Guest Michelle Posted February 12, 2005 Report Share Posted February 12, 2005 my husband has been asking for the past couple of months to perform anal sex on me. I am very uncomfortable with it. He says that my anus is very small. We've beem married for 9 years and just recently this has been an interest to him. We enjoy sex very much and I want to please my man. Everytime he tries to insert his penis into my anus it hurts. We have not used any lubricants, which I'm planning to buy soon, so after he inserts only a little bit, I cannot take it and ask him to stop. Then I'll be hurting for the 4-5 days. Any advice on how I can please my man. I would also like to know what I could do to make him enjoy anal sex as well. I've heard of anal beads and plugs. Any suggestions. Please advise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jen Posted February 13, 2005 Members Report Share Posted February 13, 2005 This is a section from my article "Anal Retention""The number one key to anal sex is to be relaxed and comfortable—literally. The anal muscles spasm when something foreign is placed inside the anus. The only way to avoid this is to relax. A good introduction to anal play is using a finger. Rubbing and stimulating the anal area with your finger will help you and your body relax. Gradually insert the finger in your anus, nothing to quick or jarring. The anus does not create lubrication like the vagina so it is extremely important to use lots of lubrication during any anal play. Keep in mind, oil-based lubricants can break down a latex condom, diminishing its effectiveness. Once you feel at ease using a finger you may want to try using a slender vibrator or dildo."To read more about having anal sex:Anal RetentionI hope this helps.Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest jay Posted February 13, 2005 Report Share Posted February 13, 2005 try a water based lube and use a condom this will create less friction,and once you've relaxed and gotten comfortable with the size your husband can remove the condom and enjoy the feeling Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest celtic beauty Posted February 15, 2005 Report Share Posted February 15, 2005 my and my husband have been doing that for a few months now and at first i did not want to but i did and i enjoy it. i find if he lets you be in control of his going in it hurts less because you know when to stop but yes make sure it is very lubed up there or it will hurt and try to relax ok hun Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest_haywood_* Posted February 17, 2005 Report Share Posted February 17, 2005 try getting a few JD shots in you first!Booze is the great relaxor!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jen Posted February 20, 2005 Members Report Share Posted February 20, 2005 Funny that you say that. Years ago I had a friend who was having a very tough time having sex. Literally, sexual intercourse was difficult for her. She went to her doctor and was told that she needed to relax. "But how?" she wondered. The doctor said, "you need the 3 Bs--Backrub, Barry (as in Manilow), and Booze."One more thing, too many shots and there's gonna be a whole lot of nothin' going on.Good luck.Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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