Tell her you want her to use it on you. Have her start out by using her fingers on you first.

We also have a strap on, although my husband would never let me use it on him. He does not want anything going near his ass, although I do try. I start out slowly and then try to lick his ass and rub my fingers around it. Last night after we got home from our date we put on some porn. He mentioned that he wanted to use our strap on- on ME--He put it on and lubed up my ass. I kneeled down on all fours while he kneeled behind me and slowly slid it in my ass. The strap on is very large in size and it was difficult to insert it in all the way. He fucked me for awhile with it and then took it out and slid his fingers inside my ass while I rubbed my clit. I was SO WET....I came so hard as he thrusted his fingers in and out of my ass. He was so turned on that he almost came in his pants. We moved to the bed where he finally blew hot cum all over me.......Mmmmmmmmmm it was so hot........

Good luck with the strap on !! Don't give up trying ! Eventually she will come around.

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Thanks WendyNY, Sounds like your date night ended in a grand time. I would love the wife to do that for me too, when you say your husband put on the strap on, was he DPing? or just using the strap on?

As for her, I really do hope she comes around, and I won't give up :)

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Thank you Ready. I don't think I'd be totally gay, but I AM curious.........:P;)

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Thanks WendyNY, Sounds like your date night ended in a grand time. I would love the wife to do that for me too, when you say your husband put on the strap on, was he DPing? or just using the strap on?

As for her, I really do hope she comes around, and I won't give up :)

No, he just wore the strap-on by itself. As far as DPing, we have used JUST a small toy in my ass while we are having sex, but he's never worn the strap on and used it it my ass at the same time that we are having sex. As I mentioned , the strap on is very large and I don't think we've given it enough time for me to get truly warmed up as it just won't slide all the way in. Now--when he took it out and then put his fingers in me--OMG......I was so ready that they slid right in.... Anal sex isn't something I enjoy all the time though. We'll have to work on the DPing....I know it's something I enjoy watching in porn.

As far as some of the other comments on here---I don't think anal sex is something I thought of when I was younger either. I know it's not something I ever wanted to perform on my husband. I think it has something to do with being with each other for a long time and getting to be super comfortable with each other. There is nothing that would really gross me out at all anymore.

Yes, DON'T GIVE UP. :rolleyes:

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WendyNY Thanks for the clarification. We have done nothing in terms of DP other then a finger or thumb durning vaginal sex, but she isn't all that comfortable with anal sex yet. Once something larger has been in, smaller things almost seem easy.

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Have any of you ladies ever worn or used a strap-on? You cannot imagine how freakin' hot it feels just wearing it, stroking it, the look and feel of having that thick cock pressed against you but from the oppostite side and YOU get to USE it, watching your guy sensually suck on YOUR cock, lol! Not using it in a cruel or agressive way, just as another aspect of erotic play. Of course the eroticism of it is in direct proportion to the open-mindedness and hot appreciation of your partner, but if you are lucky enough to have one like that OMG!!!!

Now being from the south, it sounds like most guys are a bit squeamish about even exploring ass play, but if they could get over their childish, homophobe fear, they could be in for some pretty hot and amazing O's themselves. But I'm wondering how others think on this subject. Too taboo for you?

Chloe this is absolutely not taboo with me, and I'd love for it to happen exactly as you have so eloquently described!

My wife and I have talked about "her cock" many times in the throes of passion...but that communication doesn't seem to make it out of the bedroom. Sometimes I get the feeling she's just going along with me because she knows it gets me hot.

I've always taken the lead on buying sex toys. I'd love for her to surprise me one night with this...but she frequently tells me she just doesn't think about sex all day like I do. I guess that's an occupational hazard with 3 kids running around all day.

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I completely agree. Thank goodness all my husband has ever asked is for my ass. I gave it up after a couple years of his "whining" and I DON'T like it at all. I gave him another chance at it and I cried afterwards. Its too invasive to me. I also don't like the lack of cleanliness. Its gross and embarassing.

I can enjoy it, but only for so long, then it gets old. And why id it, men, help me out here, that you cum almost instantly in the va-jay (okay quickly any way) and you take forever in the back door?!

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I can enjoy it, but only for so long, then it gets old. And why id it, men, help me out here, that you cum almost instantly in the va-jay (okay quickly any way) and you take forever in the back door?!

I find I don't last long at all, I guess I'm always too turned on, sometimes its a long wait to get there and its over too fast :(

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So for all that are involved in pegging/role reversal, is cross dressing part of this, and if so how far do you take it?

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I personally am a straight male that loves when my gf uses a strapon on me, and originally i was totally opposed to it. In fact, i never would have even given it a shot, if we hadnt done anal on her before hand. It was one of those things where she was constantly saying "Why dont you let me do it on you?" or would mock do it to me if i brought up anal on her, and i would freak out. It was a very homophobic thing. In no way do i feel disrespectful of gays, but i was just afraid of the thought of being thoguht as gay (sometimes still feel that way). What finally got me, is i wanted to try rimming on her, but she was opposed to it, so i offered to try the strapon if i could rim her. Finally she agreed and we bought one, and ill admit, the anticipation made it verrrry erotic. Then when she finally used it on me, it was different. I didnt particularly love it, but it was interesting. Since then i have been trying new things back there and finding it is very fun. What best worked for me was reading about other people doing it, and the experiences they had. I got so jealous of some of the orgasms that i had to have one myself (and i did, one day she wa susing the strapon on me, i was on m back, she was just moving the dildo with her hand because she wasnt feeling too horny, but wanted to use it on me, and when i told her to stop cause i was close, she thought it wouldnt get me off if she kept rubbing, but it rubbed right against my prostate and i came everywhere!

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So for all that are involved in pegging/role reversal, is cross dressing part of this, and if so how far do you take it?

No, role reversal isn't a factor in it at all.

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I think the idea of getting pegged is insanely hot. Really, be comfortable enough with yourself and your own sexuality to try it at least once. A prostate involved orgasm is something you'll never forget.

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Here's my .02. I think most men in some way have thought about this subject more than once and have wondered what it would be like, me included, and until recently I was very homophobic and my butt was a one way street - it was the assaulted manhood thing. I'm not sure what sparked my decision to actually do it but I bought a toy and couldn't wait to get home and use it. Previously, I'd occasionally use a finger while I masturbated, but it was NOTHING compared to using the toy. The feeling of having it inside me was nothing short of amazing as were the orgasms i had while using it. Soon after that, I told a friend of mine, who happens to be bi and he about fell over (knowing how homophobic I WAS). We talked, had a few drinks and one thing led to another...just amazing. I'm not gay - I love snatch but now I think I kind of like the "bi side*. I have no issues with my sexuality and this doesn't make me feel "gay". Soon we'll be getting together again for a night with his S/O to see what happens. Personally, I love it and can't believe I missed out on this all these years.

Rambling from a newbie.

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It aint happening to me! I'm apparently genetically "tender" back there. I remember my dad having hemoroid surgery when he was in his 40s, my grandmother had it, I just last year I had $4500 worth of hemoroid surgery. I've never abused my butt, it's just naturally fragile.

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LOL......Too funny...... !! You probably scared the HELL out of him !

As far as if I've ever used my strap-on on my husband---NO. Not because I wouldn't want to try it--I definitely would. I have brought it up before. He wants NOTHING going in there. I do consistently try. I start out ever so slowly and gently carressing his thighs, under his balls up and down his cock. Then I slowly make my way to the back, slowly circling around his ass with my fingers gently and then poking my finger between his cheeks into his ass---He clamps down so hard !!! One of these days it will happen !!

I do agree that there is quite a bit of stigma about that with men. I think that some men are very afraid they would be considered gay if they actually admitted that they enjoyed it (or might enjoy it )

And yes Chloe---it is a very powerful feeling wearing that strap on with a huge massive cock between your legs !! LOL :rolleyes:

It would be quite sneaky of you but you could try getting him tipsy or downright drunk and then try a finger in his ass.

I told my last gf of my predication for anal sex and once while we were in a hot 69 she wormed a finger in my ass. I WAS IN HEAVEN for the next 5 or 10 minutes!!! I'm not sure how long she did that too me as she was driving me so frickin wild I had no sense of time. I was COMPLETELY WRECKED afterwards...was no good to here for anything sexual after. Funny thing is she has tiny hands and smaller fingers. It was right up there with the best 5 times of sex in my life.

I've yet to find a new gf who will wield the strapon for me...it is all I want when I come across my next possible gf.

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Here's my .02. I think most men in some way have thought about this subject more than once and have wondered what it would be like, me included, and until recently I was very homophobic and my butt was a one way street - it was the assaulted manhood thing. I'm not sure what sparked my decision to actually do it but I bought a toy and couldn't wait to get home and use it. Previously, I'd occasionally use a finger while I masturbated, but it was NOTHING compared to using the toy. The feeling of having it inside me was nothing short of amazing as were the orgasms i had while using it. Soon after that, I told a friend of mine, who happens to be bi and he about fell over (knowing how homophobic I WAS). We talked, had a few drinks and one thing led to another...just amazing. I'm not gay - Personally, I love it and can't believe I missed out on this all these years.

Rambling from a newbie.

I had similar views as Alickertwat but initially had a different reason for wanting to try anal sex as the bottom. It took me several years to get to the point where I am now and I must say an Enlightening Road it was!!

I'm proud of you Bro. I am nearly 60 and while I never thought of myself as Gay after enjoying solo anal sex first and anal sex with a lover just 2 times since I'm with you Bro I want MORE MORE MORE!!!!! I read somewhere a long ass time ago there are half a million nerve endings in ones anal love canal. I know I've found most if not all of them!!

Oh and feel free to RAMBLE AWAY BRO!!!

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I think the idea of getting pegged is insanely hot. Really, be comfortable enough with yourself and your own sexuality to try it at least once. A prostate involved orgasm is something you'll never forget.

I will NEVER FORGET my first Prostate enabled orgasm!!!!! You might want to call them ASSGASMS Bro....that's what I call them. Or PROGASMS?? There's an idea....

My first assgasm lasted a full two minutes and it had absolutely nothing to do with my cock or my balls. One other thing......ladies we men have Kegel muscles back there to!!! And they work!!!

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So for all that are involved in pegging/role reversal, is cross dressing part of this, and if so how far do you take it?

I wouldn't necessarily say Cross Dressing has to be a part of anal sex for men but that it just can be a different kind of fun for some men. I've been with just one CD on 2 occasions a couple years apart. My first time with 'Jackie' was incredibly hot for me and I think she got alot out of it too. I had NEVER French kissed a man before that night but doing so gave me a ragin' boner and after a 5 minute hot as Hell kiss I was ready for.....you guessed it...wild passionate kinky sex!! Unfortunately for the both of us we are both admitted bottoms. I played with his beautiful cock until he told me to stop as he felt he would cum soon and he didn't want to yet. He (Jackie) wanted to suck me so I said you bet and boy howdy Jackie was a magnificent lil cocksucker!! It was the first time for me cummin in anyone's mouth ever and when I came I blurted out loud that I loved her/him!! This was THE BEST BJ IN MY LIFE up to that point in my life!!! Immediately after I regretted I had said I loved her/him but it turned out to be cool for the both of us.

As I said earlier since we were both bottoms neither of us wanted to fuck the other one yet we both wanted/needed to be fucked VERY badly. Talk about conundrums!!

That first time with Jackie was very special for me and made me a real believer in sex with Cross Dressers. That might have alot to do with why I have this insatiable desire to have sex with a Transgendered woman. Sometimes called shemales tho I prefer Ladyboys as it sounds sexier to me and more respectful. While I have no way of knowing whether or not it's true but (in porn movies) I like to think most Trangender women are looking for bottom boys like me to have their way with. I'm here Baby!!! Fuck me like you mean it!!! :D

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I love strap on play. Nice for me because the fabric belt thingie is very soft and nice, I like to humilate my hubby, I like to see how much he is afraid and yet will submit to me, I like to see how naughty he can be, it's just a total turn on for me. For him, he likes it cause it stimulates his prostrate gland and he likes to please me. Not an everyday type of thing but a once in a while fun night thing.

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Have any of you ladies ever worn or used a strap-on? You cannot imagine how freakin' hot it feels just wearing it, stroking it, the look and feel of having that thick cock pressed against you but from the oppostite side and YOU get to USE it, watching your guy sensually suck on YOUR cock, lol! Not using it in a cruel or agressive way, just as another aspect of erotic play. Of course the eroticism of it is in direct proportion to the open-mindedness and hot appreciation of your partner, but if you are lucky enough to have one like that OMG!!!!

Now being from the south, it sounds like most guys are a bit squeamish about even exploring ass play, but if they could get over their childish, homophobe fear, they could be in for some pretty hot and amazing O's themselves. But I'm wondering how others think on this subject. Too taboo for you?

Wow I'd love to experience this at least once! I've fantasized about it for a long time:)

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I don't think many things are taboo. It is more of a matter of personal likes or dislikes. I have a woman friend that would love to peg a man. She has active fantasies about it. We have discussed this on several,occasions. We have never taken the step to perusing her fantasies as I had been in a relationship until a few months ago. I am not adverse to anal play and have engaged in some from time to time. I know many men have strong opinions that are to the negative about this subject. I think it is mostly due to a lack of knowledge and fear of the unknown.

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Yes I think it's hot. I've never fully talked about it but since there's a topic about it I figured I'll share. Over the years I've realized that I'm dominate and I've always wanted to use a strap on, however I know there's a lot of men that's not really into it or the thought alone scares them. I've really open with my sexuality now and this is something I'm just longing to try out. It has been going on in my mind for a very long time now and I really hope when I do end up doing it, it'll match up with my fantasy. Just bending them over, telling them what a bad boy they've been and asking them to repeat some dirty things back to me. ;)

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HOT?

FUCK YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I bought my man an aneros for Valentine's Day, it's still sitting there in the package but......... recently he's asked me to play

with my fingers and seems to really like it. Only took me 6 years lol I'm figuring now that he's open to it we can

take it to what ever level he's comfortable with. I'd ideally like to do the strap on thing on occasion but we'll see.

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I have been trying to get my wife to play with me back there for almost 10 years. She says it's gross when she almost touches me there and thinks its gross when I masturbate with anal stimulation.

I would love to try this with a women to see if it matches up with my fantasy...

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