Newbie LeiLei Posted July 24, 2006 Newbie Report Share Posted July 24, 2006 I'm 24 and I've been with a guy for 5 years in a great relationship. and we have great sex. but the only problem is i've never had an orgasms. i feel like i am on the "verge" but its like i stop it.. i don't know.. it's weird. i enjoy having sex with my boyfriend, but i feel embarassed if i "get off". but i want to have an orgasm. but i don't know how.. i'm now gonna buy myself a vibrator (any suggestions) to see if that helps. i feel like i'm letting him down by not getting off.. I get to the point where i feel like i'm about to pee on myself, and it's like i try to stop it. When i feel like i'm "there" my boyfriend is done. He says he tries to hold off for me as long as he can, but he always cums and orgasm and i never do.. Please someone help me to get over this hurdle so i can experience what everyone is talking about.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nosleepnmesa Posted July 24, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 24, 2006 Welcome LeiLei!!! Well you really need to kinda go with the flow, in a sense. Relax, breath, let is happen dont stop it. There are alot of toys out there. Are you looking for a vibe that also has clitoral stimulation or? The best way to have that O is to relax, breath threw it, not to be afraid, and breath threw it. Keep posting and let us know! We love updates Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mikayla1 Posted July 24, 2006 Members Report Share Posted July 24, 2006 OK, I am hearing 3 problems:1) you have never orgasmed - as you are embarrassed to2) When you get close enough to, you have the "pee" sensation, and that stops you from continuing3) When you actually are close, your bf is finished, and you are left high and drySo, let us begin at the top - there is NOTHING to be embarrassed about! ORgasms happen, they are natural, fun and boy will you love them. Let yourself go, it is OK! You will be wishing you had earlier. There is no funny face that you can make that your bf will think is too odd - he is having sex - he could care less! Just relax, breathe, and go for it.Second, the pee sensation is common, especially if he is anywhere near your g-spot. You are NOT going to pee, I promise! If you are worried about it, clear your bladder before sex and you will be sure you are empty - then let it all go!Third, your bf finishes before you - then we have to either make him last longer, or get you orgasming faster. I suggest both. First, use your fingers, toys or whatever to add clitoral stimulation while you are fucking. This will undoubtedly speed up your orgasm. Then, if he is still beating you to the punch, I suggest you make him whack off before sex. This will get his first run out of the way, and his second time will last much longer. You can also try cock rings and other things - but I say to try these first.The important thing to remember is to HAVE FUN! Mikayla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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