Members Kama Posted January 5, 2018 Members Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 Months ago, I had a first dinner date with a young man in his 20’s (I am in my 30’s). We had a decent time with dinner and drinks. I wore a nice red dress with boots during the winter. The next day, he texts me saying, “are you a prude, because you strike me as one?” . I asked him why, and he said it’s bc I wasn’t acting slutty. I told him that you can be in between slutty and prude. He said “yeah.” I decided not to continue for a second date. I didn’t like how someone jumped to such a conclusion, with no evidence. It doesn’t make sense to me to say that a woman is a prude when you barely know her. What would you think or feel if someone asked you that? I am dating a wonderful person now, who never once asked me that. None of guys I have dated over the years have asked that question. Ha, it’s a quirky story. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tootimidcorin Posted January 5, 2018 Members Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 What a funny question! especially to ask someone you are trying to date? That would be such a turn off to me, I mean you gotta get to know me a lil bit babe before you judge! Sounds like he just didn't know how to respond to someone with a little more maturity than the "acting slutty" girls he was used to... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kama Posted January 5, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 1 hour ago, tootimidcorin said: What a funny question! especially to ask someone you are trying to date? That would be such a turn off to me, I mean you gotta get to know me a lil bit babe before you judge! Sounds like he just didn't know how to respond to someone with a little more maturity than the "acting slutty" girls he was used to... I agree. It doesn’t increase sexual attraction, when a man asks a woman that. I understand if you dated me for eight months and sensed some “prudish behavior”, but one date doesn’t tell you much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members square Posted January 5, 2018 Members Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 I think I would be put off by a comment like that, come up with a diplomatic and polite way to say "go F yourself," and then severe contact. To me, that is more than just some immaturity, it is indicative of a dickheaded personality that will always be dickheaded. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kama Posted January 8, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 On 1/5/2018 at 5:44 PM, square said: I think I would be put off by a comment like that, come up with a diplomatic and polite way to say "go F yourself," and then severe contact. To me, that is more than just some immaturity, it is indicative of a dickheaded personality that will always be dickheaded. Thanks. I was put off too, but wasn’t sure if I was being too sensitive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members scubadiv1951 Posted January 8, 2018 Members Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 Time for this guy to grow up! Very weird, behavior on this guys part !Kind of makes ya wonder if he was looking for somebody to actually date and start a relationship with , or was he looking for a one night stand of no holes bard sex. So I wonder what he would have been thinking if you had shown up wearing a slutty low cut dress, and if your had, had your hands down his pants and french kissing him during dinner ? Do you think you would have had that second date ?? Probably a good idea you bagged going out with this immature child the second time, while you still have your self respect. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members H. Housewife Posted January 9, 2018 Members Report Share Posted January 9, 2018 Your date sounds like a total ass! Being a lady not necessarily means being a prude. It's worth the wait to get to know the person and if the guy turns you down that's his loss. You can't give into what every man wants they have to earn it. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Frank82 Posted June 7, 2018 Members Report Share Posted June 7, 2018 You did the right thing if he thinks that from a first date there should not be a second one in my opinion. I think a question like that from one date is rude and different people will have a different opinion on what makes some one a prude. I know I would not have had a second date in similar situation. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tiedupnaked33 Posted June 8, 2018 Members Report Share Posted June 8, 2018 I agree with you 100 %. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyger Posted June 10, 2018 Report Share Posted June 10, 2018 Wow!!! Though now in my mid-40's, this wouldn't surprise me hearing it now. So many people on dating sites are out for a quick hook-up and not much more. Not all of them, but, many expect sex on the first date. It's really sad that the shallowness of this newer generation can affect pretty much everyone. Everyone wants everything quick, right now. Immediate satisfaction. Unfortunately, that goes for dating too. There are nice people on dating sites. It sometimes takes A LOT of weeding in that garden to produce a good flower. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Curious Gent Posted July 3, 2018 Members Report Share Posted July 3, 2018 Agree unfortunately Tyger. Like I told a good friend. Said to her would have to be friends before dating. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members happylady Posted August 15, 2018 Members Report Share Posted August 15, 2018 I think the guy is a douchebag. That is a very inappropriate thing to say to someone. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Leviutah Posted August 17, 2018 Members Report Share Posted August 17, 2018 On 1/5/2018 at 1:27 PM, Kama said: Months ago, I had a first dinner date with a young man in his 20’s (I am in my 30’s). We had a decent time with dinner and drinks. I wore a nice red dress with boots during the winter. The next day, he texts me saying, “are you a prude, because you strike me as one?” . I asked him why, and he said it’s bc I wasn’t acting slutty. I told him that you can be in between slutty and prude. He said “yeah.” I decided not to continue for a second date. I didn’t like how someone jumped to such a conclusion, with no evidence. It doesn’t make sense to me to say that a woman is a prude when you barely know her. What would you think or feel if someone asked you that? I am dating a wonderful person now, who never once asked me that. None of guys I have dated over the years have asked that question. Ha, it’s a quirky story. Say yes, but you definitely don't want to give him a second chance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Britta Posted August 19, 2018 Members Report Share Posted August 19, 2018 On 1/5/2018 at 2:27 PM, Kama said: Months ago, I had a first dinner date with a young man in his 20’s (I am in my 30’s). We had a decent time with dinner and drinks. I wore a nice red dress with boots during the winter. The next day, he texts me saying, “are you a prude, because you strike me as one?” . I asked him why, and he said it’s bc I wasn’t acting slutty. I told him that you can be in between slutty and prude. He said “yeah.” I decided not to continue for a second date. I didn’t like how someone jumped to such a conclusion, with no evidence. It doesn’t make sense to me to say that a woman is a prude when you barely know her. What would you think or feel if someone asked you that? I am dating a wonderful person now, who never once asked me that. None of guys I have dated over the years have asked that question. Ha, it’s a quirky story. I wouldn't have even texted him back. That number would be blocked. Sounds like he expected something in return for dinner and drinks. Good Riddance, I say. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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