Members ladylove Posted April 18, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 18, 2012 Many of you get spanked or spank your partner during sex. The thought of getting a spanking, sounds like punishment and erotic at the same time, very confusing. There are time I think yes, lets try and other times the thought is not sure. I keep vacillating back and forth, not sure how to incorporate this or even what sort of pleasure is derived, I don't like pain. So for those of you who do enjoy getting spanked or enjoy spanking your partner enlighten me. Tell me what you get from this. I would like to here from both sides here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted April 18, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 18, 2012 For us it's part of the dominance scenario. She likes to be reminded that I'm in charge, and spanking her little ass when she gets too arrogant puts her in her place. I never hit her hard enough for it to hurt much, just enough to remind her who is boss. She's got a stressful job with a lot of responsibility and she likes having NO responsibility when we're in our roles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members WendyNY Posted April 18, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 18, 2012 LL--- I LOVE spankings !!!I don't like pain at all but there is something about getting spanked that's a turn on for me.My husband likes to spank me on occasion throughout the day too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted April 18, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 18, 2012 I enjoy the occasional spank as well. It is just kind of that reminder that he is in charge. It isn't hard enough to mark or hurt me in any way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 19, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2012 Thanks Everyone.Wendy: Do you feel the same way SS does about being spanked or is it different. Have either of you ever spanked your SO? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mailahn97 Posted April 19, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2012 Actually in thinking I wouldn't really say I have. At least not during actual sex. Occasionally walk past and might smack his ass or something like that. Never really thought about that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members thurisas Posted April 19, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2012 Spankings for us are another part of the tease. Caressing her back, down around her butt, light fingertips moving around, and then a gentle, almost enough to sting slap on the tush immediately followed by a firm but gentle rub on the area spanked.Randy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 19, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2012 Spankings for us are another part of the tease. Caressing her back, down around her butt, light fingertips moving around, and then a gentle, almost enough to sting slap on the tush immediately followed by a firm but gentle rub on the area spanked.Randy.Sunday and Randy,Does it excite you also, to do this to her?; or is it just about establishing dominance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members WendyNY Posted April 19, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2012 Thanks Everyone.Wendy: Do you feel the same way SS does about being spanked or is it different. Have either of you ever spanked your SO?LL--No, for me it does not have to do with dominance at all. I just enjoy how it feels-- the sting of it.Sometimes he will tease me and hold out his hand--I know the spanking is coming.It's exciting because I'm anticipating it but I don't known exaclty when he's going to do it.I also spank him (and he has the NICEST ass too !!! LOL ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Cacky Posted April 19, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2012 Been thinking on this for a few days. Sorry if I ramble on. The few times hubby and I have been naked together these past couple of years he has enjoyed it very rough. Only wants to be forceful and hurt me. (anal with no lube) Also he seems only able to touch me if he has been drinking. He started spanking me and I bolted off the bed, floor, couch, where ever we are at the time. And I told him if he want to hit me he needs to be nice about it. He not know how to be nice during sex these days. Ok this is April and we have had sex 4 times so far this year. Would love to go back 20 years when it was so nice. Very vanilla. But nice. He watches BDSM porn and wants to do what he sees. Sorry I am not that girl. Ok so... I would like to be tied up and spanked and ENJOYED. I think it could be very erotic and LOVING. Not sure if I can get hubby back from the brink of his porn girls. Because those porn girls are crazy in my book. Sorry for the ramble that is my sex life or lack there of. I do enjoy my toys though. But as I have said before I crave the physical touch of my hubby. Because I do love him just not this new side. Although maybe its not new. Made me think on that statement. He has had several affairs. ..... different thread, another day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members WendyNY Posted April 19, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2012 Fly---your post makes me sad. That's not just playful spanking----that's abuse. It sounds like he's abusive physically, mentally and emotionally with you.You can't make excuses for him anymore. You don't deserve to be treated like that.Please post about it (on another thread if you want---)You need to talk about this.We are all here for you and I'm sure there are others who have been through this and will have more input for you.Please tell us about it........... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 19, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2012 FlyMe, I hope you find your happiness. I really don't know what else to say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted April 19, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2012 Sunday and Randy,Does it excite you also, to do this to her?; or is it just about establishing dominance.I wouldn't say the act of spanking her exictes me. It's just playing the role of being in charge. I like the whole role - all the aspects of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members thurisas Posted April 20, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 20, 2012 For me it isn't a dominance thing, it is a playful thing. I never do it hard enough to hurt, just enough to surprise. It is appealing to me in the same way a nibble or gentle pinch is.Randy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Members ReadyToMoveOn Posted April 21, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 21, 2012 Been thinking on this for a few days. Sorry if I ramble on.The few times hubby and I have been naked together these past couple of years he has enjoyed it very rough. Only wants to be forceful and hurt me. (anal with no lube) Also he seems only able to touch me if he has been drinking. He started spanking me and I bolted off the bed, floor, couch, where ever we are at the time. And I told him if he want to hit me he needs to be nice about it. He not know how to be nice during sex these days. Ok this is April and we have had sex 4 times so far this year. Would love to go back 20 years when it was so nice. Very vanilla. But nice. He watches BDSM porn and wants to do what he sees. Sorry I am not that girl.Ok so... I would like to be tied up and spanked and ENJOYED. I think it could be very erotic and LOVING. Not sure if I can get hubby back from the brink of his porn girls. Because those porn girls are crazy in my book. Sorry for the ramble that is my sex life or lack there of. I do enjoy my toys though. But as I have said before I crave the physical touch of my hubby. Because I do love him just not this new side. Although maybe its not new. Made me think on that statement. He has had several affairs. ..... different thread, another dayFlyMe...I am sorry to read youre treated in such mannerisms...I hope life becomes better for you, you seem deserving of much better.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 26, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2012 So is it more exciting/stimulating to be spanked before sex as fore play or during sex? Love to hear from both sides. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members booboo130 Posted April 26, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2012 Many of you get spanked or spank your partner during sex. The thought of getting a spanking, sounds like punishment and erotic at the same time, very confusing. There are time I think yes, lets try and other times the thought is not sure. I keep vacillating back and forth, not sure how to incorporate this or even what sort of pleasure is derived, I don't like pain.So for those of you who do enjoy getting spanked or enjoy spanking your partner enlighten me. Tell me what you get from this. I would like to here from both sides here.My wife enjoys being spanked and likes to be dominated. She likes to be tied up and enjoys the feelings of the ropes on her wrists and legs. However, before I tried to really spank her I read up on how to do it. There is a difference between erotic spanking and corporeal punishment spanking.She does like it when I use a paddle on her or just my hand. There is nothing quite like when I am spanking her and she sucks in her breath after the smack and then I watch her cheeks turn red. Or when she is giving me head while I use a flogger on her bottom, makes her suck even harder. It can be a lot of fun.Boo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted April 26, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2012 However, before I tried to really spank her I read up on how to do it. There is a difference between erotic spanking and corporeal punishment spanking.Boo Can you elaborate? I'm not into causing pain and I know she wouldn't like it. But she likes to surrender control to me. Spanking for us is just a way of affirming that I am the boss. I hope I'm doing it right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members booboo130 Posted April 26, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 26, 2012 Can you elaborate? I'm not into causing pain and I know she wouldn't like it. But she likes to surrender control to me. Spanking for us is just a way of affirming that I am the boss. I hope I'm doing it right.Well, I read a book on BDSM stuff that showed me the basics. I am certainly no expert on spanking. If you spank too high you could hit the tail bone or lower back area which can be painful and dangerous. Too low and you hit the backs of the thighs which can hurt. If she is enjoying what you are doing you are fine. If you start using a paddle or flogger I would read up on it and maybe watch some videos. On youtube there are several videos on how to spank/flogg someone.When I spank my wife I usually give her a good smack and then rub her cheeks, wait a few moments and do it again. I don't spank repeatedly over and over as that dulls the pain and allows her to get used to it. I want her to feel every smack. Also, I don't go for extended periods of time; I do a few smacks do something else for a while, a few more smacks, do something else, use the paddle, etc. There are some in the BDSM community (again only what I have read) who really into pain and want marks to be left on them by whoever is using the paddle/flogger/riding crop, etc. I want my wifes cheeks to be red but no bruising. She likes the pain but I dont want her bruised and battered from it.Boo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted April 27, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted April 27, 2012 Well, I read a book on BDSM stuff that showed me the basics. I am certainly no expert on spanking. If you spank too high you could hit the tail bone or lower back area which can be painful and dangerous. Too low and you hit the backs of the thighs which can hurt. If she is enjoying what you are doing you are fine. If you start using a paddle or flogger I would read up on it and maybe watch some videos. On youtube there are several videos on how to spank/flogg someone.When I spank my wife I usually give her a good smack and then rub her cheeks, wait a few moments and do it again. I don't spank repeatedly over and over as that dulls the pain and allows her to get used to it. I want her to feel every smack. Also, I don't go for extended periods of time; I do a few smacks do something else for a while, a few more smacks, do something else, use the paddle, etc. There are some in the BDSM community (again only what I have read) who really into pain and want marks to be left on them by whoever is using the paddle/flogger/riding crop, etc. I want my wifes cheeks to be red but no bruising. She likes the pain but I dont want her bruised and battered from it.Boowas this a natural progression for you or did the two of you talk about before hand and decide to give it a go? Was it weird the first time? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members 12GAUGE Posted April 27, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 27, 2012 I don't have a lover but what I like quite often is getting my ass drilled hard and fast while simultaneously getting spanked with Crop. When my cheeks are getting pounded with the crop the erotic sensations go right up into my manpussy and it feels like it is getting wetter inside. That in turn makes the cock action hotter for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members booboo130 Posted April 29, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 was this a natural progression for you or did the two of you talk about before hand and decide to give it a go? Was it weird the first time?Was it a natural progression? I don't really know, LOL. We started with some light spanking and have slowly worked our way up to using a paddle. I made my own flogger out of leather which she says she likes. We talked about it a lot to try to make sure we were both on the same page throughout. It is still weird for me as I am not a very dominating person in the bedroom; on the job is different as I have to be dominating at times. I am trying to be more dominating because she wants that but that does not make it any easier.Boo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunday Posted May 29, 2012 Members Report Share Posted May 29, 2012 We encountered a spanking situation this weekend.FWB arrived at my place wearing a skirt and top. We keep joking about her not being allowed to wear underthings at my house. We hugged and I ran my hand over her butt and sensed - panties! Ach! I slid my hand down her leg and back up under the skirt and sure enough there they were."Mary Sue Smith, how many times have I told you about wearing panties over here?" and I pulled them down over her butt and gave her half a dozen good smacks on the ass. "And I'll just bet you're wearing a bra too. Pull your top up. Let's see those titties."She was laughing and gigling so hard that I couldn't keep a straight face and my stern disciplinarian role was busted. But she liked being smacked on the ass.We have so much fun. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ladylove Posted May 30, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted May 30, 2012 Sunday, very sexy.BooBoo, I read a person who is dominant in life likes to give up control in the bedroom. Sooner or later you may end up lovin' the dominant role. Keep us posted.I'll also say most women I know like the man to dominate. It makes them feel feminine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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